Husband Behind The Wheel Is Cruising For A Bruising

1. Lost me at teaching them a lesson. I hate to sound completely cynical and believe me when I say I'm not trying to throw a blanket over everybody and say that every person out there is a complete psychopath. Just know that you do have psychopaths out there. People that won't hestitate to do any sort of damage to your vehicle, you, your family or your property. Your husband needs to graduate from elementary school.

Are you kidding me with that answer? You really think he's going to pay attention to a book if he's not listening to his own wife? I hate to say it but immature people like the writer's husband will only learn when it happens. I just hope nobody else is in the car with him when the crap hits the fan.

#1. What "lesson" is your husband teaching these people? That he's a jerk?

LW1: "Jon is a good driver" and the entire rest of the letter don't match.

L1. I'm Aghast! (Aghasted?). Does Abby really believe giving a Bone-Head a pamphlet on The Rules of the Road is going to correct a problem that your nearest relative (by marriage) screaming in the passenger seat doesn't?

LW1 I know of what she speaks. I too live in Houston, I would say to her husband... ARE YOU NUTS... You can't control what other drivers do and you aren't teaching anyone any lessons. You are only making the problem worse. If they want to drive fast... get the heck out of their way. You are putting yourself and your family in danger you fool. I'd refuse to ride with such an idiot. If it isn't an emergency... don't go anywhere at night. Otherwise, insist you are the one driving. Or agree to meet him at your destination. He doesn't have the right to put you at risk for is own foolish ideas.

LW1 - Man, I was getting road rage just reading about Jon. That is some stupid behavior. Talk about passive-aggressive. If he does this every time you're out in the car, I would consider spending the extra money for gas worth the cost (maybe make him pay?).

If all that mother has to worry about is whether making her daughter write sentences was horrible parenting, I'd say she's done pretty well for herself. I wish I had her problems! LOL

"Abby", you slightly missed on the answer to LW1. His driving behavior IS a form of road rage. It would be one thing if he was only a "nuisance" driver by refusing to move to the right, but if he speeds up to "teach the other driver a lesson", he is an agressive and dangerous driver.

L1 - My husband would get impatient with the person in front of him if he/she didn't move fast enough when the light turned green. He would even tap the bumper of the car! The first time he did it, I told him if he EVER did that again while I was in the car I'd divorce him. Then I slapped his butt into therapy for his anger and control issues. To his credit, he went along with the plan and mellowed out quite a bit.

#2 My parents never made me write lines. They wrote their own lines across my butt with a belt. Did I hate it? Of course I did. That's why they call it punishment!

LW1 - Your husband will probably not change his behavior until there is an incident. I had a similar issue with my wife. She would text while driving, or check out other things on her phone (maps, weather radar, etc.). I had repeatedly asked her not to text, or mess with her phone while she was behind the wheel, and our 4 children also would bring this up. She always felt that she was able to handle this safely and she never changed her behavior. One weekend, two years ago, my wife was taking our daughter out of town so she could do some shopping and visit with family. When she got to the cities, she was looking at a map on her phone while driving so she could find her turn to the shopping center. My 10 year old daughter would have been 12 this year.

I think we've met Jon. He's one of those people who shows up in the forums and starts telling people what to write, how to write, and how long their posts ought to be. And woe betide the person who looks askance at his helpful suggestions! Jon is a troll.

When I was in my 20's I used to drive the same way. It would tick my wife off to no end. I wisened up the minute we had kids. Now the world can pass me as long as my family is safe.

LW1 - Clearly her husbands issue is not that he doesn't understand the law, and his behaviour goes beyond 'childish'. The fact that he completely disregards her fear is really disturbing and as usual Abby completely misses the important issue in the letter and focuses on the surface issue. He doesn't need a driving lesson he needs therapy.

LW #1, This is easy peasy. Get the number for the local highway patrol that accepts texts. Next time he is driving unsafely with you in the car quietly send a text saying that there is an unsafe driver on such and such a highway, Texas license plate 123456, of such and such a color and make.

And this is why men pay higher auto insurance premiums.

My ex liked to make a turn in front of an oncoming car. He always waited to the last minute I was on the side of the oncoming car. It scared me and put me in fear of my life. I divorced that man many years ago. I do all my own driving.

i lived in san antonio,TX for 6 mo in 2010 and spent many wknds travelling all around the state. i have been all around the coutry, but driving in TX was scary. most people drive very large trucks/suv's and some drivers are incredibly agressive, dangerous, and reckless. several times i was forced onto the shoulder of the road by larger vehicles when trying to enter or exit the highway. 1st time i thought it was an accident. after the 3rd time i was told it's a common practice in some places. the other drivers were playing 'chicken' with you to get into your space on the road- usually in heavy traffic. they saw you, and they were driving into you on purpose. maybe for an insurance scam, maybe impatient, maybe road rage.
LW1-blocking traffic could cause your death. speeding to keep from being passed may provoke someone to run you off the road. tell your stubborn husband to stop it or leave you at home!!!!!

Actually, "Jon" is *not* a good driver, Ms. Houston.

LW2 - Well of course she hated it. It was punishment. It wasn't supposed to be something she enjoyed. Why would you feel bad about it? My mom only spanked me once. When I moaned, "Oh yeah, baby. Make it hurt" she realized I wasn't being punished so went another route. You need to find something more important to worry about.