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  • SHARED FINANCES ARE THE TIES THAT BIND MAN AND HIS MOM

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a 22-year-old college student. My boyfriend of seven years and I are engaged. Because we were high school sweethearts, we have watched each other grow into the people we are today. For the most part, I'm very proud of the person he has become. When I quit my full-time job to continue…

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  • RESPONSIBILITY FOR BIRTH CONTROL FALLS ON BOTH MEN AND WOMEN

    DEAR ABBY: I am sick to death of hearing about people who have too many kids and the hardship it imposes. Common sense for the women is to use birth control, but why don't men step up to the plate and have a vasectomy? I had one years ago and it has worked well for me. I never hear it mentioned on…

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  • WIFE IS UNWILLING TO SHOULDER BURDEN OF MOTHER-IN-LAW'S CARE

    DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law is 80 and in the early stages of Alzheimer's. She lives alone an hour and a half from us. She also has a professional who takes care of her once a week. My husband, "Fred," goes to help and entertain her every weekend, and I sometimes accompany him. She has enough money…

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  • COUPLE WEIGHS RECONCILIATION FIVE YEARS AFTER VIOLENT SPLIT

    DEAR ABBY: Five years ago, my husband got drunk and physically attacked me in front of his family. It was horrible. I was in shock, and our relationship never recovered. The next four years were a series of court visits for custody of our child and eventually a divorce. Last year, his mother began…

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  • RING FROM BROKEN ENGAGEMENT GETS ANOTHER CHANCE TO SHINE

    DEAR ABBY: I was engaged several years ago, but the engagement didn't last. We broke up and I gave him back his ring. We remain close friends, however, and hang out at least once a week. I have been dating another guy for a couple of years, and we're thinking about getting engaged. I am wondering…

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  • BABY'S ADOPTION WILL LEAVE HOLE IN GRANDMOTHER'S HEART

    DEAR ABBY: My teenaged daughter will be giving birth soon, and she has decided to place her baby for adoption. I have told her that whatever she decides, I will support her decision. Here is the difficult part: This will still be my biological grandchild. When this beautiful child is lovingly…

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  • KNUCKLE-CRACKING HABIT BRINGS CALM AND CRAZINESS TO FAMILY

    DEAR ABBY: My future son-in-law recently moved in with us for financial reasons. He's 27 and a nice guy, but he's a habitual knuckle-cracker. He cracks every finger of each hand twice (back and forth) every half-hour or so. He also cracks his neck and wrists, but less frequently. As an added bonus,…

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  • GIRL SUSPECTS HER GRANDPA HAS BECOME A DIRTY OLD MAN

    DEAR ABBY: I am a 12-year-old girl, and my grandpa is 75. I love him very much, but I have noticed lately that he stares at women's breasts when they are jogging, and he smiles when a gust of wind blows a girl's skirt up. This embarrasses me, and I am embarrassed for him. He must have realized it…

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  • FAMILY FEARS FOR TEEN FALLING UNDER BOYFRIEND'S INFLUENCE

    DEAR ABBY: My son's wife passed away very recently. He works days, so I have been helping him by looking after his 15-year-old daughter, "Leyla."Leyla recently told her father that her boyfriend, "Dylan," has asked her to vandalize things -- TV, Blu-ray player, etc. -- if her daddy enrolls her in a…

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  • COUSIN'S TAG-ALONG KIDS PUSH THE LIMIT OF BRIDE'S GUEST LIST

    DEAR ABBY: I am being married later this year, and I'm planning my guest list. My cousin "Emily" has five young children who I'm making an exception to invite. She lives across the country, so she's starting to book her plane reservations. Emily just announced that she's being remarried and her…

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  • HUSBAND WHO RELIVES HIS PAST SHOULD FOCUS ON HIS PRESENT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm married to the love of my life. I can't imagine loving a man more than I love "Wayne," and I know he feels the same about me. The problem is, he's always telling stories about things he has done, including past relationships, in graphic detail. I have heard all of them repeatedly,…

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  • YOUNG MAN WITH HEART SCAR HAS OPTIONS FOR COVERING IT UP

    DEAR ABBY: You printed a letter from "Self-Conscious in Georgia" (May 15), a young man who is insecure about the scar from his heart surgery. I have had three surgeries for congenital defects, my first at 2 years old. Because many women's fashions expose the upper chest, I applied anti-scar…

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  • ANGRY WIFE RESENTS HUSBAND FOR HIDING NEWS OF HIS HEALTH

    DEAR ABBY: When my husband is sick or needs to have surgery, he refuses to tell his family and doesn't want me to. This puts me in a very awkward position. I'm damned if I do tell them because he will be upset with me, and damned if I don't because his family won't trust me, and I don't want things…

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  • NURSE OBJECTS WHEN MOTHER THREATENS GIRL WITH FLU SHOT

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a nurse who has been providing flu vaccinations for customers in a big box store. Most of them regard us health care workers as people who want to keep them healthy. My problem is parents who use me as a threat of punishment for their kids. I have had parents drag their screaming,…

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  • HEAD-OVER-HEELS ROMANTICS SHOULD COME BACK TO EARTH

    DEAR ABBY: I have been single for a couple of years. I have always been levelheaded when it comes to romance, but I'm finding myself unable to control my feelings about the new man I'm seeing. "Brent" is smart, intelligent, sweet and loving. We have been dating for a little over a week and he has…

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  • MAN'S AFFAIR HAS ENDED, BUT MARRIAGE REMAINS IN LIMBO

    DEAR ABBY: My husband of 30 years had an affair a year and a half ago. We struggled through the aftermath and are trying to restart our relationship. He remained in touch with the other woman until she finally pulled the plug on him, and now he has no interest in talking with me about our…

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  • DAUGHTER'S OBSESSIVE STALKER RATCHETS UP HIS ACCUSATIONS

    DEAR ABBY: I am very concerned about my 33-year-old daughter's safety. A man in his mid-60s, someone she met at a previous job, has become obsessed with her. He has declared his love for her, divorced his wife and slathered my struggling, single daughter with gifts over the last three years. She…

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  • WOMAN MISTAKEN FOR COUGAR WANTS A BIG CAT, NOT A CUB

    DEAR ABBY: I'm a single woman in my late 30s and have an 18-year-old daughter. When I am alone or out with my girlfriends, I am constantly hit on by younger men. My girlfriends say it's because I don't look my age and that I should feel flattered. Well, I am not a "cougar," and I don't get turned…

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  • ATTENTIVE PARENTS CAN PREVENT KIDS BEING LEFT ALONE IN CARS

    DEAR ABBY: It disturbs me greatly that we keep reading about parents leaving their children in cars, whether it be absentmindedness, stress or downright intentional. It needs to stop. I'm hoping car manufacturers can come up with an idea -- maybe a sensor that once the doors are closed and locked,…

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