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  • READERS HAVE STRONG VIEWS ON CLAIMING SEATS IN CHURCH

    DEAR ABBY: May I comment on your response to "Got Here First in Pennsylvania" (Jan. 7), who asked whether someone sitting at the end of a church pew should move if someone comes and says it's his or her "favorite seat"?There are many reasons why people remain sitting at the end of a pew: an allergy…

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  • WOMAN'S EXPLOSIVE BOYFRIEND MUST LEARN TO CONTROL HIS FUSE

    DEAR ABBY: I have known "Dean" for 10 years. We have been living together for two. Since the beginning, he has struggled with depression, anxiety and anger issues. Occasionally he has explosive episodes where he'll throw things and punch or kick inanimate objects. Recently things escalated. He was…

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  • FRIEND REGRETS OFFER TO ROOM WITH WOMAN GETTING DIVORCE

    DEAR ABBY: My best friend is going through a divorce and has moved back in with her parents, who are driving her crazy. She doesn't have enough money to live on her own, so I offered to have her move in with me.The more I think about it, the more I regret having said it. I enjoy living by myself.…

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  • EXCITEMENT OVER PREGNANCY IS DULLED BY HUSBAND'S RESTRAINT

    DEAR ABBY: I have just found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant. Both sets of parents are overjoyed -- it's their first grandchild -- and I'm happy because this was the plan all along. My husband wants kids, and this is our first baby.My husband isn't the kind to wear his heart on his sleeve. I have tried…

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  • FRIEND'S FOOD CRITICISM IS HARD FOR COUPLE TO SWALLOW

    DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have a friend, "Jonah," whom we love dearly, but he has no filter. He's college-educated, has a white-collar job and is over 50. The problem is, anytime we invite him for dinner or take food items to his house, he makes horrible remarks about my wife's cooking, particularly…

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  • GIRL'S EMBARRASSMENT IS SIGNAL IT'S TIME FOR A SHAVING LESSON

    DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are having a disagreement about one of our daughters (we have three). Our 8-year-old is very hairy. It is noticeable, and she doesn't like wearing shorts, skirts or dresses because of it. Her classmates tease her about it.I want to teach her how to shave her legs or show…

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  • SEXUALLY ACTIVE WOMEN MUST BE VIGILANT ABOUT PROTECTION

    DEAR ABBY: I'm writing to warn as many other young women as I can about the dangers of unprotected sex. I thought I had met the man of my dreams. I knew from the beginning he had a girlfriend in his hometown, but he assured me he was breaking it off, so I didn't think twice about starting a…

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  • HUSBAND'S FAMILY MEETINGS LEAVE WIFE OUT OF THE LOOP

    DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Rory," and I both come from close families. Whenever something is wrong, troublesome, etc., in either of our families, we have meetings where the entire immediate family comes together to discuss the issue.The problem is, I am not invited to his! It's not like I'm a recent…

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  • FRIENDLY DIVORCE MAY BE BEST FOR WIFE IN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE

    DEAR ABBY: I'm 38, married for 16 years and the mother of two small children. I was recently diagnosed with ovarian cancer and had a hysterectomy to remove it.My husband has cheated more than once in the past, and since my recovery I have realized I never forgave him for it. I kept quiet and…

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  • MOM THREATENS TO FIGHT SON'S SILENCE WITH SILENCE OF HER OWN

    DEAR ABBY: My 34-year-old, single, independent son completely ignores me. He won't answer texts, emails, postal mail or phone calls. Weeks and months go by with no meaningful conversation between us. I am sick of it, and tired of being treated so disrespectfully. I thought I had raised my son to be…

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  • PREGNANT TEEN WEIGHS BEST OPTIONS FOR HER BABY'S FUTURE

    DEAR ABBY: I have had a very strained relationship with my father for many years. My mother and I are not close because she was incarcerated for most of my life until recently. I am 16 now, and just found out I'm pregnant. No one knows except the father of my child. For some reason, he is thrilled…

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  • MOTHER OF FIVE TESTS LIMITS OF COUSIN'S ABILITY TO HELP

    DEAR ABBY: My cousin "Opal" and I grew up together. We were always close. She has gone through some rough times, and I have been trying to help her out. She has five children (ages 10 to 2) and I have one child who is 13. The fathers of her children are not helpful. I recently completed my…

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  • FAVORITE UNCLE REVEALS HIMSELF WITH A SHOCKING SEXT MESSAGE

    DEAR ABBY: I am heartbroken. I have an uncle "Tony" I'm close to, who is like my best friend. I was sending him pictures of a football game and he sent me back a very inappropriate picture of himself. He says it was a "mistake," that it was supposed to go to his wife, but the text message he sent…

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  • FATHER'S NOISY LOVEMAKING IS PAIN TO DAUGHTER'S EARS

    DEAR ABBY: I'm the mother of an 18-year-old daughter. Her dad and I are divorced and she lives with him. We were married 20 years and I know he's a good parent, except for one thing. My daughter has told me her father and his partner sometimes engage in very loud lovemaking when she's in her room,…

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  • MAN WHO DOESN'T WANT KIDS SHOULD LOOK FOR ANOTHER WOMAN

    DEAR ABBY: When I turned 25, after considering it for years, I went to my doctor and told him I wanted to become sterile. I got a vasectomy two months later. I haven't had any regrets, and now at 27, I'm still firmly convinced that I don't want children -- ever.I started dating a woman a year ago,…

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  • WIFE'S CLOSE FRIENDSHIP LEAVES HUSBAND FEELING ODD MAN OUT

    DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Connie," and I have been together for 30 years and have a wonderful marriage. She's a schoolteacher, and I travel on business often. I think the time away from each other is good; it gives us a chance to enjoy some "me" time.Connie is a genuinely nice person and makes friends…

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  • DAD SAYS GIRLS MUST PAY THEIR OWN WAY AT COLLEGE

    DEAR ABBY: We have two granddaughters who will be going to college soon. We are in a position to help them with expenses, but we are asking you if we should. We put our daughter through college, and she has a career in the medical field. Her husband has a part-time, low-paying job and has shown no…

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  • COUPLE OVERCOMES OBJECTIONS, CELEBRATES 56TH ANNIVERSARY

    DEAR ABBY: I read the letter (Jan. 19) from the young woman who is concerned about dating someone significantly older. In 1958, when I was 17, I met a man who was 34. He was handsome, easygoing, quiet, and I fell in love. He was a widower with two children -- a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old…

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  • HUNGRY THERAPIST SHOULD PLAN AHEAD FOR LATE-MORNING SNACK

    DEAR ABBY: We have a daughter with severe developmental disabilities. Thankfully, she receives 40-plus hours of in-home therapy a week, which is covered by insurance.Her first therapist arrives at 7:30 a.m. and leaves at 11:30 a.m. Some days, she will pick up something to eat on the way. Most days,…

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  • LOVING STEPFATHER TEACHES WIFE HOW TO ACCEPT GAY SON

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 91-year-old reader with a story to tell. In 1958, I married a man every woman would have loved to have. He was one of a kind. I had two boys from a previous marriage, and this wonderful man adopted them.In 1963, before homosexuality was understood or openly accepted, I discovered…

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