Dietary Restrictions Force Woman To Fend For Herself

Nope-the mother-in-law seems to me like she's never done that before, so I would be wondering, too-oooh! I don't think the woman is overreacting.

2 - I think you know the difference between being massaged and being felt up. I would have moved the second her hand wandered down to my buns. Your hubby's mama is a little wacky.

1 - A husband who would let his wife go hungry because he's worried about what people will think is an aszclown. I was in that position for years and always brought something I could snack on. Neither my mate, fellow diners, servers or chefs thought it was at all inappropriate.

2. Say what? And why didn't you turn around right then and there and ask "Um, what are you doing?" Usually that should be enough for anybody to stop touching you if you're bothered by that. As for the bedroom--that's up in the air. As long as a visitor has a place to sleep should be the only concern imo.

I must say I'm annoyed at the advice given. Some people only like to be touched by certain people. I've never been pregnant but the whole thing reminds me of people going up to pregnant women and touching their belly. Yeah, I know some probably don't mind or don't care. But I'm sure so many are cringing on the inside and mentally screaming "ARGH! STOP TOUCHING MY STOMACH!"

2 - Your mil touches you inappropriately and insists on sleeping in your bed. I wonder what other boundaries she's pushed or crossed with you. What else has her son defended her for?

Um, yeah....letter #2 sounds kinda weird. And there's NO way in HECK I'd let my in-laws sleep in the master bedroom. But maybe she can just use the "Stop- that TICKLES" excuse to get the grabby lady off her back without ruffling feathers.....

In letter #2, I am absolutely floored that she would criticize a woman's right to establish boundaries. If this had been her father-in-law, I'm sure her response would have been different. Just because it was two women doesn't mean the daughter-in-law doesn't have the right to establish her own boundaries. The mother-in-law should have been told to keep her hands to herself.

The master bedroom thing is honestly a little creepy too. *shudder*

# 2
Yep , she wants you.
And , Someone needs to remind Abby what the definition of " master bedroom " is ,
and who it is that dictates where people sleep .
Here's a hint - It's not the guests.

LW2: Wow. What the LW described doesn't sound like "just a backrub". And if someone is uncomfortable with physical contact, they have every right to put a stop to it. Would Abby's answer have been the same if it was her father-in-law, or if the LW was a son-in-law? Same-gender violation is still a violation.

"Lighten up"? Would it really have been so bad to tell the mother in law "This makes me uncomfortable, could you please not do it anymore?"

L#3: You can do whatever you want to make your message clear. Just understand that the point you intend to make is not the one that your guests will remember.

LW#3 - Vengence is never the answer. Take it from someone who committed it recently and is racked with guilt and regret. You will only hurt your son even with DA's advice. Just suck it up and be the bigger person. I wish I had.

LW2, really? All you have to do is jump a mile and screech as if you're uncontrollably startled at the random touching. Whatever the MIL's intentions, she won't pull that again!

Hehe...I had to ask the hubby.......

Would you ever tell me I couldn't bring crackers to a resturant if I was gluten intolerant.....No

Would you eat a roll in front of me while I had nothing to eat......No

Would it surprise you if I suddenly smack the roll out your hand if you did.....Ahahaha No ;)

I love my husband....But seriously.....this really comes down to her wanting to eat with friends the same as the husband did......She wanted to share a meal eating a bread type at the same time others were eating bread.....not eating at home or in the car but with them. And that she has a husband that cares more about appearances than her happiness and comfort.

in violated in southern california you answer was way off base . she should have politely & discretely informed her mother in law that such actions made her extremely uncomfortable & would she please refrain from doing that.

Abby missed the boat on #2. A back rub takes place on one's back, not one's behind, unless it's foreplay.

Mitzvah Mama, You say you both want to do the right thing and also let everyone know that you did all the planning by yourself. Well, letting everyone know that, and making this about you and not your son is never going to be the right thing. Do the party for your son and be thankful you have a healthy son of whom you can be proud. Do not make this about your issues with your Ex and do not embarrass your son by acting like a vindictive child on his day.

You know, with LW #2's MIL, it would be real important to keep her away from any young girls at family gatherings. Or even wiser to consider not inviting her at all. Otherwise in five years we will have a letter from her family wondering if they have to invite her over for Christmas after she has been convicted of child molestation of one of her fifteen-year-old nieces. As has been said many times here; once a molester, always a molester.

LW #3: Your son has been studying his mitzvot, so he could probably remind you about the prohibition against lashon hara--"the evil tongue," harmful gossip--which applies even if what you're saying is true, like that your ex is a deadbeat. Hold your head high and focus on your son that day.

I was a "touch me not" baby, child, adult...if her hand would have slithered up my backbone, I would have jumped out of my skin and my elbow might have hit her in the nose...lesson learned.