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  • Boyfriend With Hidden Child May Harbor Other Secrets

    DEAR ABBY: I'm having a hard time getting over a secret my boyfriend, "Wayne," kept from me. We have been off and on for 14 years, but back on for the past four. The problem is, he had a child with a woman in a different country. The child is now 9. Wayne didn't mention it until four years ago,…

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  • Parents Welcome Daughters' Boyfriends Into The Family

    DEAR ABBY: We have two lovely daughters in their 20s. The older one lives with her boyfriend. They are expecting a baby soon. Our younger daughter lives with us, and she's planning on moving in with her boyfriend.We're an old married couple, and we're not sure how to treat our daughters'…

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  • TEENAGER IN A HURRY TO GROW UP WONDERS ABOUT SLOWING DOWN

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a teenager and I want to grow up fast. My boyfriend, "Jared," and I are very serious, and we want to have a baby. I know that sounds crazy, but we talk about it all the time and we're ready for it.As much as I want all this, I'm afraid I won't be able to provide for the baby. I have…

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  • DENTAL CARE IN NURSING HOMES CAN BE DIFFICULT TO ARRANGE

    DEAR ABBY: My mother has Alzheimer's. She has been in a nursing home for 10 years. I feel sorry for her because she can't verbalize that her teeth are killing her, but I can see the pain in her face and hear her grind her teeth. When I asked her if her teeth hurt, she rubbed my arm up and down,…

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  • LITTLE BIT OF MOTHER-IN-LAW GOES A LONG WAY FOR WIFE

    DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband a little over a year. He's a wonderful man, but I feel he's a little too attached to his mother. She lives about 20 minutes away, and he wants to go visit her almost every day. His mother is a very negative person. She isn't mean and we get along well,…

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  • DAUGHTER WHO'S HOOKING UP NEEDS REALITY CHECK FROM MOM

    DEAR ABBY: In recent conversations with my daughter, who is away in college, she opened up to me that she is hooking up. She introduced herself to this guy two weeks ago, and she's already having sex with him. I tried to caution her about the dangers of such relationships and how harmful they can…

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  • ADOPTED TEEN CAN'T SHAKE ANGER FELT FOR BIRTH MOTHER

    DEAR ABBY: I am almost 13 and I'm struggling with a lot of different things. I was adopted when I was a baby, so I never lived with my birth mother. That's probably a good thing, but I am having angry feelings toward her that I wish I wouldn't have. Those feelings are also being directed at friends…

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  • CHILDREN FROM PRIOR MARRIAGES CAN BE SLOW TO ACCEPT CHANGE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced mother with an 11-year-old daughter. My boyfriend, "John," and I have been together for two years and we're serious. He is also divorced, with a 13-year-old daughter. We have tried to be sensitive and understanding about their feelings about our recent divorces and our…

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  • MOTHER'S ALCOHOLISM POSES SERIOUS THREAT TO HER BABY

    DEAR ABBY: I just realized I'm six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to start a family and raise children with my fiance, but I have a big problem. I am an alcoholic and have been struggling with this issue for a few years. I don't know the effect this could have on my baby, but I know it isn't…

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  • MELODRAMATIC SERIAL SHOULD BE CANCELED, NOT RENEWED

    DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of 10 years, "Scott," and I separated last year. I was pregnant and hormonal at the time, and told him we would never get back together. We went a month without contact, then reconnected.While Scott was in the process of working things out with me, he had a girlfriend. He…

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  • CANCER DIAGNOSIS IS UNLIKELY TO THAW GRANDMOTHER'S HEART

    DEAR ABBY: I recently found out my grandmother has been diagnosed with lung cancer and has elected not to treat it. The doctors give her a year at the most. My dilemma is whether to extend just one more olive branch.She has never been a "warm and fuzzy" type of grandmother. She was cold and distant…

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  • COUPLE ENCOUNTERS ROUGH SEAS OVER GIFT OF CRUISE VACATION

    DEAR ABBY: I represented my daughter "Stacy" and her husband as their real estate agent. When any of my children purchase a home, I waive my commission. My daughter knew I had been trying to finance a trip to South America for my husband so he could complete his "bucket list." She gave me a cruise…

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  • PARENTS WITH STRONG BELIEFS WON'T VISIT COHABITATING COUPLE

    DEAR ABBY: Our amazing daughters are in their late 20s. Both of them are independent, intelligent and loving. The four of us have a special bond. My wife and I have always been supportive in all aspects of our daughters' lives, and that will never change.They have been dating great guys over the…

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  • TEEN FEARS SHE WILL REGRET NOT CHOOSING ANOTHER PATH

    DEAR ABBY: I have been dating "Brandon" for three years. I'm 19, going to a four-year college and I'm planning to move in with him. I enjoy his company and can see myself with him in the future, but I wish I hadn't met him so young. I wish I could have experienced more -- other people and…

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  • HUSBAND CAN'T STOP SINGING PRAISES OF BONE MARROW DONOR

    DEAR ABBY: My husband of 28 years had a bone marrow transplant, and six months ago he learned who his donor was. He now wants to meet up with the person. Turns out, it was a woman. I'm not usually a jealous person, but it's all he ever talks about every single minute of the day. He wants to meet…

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  • DAD GETTING DIVORCE APPLAUDS MOM'S DEVOTION TO THEIR SON

    DEAR ABBY: My wife and I will be legally divorced within a few weeks. We have a 1-year-old son. Although we have been separated for eight months, she is an awesome mother to our son. A man could not ask for a better lady to care for his child. We don't talk about much other than our son. We are no…

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  • BOY'S QUESTIONS ABOUT FAITH CALL FOR A CAREFUL RESPONSE

    DEAR ABBY: I have a question about how to handle a situation with one of my grandsons. "Rory" came to me recently to talk about religion. His mother is Christian; I am not. He asked what I thought about his mother forcing him to go to church. He has many doubts about Christianity. I tried to…

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  • GIRL'S CONSTANT MESSAGING SENDS NANNY ON A GUILT TRIP

    DEAR ABBY: I was a full-time summer nanny for several years for the same family, now a preteen boy and girl. I loved them, had a great time on the job and have communicated with them occasionally through the years on birthdays and holidays. Eventually, I moved away for college and was no longer…

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  • BEING A GOOD LISTENER IS THE BEST WAY TO BE HEARD

    DEAR ABBY: I am responding to "Tired of Talking to Myself" (Feb. 13), whose husband's ears slam shut when she begins to speak. This is not a problem that's exclusive to men. Women do it as well. As a retired PA (physician's assistant), when talking with patients, I would refer to it as selective…

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  • SON WHO'S ANGRY OVER PARENTS' BREAKUP MUST KNOW THE TRUTH

    DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced mother of four. I have been single for three years, since my ex chose an affair over our marriage. I am successful and manage my home and finances.I am, however, struggling with pressure from my ex to get back together. He had several affairs during the 13 years we were…

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