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  • DAUGHTER REFUSES TO OPEN DOOR TO MOM'S NEW BEAU

    DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for more than a year and recently started dating a very nice man, "John." My eldest daughter and her children live with me. I'd like to be able to invite John over to our house, but my daughter doesn't want "strange men" around her kids, which I understand. I tried…

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  • OPEN ADOPTION COULD HELP GRANDMOTHER STAY IN TOUCH

    DEAR ABBY: I am writing this in response to "Un-Grandparent in Ohio" (Aug. 25), whose pregnant teenage daughter has decided to place her baby for adoption. My daughter and son-in-law adopted their newborn daughter in an open adoption. Each summer the adoption agency sponsors a picnic that is…

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  • INTERNET OBSESSION THREATENS TO CONSUME WIDOWER'S LIFE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 58-year-old recent widower. My wife and I were very happy for 29 years, and that included a satisfying sex life. Although I am not ready to date yet, I continue to have a strong sex drive. I'm finding the Internet is a good alternative to "hooking up" at this time. However -- and…

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  • VIGILANT MOTHER IS DEVASTATED BY NEWS OF SON'S MOLESTATION

    DEAR ABBY: I'm so upset. I just found out my son was molested by one of his older cousins. "Ryan" didn't want me to know because he was afraid of how I would react. Ryan is 19 and a very private person. I want to confront the person who did this to him and press charges.What's upsetting is I tried…

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  • MARRIAGE IDEA LOSES ITS LUSTER AFTER PLANS WERE PUT ON HOLD

    DEAR ABBY: Recently, our state became one that allows same-sex couples to wed. My partner, "Alex," and I have been together for 18 years. We had planned to be married last spring, but a death in the family put our wedding on hold.When I found out about the ruling, I expected Alex to be excited and…

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  • WIFE IS IN A PICKLE PACKING LUNCHES FOR CHOOSY HUSBAND

    DEAR ABBY: My husband works, but I do not. I stay very busy, but he expects me to pack him a lunch every day. It must include a breakfast item and a lunch item, as he is starving by the time he arrives at work, even if he ate at home. My problem is, he has a huge list of "do not pack" preferences…

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  • FATHER AND SON STAY IN TOUCH WITH CELLPHONE TRACKING APP

    DEAR ABBY: I have a 17-year-old son. He spends half his time with me and the other half with his mom. My question is about his cellphone. I can use an app on my phone to see the location of his phone. A friend of mine tells me I shouldn't stalk him or spy on him this way. She says it shows I don't…

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  • MOM RECRUITS FAMILY TO MAKE HOLIDAY HAPPY FOR A CO-WORKER

    DEAR ABBY: I work with a wonderful, good-hearted young woman who holds a low-paying job. She's raising three children alone, and I know she struggles to provide the necessities. I have learned that the holidays at their home are pretty meager.My husband and I have been discussing the many frivolous…

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  • COMMUNITY THEATER PROVIDES STAGE FOR COUPLE'S LOVE STORY

    DEAR ABBY: You sometimes print letters from people who are looking to meet decent, honorable and interesting other people. While you have recommended volunteering, joining health clubs, going to church -- and staying out of bars -- something I have yet to see mentioned is a community-based arts…

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  • WIFE'S BIRTHDAY GAG GIFT TURNS OUT TO BE A TURN-ON

    DEAR ABBY: A few months ago, I turned 50 and my co-workers held a small celebration. When we celebrate birthdays, we all have agreed to regift an item (usually a gag gift).One of my presents was a black leather miniskirt and matching vest. I never planned on wearing it, but my husband, "Tom," and I…

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  • TEEN HESITATES TO CONFRONT MOM OVER PRESCRIPTION DRUG ABUSE

    DEAR ABBY: What are the signs of prescription drug abuse? How would you suggest a young person like me (I am 13) confront a close family member about something like this, especially since I'm not sure?I found an antidepressant prescribed for my mother. As long as I can remember, she has been a…

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  • WIFE OF DEAF HUSBAND SEEKS TO COPE IN NEW SURROUNDINGS

    DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Norm," has become profoundly deaf. He has a cochlear implant in one ear and a hearing aid in the other; neither has helped much. He has extreme difficulty with speech recognition. We can talk together in the quiet of our home as long as I sit right next to him and speak…

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  • GOOD INTENTIONS CAUSE OFFENSE AFTER SENIOR DISCOUNT IS OFFERED

    DEAR ABBY: I was at the hairdresser yesterday, and when I went to the register to pay, the receptionist asked me if I was over 65 "so I could get the senior discount." Abby, I am only 55! I found her question insulting, and several of my friends have had this same experience. I appreciate the young…

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  • UNEMPLOYED ELDEST CHILD FEELS TRAPPED IN PARENTS' BASEMENT

    DEAR ABBY: I am a young adult, the eldest of four children. I sleep in a basement (furnished and livable), which serves as my bedroom. I have no job, no driver's license, no friends who live close by. I try to make my family happy, despite being underappreciated by my parents and siblings. No…

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  • MOM QUESTIONS RENTING A ROOM TO HER EX-HUSBAND

    DEAR ABBY: My husband and I divorced because of another woman. I took it hard, but after a year or so, I was OK. Fast forward to 2013: He shows up on my doorstep, needing food and shelter, so I took him in (he's still the father of my children). Now I can't get rid of him! He's trying to show me…

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  • WRITER'S SAD STORY HAS HAPPY ENDING ALMOST 14 YEARS LATER

    DEAR ABBY: You mentioned in a recent column that few people write to follow up on what happened since their original letter was published. You printed mine April 1, 2001. I am "Hurting in Houston," the son who, with his partner, was suddenly no longer welcome in his parents' home after they moved…

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  • PHOTO GALLERY OF PERFECTION MAKES WOMAN FEEL INSECURE

    DEAR ABBY: I was divorced three years ago and have had a boyfriend, "Roger," for a year and a half. He is seven years younger, and he's intrigued with women on the Internet. He saves tons of photos of these girls on his cellphone. These ladies are "perfect." They have big breasts and curvaceous…

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  • STOIC MOTHER HOLDS STEADY FOR SON ABOUT TO BE DEPLOYED

    DEAR ABBY: Since the moment my oldest son, "Ryan," enlisted in the U.S. Army, our family has been concerned he would be deployed. Although Ryan graduated from high school near the top of his class and had prepared for university, his plans were thwarted when deployment orders came to face off with…

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  • GIVE GIFT OF YOUR SERVICE TO HELP OUT OLDER PARENTS

    DEAR ABBY: For those who are looking for gift suggestions for older parents, may I offer what my kids do for us? They live far away and usually visit us in the spring and fall.Before they leave, my daughter scrubs my bathroom shower and the rest of the room, cleans my refrigerator, oven, kitchen…

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  • RECOVERING ADDICT MUST FIGHT BATTLE WITHOUT FAMILY SUPPORT

    DEAR ABBY: I am a former drama queen and addict now enjoying long-term sobriety, or trying to. What's missing in my life is my family. Since returning from rehab, I have been "going it alone" -- and I'm not sure why. My kids are the only grandchildren in the family. I work and go to school. I am…

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