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  • TRUCK DRIVER SPREADING HERPES IS OUT OF EX-WIFE'S CONTROL

    DEAR ABBY: Last year I found a bottle of Valtrex in my husband's car. He had been taking the medicine for months. When I asked him about it, he lied. I was devastated when I realized I had been exposed to herpes. He actually tried to say he got it from me, but later he admitted that he had been…

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  • AGING CAREGIVER MUST FIND RESPITE TIME FOR HERSELF

    DEAR ABBY: How can I convince my aging, sick sister-in-law that her feeble husband's care is too much for her at this point? She can barely care for herself, yet she must help him eat, get out of chairs -- everything short of chew his food for him. I have tried telling her she deserves respite care…

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  • LONELY SINGLE MAN WITH FULL HOUSEHOLD WANTS TO DATE AGAIN

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 35-year-old single man. Three years ago, I took legal custody of my niece (who is now 8) to prevent her from becoming a ward of the state. Her parents were drug addicts. Shortly afterward, my mother moved in to help me raise her, which is greatly needed and appreciated. The…

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  • HUSBAND CRAVES COMPANIONSHIP AFTER WIFE ENTERS NURSING HOME

    DEAR ABBY: My wife is in a nursing home and will be for a long time. While I was caring for her at home, I was very lonely. She wasn't there for me except to demand that I do this and that. I did what I could to keep her happy, but nothing worked. I had no life of my own. My life was wrapped around…

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  • ODDS OF GETTING DREAM GIFT DIMINISH FOR BIRTHDAY GIRL

    DEAR ABBY: My birthday is in 26 days and my dad just told me he is not going to get me a birthday present. And I really want an iPod Touch for school. I'm in the fifth grade and everyone in my class has an iPod Touch, iPad or iPhone. EXCEPT ME! My mom said she would get me a present, but it will be…

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  • HUSBAND'S FIRST MARRIAGE IS A SHOCK TO HIS WIDOW

    DEAR ABBY: My husband recently passed away, and among his papers I discovered evidence of another previous marriage. It came as a shock because he had never told me. Should I ask his family how long this previous marriage lasted, or should I let it go and be grateful for the good and loving husband…

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  • ILLUSION OF PERFECT MARRIAGE IS SHATTERED BY MAN'S DISCOVERY

    DEAR ABBY: I always thought that "Lana," my wife of 14 years, and I had the perfect marriage. When I discovered she was having an affair, it hit me like a train wreck. After many weeks of trying to discover who she really is, I found out she has had several affairs throughout our marriage. I still…

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  • DIVORCED DAD'S GIRLFRIEND WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS KIDS

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 42-year-old divorced father of two. I have had a girlfriend, "Dawn," for about a year. She has met my kids, but she's still uncomfortable with the "situation." She has concerns about me having been married before, such as having experienced many of the firsts she has yet to enjoy.…

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  • MOTHER BATTLES HER OWN FEARS WHILE RAISING HAPPY DAUGHTER

    DEAR ABBY: I had an awful childhood. After I was finally taken into state custody, I cycled through six different foster homes. Because of it I have struggled with mental health issues for as long as I can remember. I'm 28 now and have a 4-year-old daughter who is everything to me. The problem is,…

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  • NEWS ABOUT CHEATING BOYFRIEND IS AN UNWELCOME REVELATION

    DEAR ABBY: What are the ethics in outing a cheater? Someone I know has been cheated on by her boyfriend for two years -- about as long as she has been with him. I know this because the woman he has been cheating with is someone I know. Last week, I told the girl her boyfriend has been cheating. Now…

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  • PARTNER'S SLOPPY APPEARANCE REFLECTS POORLY ON BUSINESS

    DEAR ABBY: I co-own a professional service business with a woman whose appearance has deteriorated significantly over the last three or four years. "Mary" was never a fashion plate, but she used to be presentable for business. Four years ago, she put on quite a bit of weight. She refuses to buy new…

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  • INDEPENDENT DAUGHTER WANTS LESS HELP FROM HER PARENTS

    DEAR ABBY: I graduated from college, and I'm starting my first full-time job and moving into my first apartment. I bought all the furniture for it, but needed help moving in. My parents decided to drive five hours to my new home to transport the furniture in a truck they rented -- without…

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  • SUSPICIONS CONFIRMED: PROOF OF INFIDELITY IS FOUND ONLINE

    DEAR ABBY: I had suspicions my dad was cheating on my mom, and when she found a mysterious earring in the house one day, I knew I had to find the proof. I went into his iPad and checked his email/Facebook and IMs and found he apparently has a girlfriend. She works in his office and is also married…

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  • DAUGHTER APPALLED BY CALLOUS TREATMENT OF HER DAD'S ASHES

    DEAR ABBY: My dad died in April after a brief illness. Before he passed, my stepmother encouraged him to donate his body to science because she is to be buried with her first husband, and she didn't want the expense of burying Dad. I went to pick up my father's ashes as she requested. When I got…

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  • THE KEY TO BEING WELL-LIKED IS TO MAKE YOURSELF LIKABLE

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 15-year-old girl. When I'm with the high school group of kids at my church, I try to extend myself and talk, but they never reciprocate much. I always have to try to think of something to say and be careful I don't embarrass myself. Especially around guys, I feel awkward and…

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  • HUSBAND'S 'EDUCATIONAL' DVDS GET FLUNKING GRADE FROM WIFE

    DEAR ABBY: I am a full-time mother of three young children and have been married for nine years. Since the beginning, my husband has pushed to have things "his way." He struggles with his temper and has yelled at me over little things. We have met with a counselor and were showing improvement in…

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  • READERS TAKE ABBY TO TASK FOR ANSWER TO OBESE WOMAN

    DEAR ABBY: Your response to "Offended Daughter" (Aug. 10), whose mother didn't like her lounging in a bikini top at her house because of her weight, was inconsiderate, irresponsible and, frankly, offensive. You started off well, advising her to consider her mother's preference because it's her…

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  • AIDE SHOULD GO TO PRINCIPAL'S OFFICE FOR TALKING OUT OF SCHOOL

    DEAR ABBY: I have overheard a person who works as an aide at the local elementary school talking about the students -- discussing their special needs, behavioral issues, etc. I think it is appalling that she's relaying confidential information to others in the community. The rule for employees here…

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  • WRITTEN THANK-YOUS FOR GIFTS SHOW HEARTFELT APPRECIATION

    DEAR ABBY: I just turned 14 and had a small party with relatives to celebrate it. A few days later my mom bought me thank-you cards and said I should send them out. I told the people "thank you" for the gifts in person. I don't think thank-you cards are necessary for something as small as…

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  • PARENTS PERSIST IN THINKING GAY SON WILL STRAIGHTEN OUT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a gay male college student who is out and comfortable with who I am -- 99 percent of the time. When I was in high school, I tried to come out to my parents and it didn't go smoothly. They had an emotional crisis for a day, then shrugged it off as "just another teenage phase." After…

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