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  • WEDDING INVITATIONS DON'T NEED TO INCLUDE EVERYONE AT WORK

    DEAR ABBY: I teach at a fairly small school. My grade-level teaching team consists of five teachers who work closely together.During the last school year, one of my team members got engaged. This year, we've had a change of staff and now have a new member on our team. My colleague has not, and does…

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  • WOMAN MISSES THE AFFECTION THAT FIANCE SHOWS TO PETS

    DEAR ABBY: My fiance, "Bubba," and I have a small disagreement that I would love your take on. He constantly complains that he's too tired, or annoyed or busy, to show me romantic or friendly affection and attention. But he goes out of his way to snuggle and play with our two dogs and cat. I get…

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  • A HOUSE IS WORTH HAVING ONLY IF IT FEELS LIKE HOME

    DEAR ABBY: I am 23 and my husband is 27. We've been married for two years. Since our wedding, I have felt an overwhelming amount of pressure to "settle down and buy a house."One friend's boyfriend recently bought a house. She lives with him. Every time we get together she brags about how important…

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  • PREGNANT TEEN NEEDS SUPPORT AND GUIDANCE, NOT REJECTION

    DEAR ABBY: My best friend from school is pregnant. Her baby's father is practically nonexistent, and she has no other friends besides me and one other person. I am the only one so far who knows about her pregnancy. She hasn't told her dad and her grandparents because she's scared they'll kick her…

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  • SLEEPWALKER'S RESTLESS HABIT HAS TURNED INTO A NIGHTMARE

    DEAR ABBY: I am engaged to "Tony," whom I have known since first grade. We live with his mother under the same roof, but in separate rooms. Tony is perfect in every way except one: He's a restless sleeper. Sometimes he wakes up shouting. He has fallen down the stairs and woken up in different…

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  • FACE-TO-FACE FRIEND REFUSES TO LIKE ONLINE INTERACTION

    DEAR ABBY: Help! Facebook is killing my social life. I am wondering if anyone else is having this experience. I am a woman whose job requires me to be on the computer eight hours a day. The last thing I want after work is to go online. Before Facebook took over my social circle, this wasn't a…

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  • OVERPACKING FOR BUSINESS TRIP PROMPTS QUESTIONS OF TRUST

    DEAR ABBY: I'm in my 40s and my boyfriend of three years is 12 years older. We are in love and our relationship is great. He travels for work and lives in another state, so he flies in to see my daughter and me every other week. Because he is older, he uses Viagra, and it's kept at my place in a…

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  • SELDOM-SEEN WIFE SPENDS MORE TIME WITH MOM THAN HUSBAND

    DEAR ABBY: I have been married to "Carla" for 16 years. It's my second marriage. My problem is I never see her. She has always spent more time with her mother than with me. We see each other for about an hour a day after she returns from her mom's, usually at 9:45 to 10 p.m.I have had several…

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  • DAUGHTER ASKS TO BE RELIEVED OF OBLIGATION TO VISIT HER DAD

    DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced woman with a teenaged daughter. I maintain a good relationship with my ex-husband and his family, and still consider them my family.The problem is, my ex and our daughter have a strained relationship, mostly because he makes little effort to spend time with her. He…

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  • FAMILY GRIEVES COUPLE'S LOSS AFTER THEIR SUDDEN ESTRANGEMENT

    DEAR ABBY: I have been married to a wonderful man for 20 years. He adopted my oldest son, and we have three kids together. All of our children are loved and accepted by his extended family; my in-laws refer to me as their daughter.Everything is fine with the exception of my husband's brother "Todd"…

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  • TEEN SEEKS RIGHT APPROACH TO GENDER-BENDING CLASSMATE

    DEAR ABBY: I am 17 and a senior in high school. During freshman year, one of my classmates was a boy I'll call "Alex." This year, I have been told that Alex has changed his name to "Aly," a more feminine name. Aly now sometimes dresses like a girl and sometimes like a boy. What gender should I…

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  • CURIOUS WIFE FINDS A SURPRISE IN HUSBAND'S MEDICAL RECORDS

    DEAR ABBY: I recently started working at the hospital where my husband receives his primary care. One afternoon, out of curiosity, I accessed his medical records. In his file it was noted that he is high risk for STDs. In fact, he was treated for two different ones some years back.I have been…

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  • COMPULSIVE SHOPLIFTER KNOWS IT'S WRONG, BUT JUST CAN'T STOP

    DEAR ABBY: I need help! I have shoplifted several times. I was caught and have a police record. I am a grandparent. I know it's wrong, and I don't do it all the time. Is this a mental disorder, or am I just being stupid? If I know this is wrong, why do I keep doing it? And where do I start to look…

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  • COLLEAGUE'S TEXTS SUGGEST SHE HAS MORE IN MIND THAN WORK

    DEAR ABBY: My husband is a handsome executive who works out of town. I'm a professional with a responsible job that limits my ability to travel.I needed to borrow his phone recently and noticed that one of his colleagues has been texting him after hours. She asks if he has traveled safely, tells…

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  • ULTRASOUND BABY PICTURE GETS A NEGATIVE REACTION

    DEAR ABBY: Do you know why people nowadays feel the need to announce their pregnancies via ultrasound pictures? I'm sorry, but I really don't want to see all that. I guess some folks think the image of a blurry, black-and-white fetus is "darling." But to me, all I see is an up-close-and-personal…

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  • TRAUMATIC BREAKUP LEAVES TEEN LOOKING FOR A LIFELINE

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 17-year-old girl who recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. During the time we were together we shared many experiences, including a miscarriage. Now he wants to be alone. He doesn't want to date or have any relationship because he says he feels "love is different…

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  • HUSBAND EXPECTS WIFE TO BE WAITING FOR CELLPHONE TO RING

    DEAR ABBY: My husband has many wonderful qualities. However, he's obsessed with my always being instantly available when he calls or texts my cellphone. I don't carry it with me every minute of the day. At work I can be busy taking orders, dealing with clients, having a conference with my boss or…

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  • ISOLATED TEEN SHOULD TURN TO TRUSTED ADULTS FOR HELP

    DEAR ABBY: I am a teenager who went through some emotional stuff a couple of years ago. It was horrible. My parents thought it was just a phase, so I had to deal with it myself until it got better. I don't feel like I can communicate with my parents. If I try, I'm afraid they'll just downplay it…

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  • YOUNGER BROTHER TIPTOES AROUND BRINGING OLDER GIRLFRIEND HOME

    DEAR ABBY: My younger brother is 25. Three or four months ago he got out of a six-year relationship. He is now dating his former boss, a woman who is at least 15 years older than he is. As far as I know, I'm the only one he's told. I recently asked him how the romance was going and he told me…

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  • COUPLE TRIES TO PRETEND ALL IS WELL FOR DAUGHTER'S SAKE

    DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Mason," and I have been married for 10 years. We have a beautiful 7-year-old daughter and have just found out we are having another girl. The day we learned her gender, Mason dropped a bomb on me. He said he's not in love with me anymore, and it has been eating at him for a…

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