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  • TRAVELER'S JOY IS DIMINISHED BY SISTER'S ENDLESS TEASING

    DEAR ABBY: I am a single woman who raised three kids on one average income. They are all grown and on their own now. I still save and have a tight budget, but now I can spend some money on travel. I have opportunities to travel with friends and do it as often as I can afford.The problem is my…

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  • CLANDESTINE FAMILY AFFAIR NEEDS COMPLETE CONFESSION

    DEAR ABBY: I recently found out my daughter has been having an affair with her sister's husband. This will tear our family apart. It will also have a huge impact on my grandchildren. I have not yet told my wife, who will be devastated, but I'm having trouble carrying this burden alone. I feel they…

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  • LITTLE THEFTS FROM GARDEN ADD UP TO BIG ANNOYANCE

    DEAR ABBY: I live in a 55-and-older mobile home park. Because my coach isn't huge, I have a nice little backyard where I have a small vegetable garden and a lovely lemon tree.One day while I was tending my garden, the woman who lives behind me came over to say hello and admire my vegetables. When…

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  • TARDY WORKER WHO WAS FIRED SEEKS RIGHT TIME TO EXPLAIN IT

    DEAR ABBY: I was recently fired from my job for chronic tardiness. I have worked at this business for four years, and although I knew my lateness was seen as a problem by my boss, it was still a surprise.Now that I'm back in the job market again, I'm wondering if I need to mention my previous…

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  • COUPLE LOSES CONNECTION FOLLOWING PREGNANCY'S END

    DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married 13 years. Early on, we struggled to have children and needed reproductive specialists in order to have our two beautiful girls, ages 4 and 8. During my wife's second pregnancy she had mini-strokes. We were advised against another pregnancy, which…

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  • TEEN HESITATES TO APPROACH PARENTS ABOUT FEAR OF OCD

    DEAR ABBY: I'm 13 and I'm afraid I may have OCD. I want to find out, but what's standing in my way is that sometimes my parents think I make stuff up to get attention. I'm afraid to tell them, but I know if I do, it will answer my question. Can you give me some advice? -- ANONYMOUS IN OHIODEAR…

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  • SON'S SEX LIFE IS EXPOSED BY UNLUCKY COINCIDENCE

    DEAR ABBY: How much interest in an adult child's sex life is normal? My mother seems obsessed. I hooked up with a girl a couple of months ago on a Friday. She spent most of the weekend with me. We both knew it wouldn't go further than that.It turns out she works with my mom, who by chance found out…

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  • NEW GIRLFRIEND IS EAGER TO RID GARAGE OF EX-GIRLFRIEND'S STUFF

    DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Ron," and I have been together for more than a year, and we now live together. His garage is full to overflowing with his ex-girlfriend's belongings. She apparently left him and all her stuff -- including her four cats -- to marry some guy she met online. She no longer…

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  • MOM WONDERS HOW TO DEAL WITH CHILDREN'S SEXUAL PLAY

    DEAR ABBY: Last weekend some family members were at my mom's house for a meal. My 6-year-old son and my cousin's 4-year-old daughter were playing in the room my mom had set up for the grandkids.When I went to check on them, I noticed the bathroom door was closed, so I knocked. My son answered,…

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  • WIDOW WITH YOUNGER LOVER IS UNEASY ABOUT THEIR FUTURE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a widow who has fallen in love with a wonderful man who is almost 30 years my junior. He proclaims his love for me every day, and I know it's real. I have been warned by others to be aware of "devious males on the make for comfortably situated widows." After discussing it with the…

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  • NEW MOTHER'S BABY TRUMPS MOTHER-IN-LAW'S WEDDING

    DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are pregnant with our first child. We are beyond excited and can't wait for our little one to get here. Our problem: My mother-in-law is getting married two weeks after our baby is supposed to arrive, and she's expecting all of us to go.While I'm happy she has found…

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  • UNDERWEAR PREFERENCE BECOMES A WEDGE ISSUE IN RELATIONSHIP

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 50-year-old man in a relationship with a woman who is 42. She says I need to trade in my briefs for boxer shorts because they are outdated and "nobody wears those" anymore. She also told me only 9-year-old boys wear tighty whities and they are a turn-off.I have always worn…

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  • SKIPPING OUT ON AN EDUCATION MAY BE COSTLY IN THE FUTURE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a junior in high school and will graduate in the first semester of my senior year. Someday I would like to be a stay-at-home mom. I have no interest in going to college. I feel it would be a waste of money for me to go when I don't intend to use my degree.To say my parents are…

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  • PLANNING AHEAD IS BEST ADVICE FOR THANKSGIVING VOLUNTEERS

    DEAR ABBY: Thanksgiving is fast approaching and I would like to share some advice with your readers from someone who has volunteered in shelters for many years.1. Please do not volunteer on Thanksgiving. It's the day most people volunteer, and there are always more volunteers than homeless…

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  • MAN IS SLOW TO JOIN WIFE AND DAUGHTERS AFTER MOVE

    DEAR ABBY: My four girls and I recently moved from Texas to Florida to help out my in-laws. My husband, "Jeff," made a big deal about not wanting to move without a job, so he stayed behind.Now I feel like a single parent, and even though I hide it from my daughters, I am depressed. I haven't been…

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  • WRITING THANK-YOU NOTES GETS EASIER USING THE RIGHT ADVICE

    DEAR ABBY: The issue of thank-you notes comes up often in your column. May I share how I learned to write them? When I was young, my mother asked me one day why I was so resistant. I said I hated addressing them and I never knew what to say! It was overwhelming to me.Mother taught me some phrases…

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  • WOMAN CARRYING LESS WEIGHT SHOULD AVOID MORE CANDOR

    DEAR ABBY: I had weight-loss surgery three years ago. I am down 100 pounds and feel great. I'm new in the dating game and wonder if I'm supposed to disclose that I was previously 100 pounds overweight. Is it any of their business, or do I not address the topic? -- LESS OF ME IN CALIFORNIADEAR LESS:…

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  • COUPLE'S PREGNANCY IS NO BUSINESS OF CRITICAL FRIEND

    DEAR ABBY: May I have some advice about a touchy subject? One of my boyfriend's close friends is going through his third bout with cancer and the prognosis is not good. He is married with a healthy 3-year-old son. So imagine our surprise when his wife announced she's pregnant.This is a decision we…

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  • FERTILITY ISSUES PUT PRESSURE ON WOMAN'S BIOLOGICAL CLOCK

    DEAR ABBY: I am an educated, single woman in my 30s. I'd love to be a mom one day, but because I have fertility/ovulation issues, I'll need treatments in order to conceive. I'm scared that by the time I find a husband, I may be too old. For the last few months I have been dating a great guy,…

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  • UNHAPPY BLONDE SEES RED IN BATTLE OVER HAIR COLOR

    DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and my mom won't let me dye my hair! Earlier this year she finally let me color it red, which I have wanted for years. I went blond for my sister's wedding, but I'm naturally blond and I don't like it because it's boring. A ton of people compliment me on my hair, but I don't care…

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