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  • HALLOWEEN COWGIRL CAN LEAVE HER PISTOL AT HOME

    DEAR ABBY: Halloween is around the corner, and my 7-year-old daughter has decided to be a cowgirl. She wants the boots, the hat and the gun. Is it appropriate to let her have a holster and an obviously toy gun to accessorize her costume for trick-or-treating? She would not be taking that part of…

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  • CHEAP CANDY MIGHT WORK MAGIC ON HALLOWEEN GOBLINS

    DEAR ABBY: I am a retired widow, crippled with rheumatoid arthritis. Every October, I start dreading Halloween, which I consider to be a legal form of extortion. Living on Social Security, I really don't want to waste money for candy. Also, it is difficult for me to get up and down every five…

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  • WOMAN OBJECTS TO ACCUSATION THAT SHE'S A 'STATUS DIGGER'

    DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing "Tony" for a few weeks. He is kind, caring and will make a great boyfriend, husband and father someday. My problem with him is he thinks I'm a "status digger." (It's similar to a gold digger, but he means I care only about someone's standing in the community.) His…

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  • LIVING TOGETHER MAY END LONG-DISTANCE ENGAGEMENT

    DEAR ABBY: My fiance, "Derrick," and I have been engaged for almost a year. The whole time we've been together he has been overseas. While he has many of the characteristics I look for in a man, he isn't as down-to-earth as I'd like him to be. He's now back in the U.S. for good, and we are living…

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  • WOMAN'S FIRST MARRIAGE IS OVER, BUT THOUGHTS OF HER EX LINGER

    DEAR ABBY: I have a serious problem that's consuming my life. I know people say you never really get over your first love, but I don't know why after six years I still think about my ex on a daily basis. Abby, I am happily married. My husband is the perfect man for me -- understanding, sweet and…

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  • WOMAN WHO ABUSES BOYFRIEND CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO STOP

    DEAR ABBY: I think I have an abuse problem. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and already I feel like he is fed up with me. I don't want to lose him. When I was younger, my father used to abuse me. It was years ago, but I feel like I might have gotten that trait from him. In addition, I…

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  • TRANSGENDER EX-HUSBAND IS EMBARRASSMENT TO HIS SONS

    DEAR ABBY: After 10 years of marriage, my now ex-husband told me he is transgender. He isn't taking hormones, but he makes no attempt to hide his feminine dressing, makeup and wigs from our 6- and 9-year-old sons. They understand little of their dad's new life, other than that their dad likes "girl…

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  • MAN TAKES CANCELED LUNCH DATE AS PERSONAL REJECTION

    DEAR ABBY: My lunch date for today canceled on me. Generally, when a girl does this, I delete her number and move on. But in this instance, it wasn't a first or second date. We have been seeing each other for about a month and have built up some degree of intimacy. Moreover, I know she's not lying…

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  • PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY IS BEST WEAPON IN WAR ON ADDICTION

    DEAR ABBY: I had my last cigarette and drink of alcohol 50 years ago. Back then, excessive drinking, smoking, overeating or nail-biting were signs of weak will, sinfulness, bad upbringing and who knows what else. Fortunately, over the years the pendulum swung, making it possible for literally…

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  • OVERLOOKED MIDDLE CHILD'S CRIES FOR HELP GO UNHEEDED

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a teenage girl who is frustrated with my family. I am the middle child, and it seems like my parents prefer my brother and sister over me. I am constantly in trouble for things they have done, and my parents are aware that they did. When I try to express my feelings, nobody will…

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  • DAD WHO TOOK ON FATHERHOOD FINDS HIS TITLE TAKEN AWAY

    DEAR ABBY: About two years ago, a close female friend, "Carla," had her first child. The biological father is from another country. When she told him she was pregnant, he refused to have anything to do with the child, so I decided to take over the role as a father. I have been with Carla and my son…

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  • ANCIENT PRACTICE OF CREMATION UNDERGOES A MODERN REVIVAL

    DEAR ABBY: I recently had an interesting conversation with a friend after a funeral. It was about cremation versus burial, and I'd be interested in your thoughts and those of your readers. We noted that cremation has become more common, and guessed that one of the main reasons might be funeral and…

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  • DAD'S OTHER WOMAN CAUSES STRESS THROUGHOUT FAMILY

    DEAR ABBY: My father is dating a woman who is not only my ex-boyfriend's mother, but also the woman he cheated on my mother with and left her for. I don't want to be around her and have told my father this, but he doesn't accept or respect my feelings. Being around them causes stress on my marriage…

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  • MEDICATIONS KEPT UNDER LOCK AND KEY ENSURE KIDS' SAFETY

    DEAR ABBY: You missed the chance to communicate a life-or-death message to your readers when you answered a letter from an "Ohio Grandma" (July 14). Your reply understated the importance of storing medications properly and safely. What if the grandmother had placed a loaded gun on the desk instead…

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  • TRUCK DRIVER SPREADING HERPES IS OUT OF EX-WIFE'S CONTROL

    DEAR ABBY: Last year I found a bottle of Valtrex in my husband's car. He had been taking the medicine for months. When I asked him about it, he lied. I was devastated when I realized I had been exposed to herpes. He actually tried to say he got it from me, but later he admitted that he had been…

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