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  • WIFE'S DONATION OF EGGS IS FERTILE GROUND FOR DISCUSSION

    DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were chatting recently and the subject of sperm donation came up. He surprised me by saying he's vehemently against it, and then compared it to selling your body as in prostitution. He also mentioned he thinks it's disgusting because any kids we would potentially have…

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  • WIFE WHO DOESN'T ENJOY SEX GOT BAD WEDDING DAY ADVICE

    DEAR ABBY: I've been married more than 20 years and have three children. What I haven't had is a real desire for sex -- nor have I ever had, as far as I know, an orgasm. Before my wedding, my mother warned me that sex was overblown, uncomfortable and messy, but she said I had to put up with it if I…

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  • GOOD MANNERS ARE EXTINCT AMONG DAUGHTERS' FRIENDS

    DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have two daughters whom we have taught to use good manners. We are proud that they always remember to use their "pleases" and "thank yous" and many people have commented how polite they are.My problem is the majority of their friends have little to no manners at all.…

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  • TEEN'S TROUBLED FRIEND IS ON PATH TO SELF-DESTRUCTION

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 14-year-old girl, and my friend "Leah" is out of control. She has been going down the wrong path since sixth grade. She is what people call "emo."She has attempted to end her life more than once. She has sex with lots of boys older than her and has issues with drugs and cutting.…

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  • THE TIME HAS COME TO END SISTERS' FOUR-YEAR SILENCE

    DEAR ABBY: I have been estranged from my sister for four years. She lives across the country, so it hasn't been difficult to hold a grudge. Either because I'm turning 50 this year, or maybe it's old-fashioned guilt, I have been feeling the right thing to do is to make amends.My question is -- how?…

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  • SHORT-CUT COOKING IS SOURCE OF GUILT FOR BUSY NEW WIFE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a full-time working woman, part-time student and new wife to an incredible husband. We're in our mid-20s and have been living together for a year, but I have a problem that I'm still unsure about.Growing up I never learned to cook. The first meal I ever made was spaghetti when my…

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  • DAUGHTER-IN-LAW WHO FLASHES NEEDS MESSAGE TO COVER UP

    DEAR ABBY: My fiance, "Jerry," has a daughter-in-law who flashes both of us intimate parts of her body. At a recent gathering, she went down to the floor 2 feet away from where Jerry was sitting and gave us both a full view up her dress. Abby, she did it deliberately!I thought the time one of her…

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  • MOM WITH BREAST CANCER DOES NOT NEED SHIELDING FROM LIFE

    DEAR ABBY: My wife has stage 4 breast cancer. She is only 51, and our most optimistic prognosis is three to four more years. Our children, 15 and 16, understand her disease, but don't really have a sense of how much longer we all have together.Recently we went out to dinner, and the kids started…

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  • MAN STAYS ON THE SIDELINES WHEN FAMILY TALKS SPORTS

    DEAR ABBY: My family is big on sports and discusses them at every gathering, big or small. I played sports growing up, but I don't care to follow them in my adult life like the rest of my family does. Sometimes I'm left out of conversations because of my lack of knowledge on the current stats, etc.…

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  • MANIPULATIVE TWIN WON'T GET HELP FOR CHRONIC ALCOHOLISM

    DEAR ABBY: My twin brother is an alcoholic and homeless. He has never held a job. Although we have drifted apart, he still contacts me when he needs money, guilt trips me about not having a place to go, and once even faked a drug overdose to get my attention. I have helped him many times, but he…

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  • BIRTHDAY CASH BUYS GROCERIES AND GAS INSTEAD OF BAUBLES

    DEAR ABBY: My birthday was last week and my boyfriend gave me $100 cash to spend on myself. I ended up spending the money on groceries for the both of us and on gas. If my boyfriend asks what I used his gift for, should I tell him it was for groceries for us? I have asked my friends and they said…

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  • CASUAL REMARK CUTS DEEPER THAN WHAT FRIEND INTENDED

    DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Tina," was very hurt by a friend recently. Her friend "Sally" called her "cheap" during a conversation ("she's cheap like you"). Sally didn't intend it to be hurtful, just an illustration -- but my wife is very upset about it.We use coupons when we grocery shop or dine out; we…

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  • MAN LONG IGNORED BY FAMILY WANTS TO RETURN THE FAVOR

    DEAR ABBY: I am the youngest of three boys. When I was growing up, my brothers didn't have much to do with me. At times they were cruel, mocked my interests and made fun of my friends. At 19 I moved into the dorms, even though I was attending college locally.My professional life took me away from…

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  • BOYFRIEND'S DENIAL OF VIEWING PORN IS REASON FOR MISTRUST

    DEAR ABBY: I'm 18 and smarter than many people realize. I carefully evaluate every situation to find the best solution, but I can't find one for this problem. My boyfriend, who I've been with for two years, has recently started watching hermaphrodite porn on a website where there are naked pictures…

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  • 2-1-1 IS NUMBER TO REMEMBER TO FIND LOW-COST SERVICES

    DEAR ABBY: We are writing in response to the question you printed (Jan. 13) about where to find affordable counseling. Your suggestions were helpful, but we want to share another one:2-1-1 is an easy-to-remember telephone number that, where available, connects people to information about critical,…

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  • RIDICULE OF MOTHER-IN-LAW IS NOT A LAUGHING MATTER

    DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Barb," and I have been married for 21 years, and like any married couple, we've had our ups and downs. We recently visited my mom, a widow in her 80s. Barb caught a cold while we were there and needed to stay in bed while Mom and I visited family.I noticed Mom was letting the…

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  • TALL TEENAGER IS RELUCTANT TO STAND OVER CLASSMATES

    DEAR ABBY: My 13-year-old granddaughter is 5 feet 9 inches tall. She walks hunched over, and when she stands with a group, she keeps her legs 2 feet apart. She's on a softball team and is always sitting on the ground in the dugout. She is the tallest one in the seventh grade in her school. Some of…

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  • BOYFRIEND'S SISTER COMPLICATES WOMAN'S PLANS FOR THE FUTURE

    DEAR ABBY: I am 19 and recently decided to move to Denver to live with my high school sweetheart, "Logan." His sister "Emily" had been living with him for about a month before I moved in, and I expressed concerns about that. Logan assured me she'd be moving out soon and he didn't want to lose any…

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  • OLD WORLD TRADITION CLASHES WITH NEW WORLD DIET CHANGE

    DEAR ABBY: I have been dating my boyfriend, Mike, for about two years, and things are going great. During this time, I have become very close with his family. Both of his parents came to the United States from Europe, and with their culture comes his mother's traditional cooking and the need to…

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  • DAD'S CHOICE OF MOVIES IS INAPPROPRIATE FOR YOUNG KIDS

    DEAR ABBY: Recently, my father has begun to watch films with graphic sexual scenes when he gets home from work. When I ask him to please watch them on his own time, when my three younger siblings aren't in the house, he tells me that because he pays the bills he has the right to do what he…

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