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  • HUSBAND HOPES WIFE IS WILLING TO SPICE UP THEIR LOVE LIFE

    DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for quite a while, and our intimate life became monotonous and unimaginative a long time ago. Over the years I have suggested we try things like role-playing and other non-extreme variations during intimate times. My suggestions were met with rolling eyes…

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  • WOMAN ISN'T REALLY ATTRACTED TO THE MAN OF HER DREAMS

    DEAR ABBY: I am considered to be a quite attractive -- easily a nine or a 10 -- professional dancer here in Las Vegas. I recently met a guy who has literally met almost all my dream qualities for a life partner, husband and father of my future children. The problem is, I'm not attracted to him.…

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  • SHOELESS DAD WANTS SLIPPERS INSIDE HIS DAUGHTERS' HOMES

    DEAR ABBY: We have a couple of daughters who have told us we must take off our shoes if we visit them (and our beautiful grandchildren). Although I'm not sure of their reasons for this, I do know for sure that we have never tracked any kind of dirt into their house when we visited. In fact, our…

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  • MOM SAYS DOLLHOUSE BUILT WITH LOVE ISN'T UP TO CODE

    DEAR ABBY: My 7-year-old granddaughter, "Kelly," wanted a dollhouse for Christmas. I had a friend build a basic frame, shingled roof, chimney and shutters, then I decorated it. I did everything by hand. I wallpapered each room, made little rugs and crocheted lace curtains. There were even little…

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  • TEEN, FAMILY GRASP FOR ANSWERS FOLLOWING BEST FRIEND'S SUICIDE

    DEAR ABBY: My 15-year-old daughter's best friend took her life today. My daughter is devastated. As a parent, I don't know what to do. I'm afraid to go to bed this evening because I want her to fall asleep before me. It hurts not being able to take that pain from your child. I want to hold her in…

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  • NEW DESK COMES WITH A VIEW CO-WORKER WOULD LIKE TO AVOID

    DEAR ABBY: I like my job a lot, but I have recently been assigned a different desk. I now sit next to someone who regularly draws his blood with a lancet and gives himself a shot for his diabetes just a foot away from me.I am extremely uncomfortable around blood and needles. I don't want to make…

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  • READERS SHARE MANY REASONS FOR CHOOSING TO BE CREMATED

    DEAR ABBY: I just finished the letter from "Plotting and Planning in Arizona" (Oct. 5), regarding why cremation is so popular. There are also other reasons.My father, a WWII veteran, had planned to be buried in a national veterans' cemetery. After his death we were informed that the only option…

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  • SWINGING PARENTS UNDERMINE VALUES TAUGHT TO THEIR KIDS

    DEAR ABBY: A short time ago, I discovered my parents are "swingers." I had picked up my mother's phone to take a picture and an incoming text caught my attention. When I read it and investigated further, I learned the truth. I don't mind what they do with their marriage, and I respect their…

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  • GAY GRANDMA IS UNHAPPY BEING SHIELDED FROM SON'S KIDS

    DEAR ABBY: I came out of the closet when my son was 4. I thought I had taught him not to judge because of a label. He's now 30, with a wife and two adorable children who own my heart. When my granddaughter was born, my partner and I were at the hospital and have visited with them often and they…

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  • COUPLE'S AGE GAP POSES CHALLENGES TO BE OVERCOME

    DEAR ABBY: I am dating a man, "Richard," who is significantly older -- 17 years, actually. I'm in my mid-20s. I have no problem with it, as I have always been attracted to men who are older and have their lives together.My parents are cool with it, but I know they have their reservations. Richard…

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  • MAN'S INTEREST IN OLD FLAME IS REKINDLED AT 25TH REUNION

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a happily married man with a great family that's mostly grown.In high school I was infatuated with a girl, "Stacy," who was the center of attention, especially from the guys. As seniors we were close, but we never dated. When I left for college, we lost track. In college I became…

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  • GIRL KEEPS PARENTS IN THE DARK ABOUT NEW ROOMMATE'S IDENTITY

    DEAR ABBY: I am moving out of my parents' place soon to be with one of my best guy friends, but I haven't told my parents who I'm moving in with. In the past, they have caught on to my lies when I was going through my "phase," but I have been trying hard to be honest with them, so I don't want to…

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  • LOSING A LUNG IS NO DETERRENT FOR MAN ADDICTED TO SMOKING

    DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Fred," lost a lung to cancer 14 years ago due to smoking. He is one of the lucky ones to survive a deadly cancer.Even though he has only one lung, he continues to smoke "secretly." I have begged, offered in-house treatment, anything to get him to stop, to no avail. What is…

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  • DRUNK DRIVER CAN'T FORGIVE HIMSELF FOR TAKING A LIFE

    DEAR ABBY: I am 42 years old and a divorced father of two. Earlier this year, I caused a fatal drunk driving accident. Once I came to and realized what I had done, I accepted responsibility and pled guilty to my crime. I have never before been in trouble with the authorities.I believe God has…

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  • BEFORE YOU LOSE YOUR COOL, FIND OUT WHAT MAKES YOU HOT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a good person, but when I get frustrated over something, I fly off the handle. I date, have several close friends and a good job in a field I enjoy.Stresses in life are normal. But sometimes I blow up over things. When it happens, I can see my co-workers and friends are taken aback…

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  • SEARCH LOW-COST OPTIONS FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING

    DEAR ABBY: In many advice columns it is often suggested to "seek professional help," such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. This is a practical solution, but most often quite expensive, to the point of being prohibitive.Where else can one turn to find assistance that will be practical, ongoing and…

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  • WOMAN SHOULD LEAVE HER ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND ASAP

    DEAR ABBY: I have been with "Paul" for 10 months. We met shortly after he and his fiancee broke up. Because of her, he had gone into debt, and after their breakup he lost his job.I have helped him with money from the moment we met. He's still jobless and his unemployment benefit will end shortly,…

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  • MOM HOPES FIANCE CAN BE A BUDDY TO HER YOUNG SON

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 47-year-old woman with a 12-year-old son. I met a wonderful man I'll call "Daryl," and we have been dating for about three years. We recently became engaged and are planning to be married this spring. I have had one concern for a while, and I probably should have already addressed…

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  • SENIOR PROJECT INVESTIGATES WHAT MAKES PEOPLE HAPPY

    DEAR ABBY: I am a senior in high school. As part of the English program, each senior must assemble a senior project. For mine, I decided to research happiness. I have researched what makes Americans happy and the brain process that takes place when people feel joy. As someone who reads questions…

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  • SECRET OF SON'S PARENTAGE WEIGHS ON MOTHER'S MIND

    DEAR ABBY: I am worried about how my 10-year-old son, "Jake," will take some news he's not aware of yet. I wasn't able to have children, so my husband and I turned to in-vitro, using a donated egg from a family member. We thank God this method worked.Our plan was to explain it to Jake when he got…

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