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  • PAST ABUSE CAUSES PRESENT SHAME FOR HUSBAND IN HIDING

    DEAR ABBY: A couple of years ago, I was arrested for domestic violence against my wife. We are still married, but since then, I have become antisocial. I don't like to go to public gatherings where I know the friends we used to hang out with will be, and I rarely communicate with them. I am…

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  • BRIDE'S BEST FRIEND HESITATES TO STAND UP AT HER WEDDING

    DEAR ABBY: My best friend is getting married. She left me a message asking me to be a bridesmaid. Of course I'm honored, but I don't know what to do. I dislike her fiance. He is disrespectful and mean to her and to their son.I can't stand up with them and pretend to be happy for her when I think…

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  • SEASON SIGNALS TIME TO CHANGE BATTERIES AS WELL AS CLOCKS

    DEAR ABBY: Smoke alarms are one of the greatest fire safety success stories of our time. Since they were introduced in 1975, home fire deaths have been cut in half, even as the nation's population has increased by half. But far too many people let the batteries in their smoke alarms wear out, or…

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  • BAD NEWS DAMPENS DELIGHT OVER BEST FRIEND'S GENEROSITY

    DEAR ABBY: My husband's best friend gave us a very generous gift for our toddler. However, it arrived with the news that the baby he and his girlfriend are expecting may have serious complications, which could result in termination of the pregnancy. Abby, I am also expecting. I know I should send…

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  • HAUNTED-HOUSE DECOR CAUSES FRIGHT FOR NEIGHBORHOOD KIDS

    DEAR ABBY: We have a neighbor who "decorates" his yard for Halloween in the worst way imaginable. Every year it becomes more macabre. He has "bodies" hanging from tree limbs, gravestones with RIP on dirt mounds and other unbelievable atrocities. He thinks it's funny. It is despicable and it scares…

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  • CLEANLINESS THAT'S NEARLY GODLY MAY SET BAR TOO HIGH

    DEAR ABBY: A wonderful man, "Frank," said he was interested in developing a relationship. The problem? He is a super neat freak. A person could live in his garage -- it's that clean. The floor is spotless and everything is in its place. Frank washes and shines his car every second day. When there…

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  • OCCASIONAL HOOKUPS KEEP FLAME ALIVE FOR 10 YEARS

    DEAR ABBY: I have known "Justin" for 10 years. I'm very interested in him. I'm sure he knows it, but we have never talked about it. Once in a blue moon we "hook up," and I'm usually the one to set the date up. We're friends on social media, but weeks -- even months -- can pass without our speaking…

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  • PESKY PEACOCKS ARE FEATURED IN INVITATION TO DINNER PARTY

    DEAR ABBY: A former colleague recently moved nearby and sent us an invitation to dinner at her new residence. She lives in an area that's populated by wild peacocks, which she knew before she moved there. A condition of her invitation is that we (my spouse and I) agree to use a type of high-powered…

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  • SEARCH FOR HUSBAND STUMBLES OVER SCARS ON WOMAN'S LEGS

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 21-year-old woman from the Philippines. I have been insecure all my life. I know I have a pretty face, but I have a lot of scars on my legs from childhood. Because of this I am depressed, unhappy and insecure. I never wear shorts, skirts or dresses that show my legs. Do you think…

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  • WRONG NUMBER LEADS WOMAN TO THINK SHE'S MET MR. RIGHT

    DEAR ABBY: I met a guy over the phone when he called my number by mistake. After a brief conversation, not particularly polite on my part, the call ended. Forty-five minutes later he called me back, saying he couldn't stop thinking about me. I thought, "Who is this goofball?"Over time, my phone has…

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  • VERBAL ABUSE AT DAY CARE CRIES OUT FOR INTERVENTION

    DEAR ABBY: I would like to weigh in on your response to "Day Care Drama in Indiana" (Sept. 1), whose neighbor screams at the children in her day care. I worked for 25 years investigating serious complaints, many involving verbal abuse, against day care providers for my state's licensing agency. It…

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  • HALLOWEEN COWGIRL CAN LEAVE HER PISTOL AT HOME

    DEAR ABBY: Halloween is around the corner, and my 7-year-old daughter has decided to be a cowgirl. She wants the boots, the hat and the gun. Is it appropriate to let her have a holster and an obviously toy gun to accessorize her costume for trick-or-treating? She would not be taking that part of…

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  • CHEAP CANDY MIGHT WORK MAGIC ON HALLOWEEN GOBLINS

    DEAR ABBY: I am a retired widow, crippled with rheumatoid arthritis. Every October, I start dreading Halloween, which I consider to be a legal form of extortion. Living on Social Security, I really don't want to waste money for candy. Also, it is difficult for me to get up and down every five…

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  • WOMAN OBJECTS TO ACCUSATION THAT SHE'S A 'STATUS DIGGER'

    DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing "Tony" for a few weeks. He is kind, caring and will make a great boyfriend, husband and father someday. My problem with him is he thinks I'm a "status digger." (It's similar to a gold digger, but he means I care only about someone's standing in the community.) His…

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  • LIVING TOGETHER MAY END LONG-DISTANCE ENGAGEMENT

    DEAR ABBY: My fiance, "Derrick," and I have been engaged for almost a year. The whole time we've been together he has been overseas. While he has many of the characteristics I look for in a man, he isn't as down-to-earth as I'd like him to be. He's now back in the U.S. for good, and we are living…

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  • WOMAN'S FIRST MARRIAGE IS OVER, BUT THOUGHTS OF HER EX LINGER

    DEAR ABBY: I have a serious problem that's consuming my life. I know people say you never really get over your first love, but I don't know why after six years I still think about my ex on a daily basis. Abby, I am happily married. My husband is the perfect man for me -- understanding, sweet and…

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  • WOMAN WHO ABUSES BOYFRIEND CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO STOP

    DEAR ABBY: I think I have an abuse problem. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and already I feel like he is fed up with me. I don't want to lose him. When I was younger, my father used to abuse me. It was years ago, but I feel like I might have gotten that trait from him. In addition, I…

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  • TRANSGENDER EX-HUSBAND IS EMBARRASSMENT TO HIS SONS

    DEAR ABBY: After 10 years of marriage, my now ex-husband told me he is transgender. He isn't taking hormones, but he makes no attempt to hide his feminine dressing, makeup and wigs from our 6- and 9-year-old sons. They understand little of their dad's new life, other than that their dad likes "girl…

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  • MAN TAKES CANCELED LUNCH DATE AS PERSONAL REJECTION

    DEAR ABBY: My lunch date for today canceled on me. Generally, when a girl does this, I delete her number and move on. But in this instance, it wasn't a first or second date. We have been seeing each other for about a month and have built up some degree of intimacy. Moreover, I know she's not lying…

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  • PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY IS BEST WEAPON IN WAR ON ADDICTION

    DEAR ABBY: I had my last cigarette and drink of alcohol 50 years ago. Back then, excessive drinking, smoking, overeating or nail-biting were signs of weak will, sinfulness, bad upbringing and who knows what else. Fortunately, over the years the pendulum swung, making it possible for literally…

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