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  • FAMILY FEARS FOR TEEN FALLING UNDER BOYFRIEND'S INFLUENCE

    DEAR ABBY: My son's wife passed away very recently. He works days, so I have been helping him by looking after his 15-year-old daughter, "Leyla."Leyla recently told her father that her boyfriend, "Dylan," has asked her to vandalize things -- TV, Blu-ray player, etc. -- if her daddy enrolls her in a…

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  • COUSIN'S TAG-ALONG KIDS PUSH THE LIMIT OF BRIDE'S GUEST LIST

    DEAR ABBY: I am being married later this year, and I'm planning my guest list. My cousin "Emily" has five young children who I'm making an exception to invite. She lives across the country, so she's starting to book her plane reservations. Emily just announced that she's being remarried and her…

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  • HUSBAND WHO RELIVES HIS PAST SHOULD FOCUS ON HIS PRESENT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm married to the love of my life. I can't imagine loving a man more than I love "Wayne," and I know he feels the same about me. The problem is, he's always telling stories about things he has done, including past relationships, in graphic detail. I have heard all of them repeatedly,…

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  • YOUNG MAN WITH HEART SCAR HAS OPTIONS FOR COVERING IT UP

    DEAR ABBY: You printed a letter from "Self-Conscious in Georgia" (May 15), a young man who is insecure about the scar from his heart surgery. I have had three surgeries for congenital defects, my first at 2 years old. Because many women's fashions expose the upper chest, I applied anti-scar…

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  • ANGRY WIFE RESENTS HUSBAND FOR HIDING NEWS OF HIS HEALTH

    DEAR ABBY: When my husband is sick or needs to have surgery, he refuses to tell his family and doesn't want me to. This puts me in a very awkward position. I'm damned if I do tell them because he will be upset with me, and damned if I don't because his family won't trust me, and I don't want things…

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  • NURSE OBJECTS WHEN MOTHER THREATENS GIRL WITH FLU SHOT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a nurse who has been providing flu vaccinations for customers in a big box store. Most of them regard us health care workers as people who want to keep them healthy. My problem is parents who use me as a threat of punishment for their kids. I have had parents drag their screaming,…

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  • HEAD-OVER-HEELS ROMANTICS SHOULD COME BACK TO EARTH

    DEAR ABBY: I have been single for a couple of years. I have always been levelheaded when it comes to romance, but I'm finding myself unable to control my feelings about the new man I'm seeing. "Brent" is smart, intelligent, sweet and loving. We have been dating for a little over a week and he has…

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  • MAN'S AFFAIR HAS ENDED, BUT MARRIAGE REMAINS IN LIMBO

    DEAR ABBY: My husband of 30 years had an affair a year and a half ago. We struggled through the aftermath and are trying to restart our relationship. He remained in touch with the other woman until she finally pulled the plug on him, and now he has no interest in talking with me about our…

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  • DRINKING BECOMES A PROBLEM FOR WIFE PRESSURED TO IMBIBE

    DEAR ABBY: I'm not much of a drinker. I have nothing against drinking or those who do. I just do not like the taste of alcohol. Worse, I have a very low tolerance for it. After only half a glass of wine, I become so sleepy I can barely keep my eyes open. It makes me feel physically awful. My…

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  • DAUGHTER'S OBSESSIVE STALKER RATCHETS UP HIS ACCUSATIONS

    DEAR ABBY: I am very concerned about my 33-year-old daughter's safety. A man in his mid-60s, someone she met at a previous job, has become obsessed with her. He has declared his love for her, divorced his wife and slathered my struggling, single daughter with gifts over the last three years. She…

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  • WOMAN MISTAKEN FOR COUGAR WANTS A BIG CAT, NOT A CUB

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a single woman in my late 30s and have an 18-year-old daughter. When I am alone or out with my girlfriends, I am constantly hit on by younger men. My girlfriends say it's because I don't look my age and that I should feel flattered. Well, I am not a "cougar," and I don't get turned…

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  • ATTENTIVE PARENTS CAN PREVENT KIDS BEING LEFT ALONE IN CARS

    DEAR ABBY: It disturbs me greatly that we keep reading about parents leaving their children in cars, whether it be absentmindedness, stress or downright intentional. It needs to stop. I'm hoping car manufacturers can come up with an idea -- maybe a sensor that once the doors are closed and locked,…

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  • OVERWEIGHT WOMAN'S BIKINI TOP GETS HARSH REVIEW FROM MOM

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 24-year-old plus-sized woman (60 or 70 pounds overweight), but very comfortable in my own skin. When swimming in public, I wear a one-piece bathing suit because it doesn't attract a lot of attention. When I'm home, I have a bikini top and shorts I prefer to wear. This is because I…

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  • TEEN BEGINS TO RECOGNIZE PARENTS' EMOTIONAL ABUSE

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 15-year-old girl who has two younger brothers. My parents are good people, but they can be extremely harsh and cruel. They curse us out and scream at us for petty things almost every day. I told my best friend about it and she said that it is emotional abuse. I disagree. I have…

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  • WOMAN TREATS FRIEND'S KITCHEN LIKE AN ALL-YOU-CAN EAT BUFFET

    DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who will help herself to anything in my fridge, pantry, etc. without asking. She also will eat most if not all food that's meant to be shared, such as appetizers and snacks at a social gathering. Once she literally polished off an entire plate of appetizers before my…

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  • BATTLE OF THE SEXES OVER SEX IGNITES FEEDBACK FROM READERS

    DEAR ABBY: I just finished reading the letter from "Pressured" (April 23), the wife whose husband keeps track of how often he and his wife have had sex and his determination to have sex 100 times per year. She was wondering if this is normal. I can tell her that my former husband thought we should…

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  • EXPECTANT MOM WITH A PAST MUST CONSIDER BABY'S FUTURE

    DEAR ABBY: Coming out of an abusive relationship in the past, I made some poor decisions. I moved away from home and into pornography and prostitution. I come from a small town, and it became a big deal when it hit the Internet. Everyone in my generation back home knew what I did. Years later, I'm…

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  • TREAD CAREFULLY WHEN NAMING BABY AFTER DECEASED RELATIVE

    DEAR ABBY: What is the protocol for naming a baby after a deceased person? If the name you want to use is a deceased family member's name, do we ask his next of kin for approval? Do we say nothing? Is it assumed that people who wish to use someone's name when naming their child should seek…

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  • FEAR OF THE FUTURE PARALYZES WOMAN WHO WANTS CHILDREN

    DEAR ABBY: I am a happily married, 26-year-old female with just one problem: I'm afraid to have children. I have always wanted children, and it's something my husband and I often discuss. Anytime we are asked when we plan to start our family, we always say four to five years, but we have been…

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  • DAUGHTER IS HURT BY DRUNKEN MOM'S LOOSE-LIPPED REMARK

    DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Pete," and I are at a point in our lives where we're ready to start a family. We have already started trying. We both have college degrees, jobs and own our home. I have talked with my OB and have started making myself "baby-ready."Friends and most of our family are happy…

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