During pregnancy, you naturally begin to form a deep bond with your baby. Many things such as hormones and the sheer joy of carrying a child helps to build the foundation for a strong attachment between mother and child. Unfortunately, fathers do not get to share in such complex pregnancy bonding rituals. In order to properly bond with the baby, the father must involve himself in every aspect of taking care of the infant after it's born.
Here are a few easy tips on how help dad form a deep bond with his baby.
Involve dad in all aspects of the baby's care. New moms often undergo a natural protective surge and they begin to think that dad can't do anything as good as mom. If you feel yourself wanting to intrude and tell your husband how to hold the bottle, burp the baby or simply rock the baby -- stop. You should turn away and give dad and baby a bit of private time. Remember, dad loves the baby every bit as much as you do and he is trying to do everything right.
The first time your baby cries in the middle of the night you automatically spring up and move into action, but take turns with your husband. Let him do the night shift feeding if you don't breast feed and allow him change the late night diapers. The quiet night hours are the perfect time for dad and baby to bond.
Let dad give the baby a bath sometimes. Baths are usually very soothing for baby and dad.
If you aren't breast feeding, let dad feed the baby. Nothing is more heartwarming than holding your baby while it eats. Let dad share in some of that enjoyment.
Allowing dad to shoulder half of the baby's caretaking chores will help your baby and husband form a deep attachment to each other. Some mothers even begin to feel a bit of jealousy over the closeness between dad and baby. Rein in any jealousy that you might feel, and rejoice in the knowledge that your baby and husband have formed a deep attachment to each other that will continue for a lifetime.
- Family Health