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  • INDEPENDENT DAUGHTER WANTS LESS HELP FROM HER PARENTS

    DEAR ABBY: I graduated from college, and I'm starting my first full-time job and moving into my first apartment. I bought all the furniture for it, but needed help moving in. My parents decided to drive five hours to my new home to transport the furniture in a truck they rented -- without…

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  • SUSPICIONS CONFIRMED: PROOF OF INFIDELITY IS FOUND ONLINE

    DEAR ABBY: I had suspicions my dad was cheating on my mom, and when she found a mysterious earring in the house one day, I knew I had to find the proof. I went into his iPad and checked his email/Facebook and IMs and found he apparently has a girlfriend. She works in his office and is also married…

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  • DAUGHTER APPALLED BY CALLOUS TREATMENT OF HER DAD'S ASHES

    DEAR ABBY: My dad died in April after a brief illness. Before he passed, my stepmother encouraged him to donate his body to science because she is to be buried with her first husband, and she didn't want the expense of burying Dad. I went to pick up my father's ashes as she requested. When I got…

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  • THE KEY TO BEING WELL-LIKED IS TO MAKE YOURSELF LIKABLE

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 15-year-old girl. When I'm with the high school group of kids at my church, I try to extend myself and talk, but they never reciprocate much. I always have to try to think of something to say and be careful I don't embarrass myself. Especially around guys, I feel awkward and…

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  • HUSBAND'S 'EDUCATIONAL' DVDS GET FLUNKING GRADE FROM WIFE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a full-time mother of three young children and have been married for nine years. Since the beginning, my husband has pushed to have things "his way." He struggles with his temper and has yelled at me over little things. We have met with a counselor and were showing improvement in…

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  • READERS TAKE ABBY TO TASK FOR ANSWER TO OBESE WOMAN

    DEAR ABBY: Your response to "Offended Daughter" (Aug. 10), whose mother didn't like her lounging in a bikini top at her house because of her weight, was inconsiderate, irresponsible and, frankly, offensive. You started off well, advising her to consider her mother's preference because it's her…

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  • AIDE SHOULD GO TO PRINCIPAL'S OFFICE FOR TALKING OUT OF SCHOOL

    DEAR ABBY: I have overheard a person who works as an aide at the local elementary school talking about the students -- discussing their special needs, behavioral issues, etc. I think it is appalling that she's relaying confidential information to others in the community. The rule for employees here…

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  • WRITTEN THANK-YOUS FOR GIFTS SHOW HEARTFELT APPRECIATION

    DEAR ABBY: I just turned 14 and had a small party with relatives to celebrate it. A few days later my mom bought me thank-you cards and said I should send them out. I told the people "thank you" for the gifts in person. I don't think thank-you cards are necessary for something as small as…

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  • PARENTS PERSIST IN THINKING GAY SON WILL STRAIGHTEN OUT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a gay male college student who is out and comfortable with who I am -- 99 percent of the time. When I was in high school, I tried to come out to my parents and it didn't go smoothly. They had an emotional crisis for a day, then shrugged it off as "just another teenage phase." After…

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  • HUSBAND HOLED UP IN MAN CAVE LEAVES HIS WIFE OUT IN THE COLD

    DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 13 years, and I'm beginning to wonder if my husband still wants to be with me. He gets home before I do and stays in his room watching TV and piddling around on the computer. He never comes out to say hello when I get home; I go in there and greet him. He comes…

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  • MIXED-RACE BABY WOULD BE A SURPRISE BUT NOT AN OUTCAST

    DEAR ABBY: I am five months pregnant with my second child and engaged to a wonderful man, "Tony." We get along well with my ex-husband with whom I share custody of my first child. But problems may arise when the baby is born. I had a night of sex with a friend who is of a different race. Tony knows…

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  • MEN WHO USE DATING SITES OFFER TIPS FOR WOMEN ONLINE

    DEAR ABBY: "Surfing in Petersburg, Ill." (June 17) raised good points about men who use online dating services. However, many of the things she pointed out could also be said of women who put their ads on the sites. The pickings are just as slim on our side of the fence. My hints to the "fairer…

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  • WOMAN TRAUMATIZED BY SISTER'S MURDER FEELS NEED FOR CLOSURE

    DEAR ABBY: I lost my sister in a brutal murder several years ago. I was too emotionally upset to view her body or go to the trial. As a result of not having been physically connected to her passing, I have lacked closure all these years. I believe I am finally ready to face the reality and deal…

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  • MOVING CHILD'S GRAVE SPARKS BURIED ANGER AFTER 20 YEARS

    DEAR ABBY: Twenty-three years ago my husband and I lost our firstborn son. As my husband was active duty military, we could have buried him anywhere in the United States. At the time, we were in a place where my sister swore to me she would always live, and she would always be there to take care of…

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  • MAN LONGS FOR THRILL HE FELT WHEN ROMANCE WAS BRAND-NEW

    DEAR ABBY: I'm in desperate need of help. I have been with my girlfriend for four years. With every long-term relationship, there are bound to be issues. I haven't felt loved by her in a long time, and I think I have fallen out of love with her. I can't even tell her that I love her anymore because…

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  • ANIMAL LOVER FORCED TO CHOOSE BETWEEN BOYFRIEND AND HER PETS

    DEAR ABBY: I have been dating "Chris" for almost five years. He's my high school sweetheart. We still live with our parents, but we feel we're ready to move out and start our lives together. The issue is I have a cat ("Silky") and a dog named "Chips"; Chris can't stand them. He has said he doesn't…

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  • PLANS TO SHARE A ROOM HIT A SNAG OVER MOM'S SNORING

    DEAR ABBY: My son's out-of-town wedding is coming up. My mother will attend and be traveling with me. I am single, and my mom is also single. She's planning on sharing a room with me. Abby, my mom has a severe snoring problem, and I'm a very light sleeper. I cannot sleep with a snorer! I don't want…

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  • HUSBAND IS RELUCTANT SPECTATOR AT WIFE'S PARADE IN THE NUDE

    DEAR ABBY: My wife walks around our house nude or topless with the shades open, and anybody walking outside can see in. Recently she did this while some painting contractors were working around our house. I have begged her not to, to no avail. What should I do? -- MORE MODEST IN NORTH CAROLINA DEAR…

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  • USING MOTHER TONGUE MAKES FAMILY CONVERSATION DIFFICULT

    DEAR ABBY: My son married an educated professional woman from another country. When their twins were born, my daughter-in-law immersed them in her native language so it would become their mother tongue. Although I understand and respect the benefits of being bilingual, this caused a lot of…

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  • DAY CARE OPERATOR NEEDS A TIMEOUT FOR HER MOUTH

    DEAR ABBY: My neighbor has a registered day care business, and every day I hear her screaming at young children and infants. They are all 4-year-olds and younger. We live in a rural area outside a small town. She uses profanity and says mean things to them. It makes me want to cry when I think of…

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