1. Much of your book 'Spinster' is about you following and exploring the five women you call “awakeners”–Why do these women exemplify your approach to life? Can you think of anyone alive today who might fall into that category?
I was drawn to women who—like me—loved home and family as much as their freedom and autonomy, and tried in various ways to reconcile these competing desires. They were all very different from one another, but at core they were deeply passionate, driven, imaginative seekers who lived with great intention, questioning their motivations and choices every step of the way. Reading their life stories awoke me to new ways of being in the world (hence the term “awakeners,”which I borrowed from Edith Wharton, rather than “heroines,”which implies to me someone larger-than-life, who has it all figured out). There are scores of women who live like this today, including several friends of mine—I just don’t know who the rest are because I don’t have access to theirRead More »from Why marriage isn't for everyone