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    'Am I ugly?': The 'disturbing' teen YouTube trend

    As if growing up weren't hard enough already, kids are now posting their insecure inquiries online, prompting a stream of "vicious remarks" from "internet trolls"

    Going through adolescence has never been easy, and in recent years, the internet has exposed tweens and teens to myriad new ways to fuel their insecurities. The latest trend: A growing number of youngsters, mostly girls, are posting YouTube videos asking commenters, "Am I ugly?" What's behind these "disturbing" videos? (See a sample clip below.) Here, a brief guide:

    How common is this?
    On YouTube, says Amy Graff at the San Francisco Chronicle, "if you type 'Am I ugly?' or 'Am I pretty'" into the search box, "dozens of videos pop up, including one of an 11-year-old girl who poses for the camera, twirling her shoulders, smiling big, and pulling her long hair out of a pony tail." Then she asks, "Do you guys think I'm pretty?" One such video, uploaded in December 2010 by a girl who says people tell her she's ugly, has been viewed 3.4 million times.

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    What do commenters say?
    Some people are kind, posting words of encouragement, such as, "you're super pretty" or "you're not ugly, society is." But others "fall into extremes," says Daisy Dumas at Britain's Daily Mail, "either over-the-top compliments, suggesting sex, or reflecting a level of animosity that is stunningly harsh." One commenter told a young girl, "your forehead scares me," while other comments are even more cruel, or racist.

    Who's to blame?
    Many people are worried about the girls, and angry at YouTube commenters. "A 12-year-old isn't mature enough to deal with vicious remarks made by their mean-spirited peers and sick-minded internet trolls," says Graff at the San Francisco Chronicle. The "cavalier meanness" of some of the remarks are "heartbreaking." "Leave it to anonymous internet commenters to make middle-schoolers feel worse about themselves than they already do," says Katie J.M. Baker at Jezebel. "How do we get YouTube to make this illegal?" Don't pin this on YouTube, says the Houston Chronicle's MomHouston blog. This is the result of a widespread "parenting fail."

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    SourcesDaily Mail, Houston Chronicle, Jezebel, SF Chronicle

    Watch one of the controversial videos for yourself:

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    • Insomniak79  •  3 mths ago
      They're suggesting Youtube should make this illegal? What ever happened to parental responsibility?
      • Anonymous 3 mths ago
        baby boomers happened.
      • Pennywise 3 mths ago
        SO do you blame the, innocent, naive child for having crummy parents?
      • Slacker5 3 mths ago
        Accountability left town a long time ago. Parents are no longer parents anymore. They are just bad babysitters.

        @Penny So do you automatically assume the child is innocent and naive, and shouldn't be held responsible for her own actions, simply because of her parents? Your mindset is just adding to the issue of lack of responsibility that is prevalent in our society.

        If a baby knows that crying will get the attention of its caretakers, what would prevent an 11 year old from making a video and getting the attention of a few million people?
    • Jonathan  •  3 mths ago
      a 11-year-old girl shouldn't be posting videos anyway
      • Chris 3 mths ago
        That one dislike you got, is probably from an 11 year old girl.
      • Dscwe 3 mths ago
        11 year old girls shouldnt be posting videos(with clothes on) dam you i need some money)
      • Jonathan 2 mths ago
        @Chris, that's what I was thinking when I saw it XD
    • 'care  •  3 mths ago
      Again. Parents...you are to blame for what a 12 year old does. I suppose you GAVE them a laptop and just ignore what goes on?
    • John  •  Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania  •  3 mths ago
      My dad told me about bullying, he said you can either feel sorry for yourself, or grow a set of b@lls and tell them to go eff themselves. People say stuff about you to hide their shortcommings and just how insecure they are!
      • Omar Schmidlap 3 mths ago
        Actually, the worst (i.e., best at being) bullies are supersecure with inflated egos and a sense of entitlement for doing the bullying.
      • DonCorleone 3 mths ago
        You have a very wise father
      • Peter 3 mths ago
        your Dad is a wise man. Too bad other mom's and dad's don't give alittle insight into handling that type of situation. Good for your Dad!!!!!
    • craig  •  Pleasanton, California  •  3 mths ago
      i know i am going to get some dislikes, but, we're such a shallow minded society.
      • StephenD 3 mths ago
        cant dislike the truth,looks are far more important to most people in this country,how sucessful would someone like brittney spears be if she weighed 250 pounds and had acne scars?
      • jimmie r 3 mths ago
        Dislikes ?The truth will hurt shallow people that are so in love with themselves.I visited a foreign country saw many people that was looking for next meal how they could feed their family AM I PRETTY is not in the childrens thoughts,the spoiled kids here needs to go live with a foreign kid.I was in airport in L.A. overheard two girls complaining about the color of their I Pod.If only they could walk a day in the sandals of a child in Philippines .
      • Truth Hurts 3 mths ago
        None yet. I had to give you a thumbs up too. :)
    • WackyWally  •  3 mths ago
      Like everything else, where are the parents? Govt regulation CANNOT take the place of good parenting!! I have a 12 year old son and I talk with him every day about what is going on in his life and how to deal with the issues and challenges of growing up in positive and beneficial ways. So many problems could be avoided for these kids if more parents would just wake up and realize that there is no greater responsibility (and honor) than raising and guiding their children.
    • Doug S  •  Annapolis, Maryland  •  3 mths ago
      Not YouTube's fault that teenage girls are acting like idiots. Parents need to keep their kids from doing stupid stuff, cuz that's what kids do!
    • Walter P  •  Los Angeles, California  •  3 mths ago
      This has been going on for years already actually... how is it people are barely catching on now.

      Bad how even Yahoo is using the "TROLL" word.
    • Oops! Try again.  •  3 mths ago
      You can get a facelift, but you can't fix stupid.
    • BlueViolet  •  3 mths ago
      Maybe kids shouldn't be posting any videos on Youtube. I'm not sure it's such a great idea that they hear good things about there looks from possibly dangerous strangers either.
    • Zombie Birdhouse  •  3 mths ago
      ....the "Reality TV" culture in full stride.
    • Tammy  •  Chambersburg, Pennsylvania  •  3 mths ago
      Being a parent of young children, we do NOT allow our daughters to use youtube and certainly not facebook! I don't care what everyone else is doing. I love my girls enough to say no when it could get them hurt in the long run. I am not a cool buddy. I am a parent that wants my girls to respect themselves. Don't blame the computer, blame the irresponsible parents who dont monitor what their 11 year olds are doing!
    • z j  •  Reno, Nevada  •  3 mths ago
      look at the role models kids have on tv or movies
    • Silenus  •  3 mths ago
      This can't end well. Insecure, tween girls posting videos of themselves on the internet. Sounds like bait for pedophiles.
    • The Minx  •  3 mths ago
      They do this on Facebook as well--it's attention-seeking and a quest for validation. A lot of the times the girls are very pretty, and the trolling comments only say they're ugly because they know it's done for attention. Perhaps we should be teaching young girls what NOT to post--like stupid attention-seeking behavior.
    • Levi  •  Copperas Cove, Texas  •  3 mths ago
      A parent can raise a good child in the midst of godless barbarians.....it is ABSOLUTELY the fault of the parent/s....but most are too busy to even acknowledge there children exist.
    • Ssssssh!  •  3 mths ago
      3.4 million people tell a girl she's ugly, and she'd be ready to leap off a bridge onto her face.
    • surelyyoucantbe  •  Houston, Texas  •  3 mths ago
      If you wouldn't let your 12-year-old child walk freely into a neighborhood that you *know* is inhabited by abusive people, perverts, and anonymous freaks, then why would you let them post *anything* viewable by the entire WORLD onto the internet? If anyone (child or adult) decides to expose their feelings to the world, then they risk severe harm. If you would not tell something to a stranger face-to-face, then you shouldn't post it on the internet. Many *adults* don't understand this--how can children be expected to? The adults that buy the equipment these children are using to access the internet should be teaching them the responsibility that goes with using it.
    • Randy  •  Atlanta, Georgia  •  3 mths ago
      If someone posts a video of themselves on the INTERNET, they are asking to be criticized and ridiculed. No, it's not the fault of the trolls for posting these hateful remarks. Trolls exist; deal with it. If you don't want to see what people think about you, DON'T PUT A VIDEO OF YOURSELF ONLINE. If a " 12-year-old isn't mature enough" to handle such criticism, I guess they shouldn't be allowed to post videos on YouTube, (Graff, Baker)! Point the finger at the persons who are at fault (bullies, parents, teachers, the child posting the video), not the Internet. It's called SELF-ESTEEM for a reason, because it starts with the SELF.This article is ridiculous. I grew up playing Xbox Live and surfing the internet. I quickly learned that most people on the Internet are #$%$ just to be #$%$. Now in my 20's, I look back on those times and laugh at how stupid and hilarious those encounters were.The moral of the story: If you don't want to be criticized on the Internet, don't put yourself in a position to be criticized.
    • Carllyn  •  Grand Rapids, Michigan  •  3 mths ago
      I have seen people described as beautiful on the outside turn out to be the ugliest people I have ever met,while I have known people described as ugly ( extremely uncomfortable for some people to look upon) be the most beautiful, loving, unselfish people. If you are a caring, decent person in my opinion you should consider yourself to be a beautiful person. The only people whom will know are those that take the time to know you.