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    Mom Who Made Son Walk to School Is Child Abuser -- Seriously?

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    COMMENTARY | Well, Stanley, here's another fine mess.

    Valerie Borders, an Arkansas mom, made her 10-year-old son Nequavion walk to school after being suspended (for the fifth time) from riding the school bus. Was she congratulated? Nope. As per ABC News, Mom was charged with child endangerment and faces one year in jail and a $1,000 fine.

    Let's unwrap the child abuse charges. KAIT says walk to school was longish (4.5 miles). A compassionate, public-spirited (or nosy, bored) bank security guard spotted the lad trudging to school and called the police. The tween boy implored the officer, "Please sir, don't take me home or my mother will beat me." So very Dickensian.

    It was also coldish, 30 degrees, though in my home state of Michigan, that's a balmy spring breeze. Kids walk daily through cold and snow in our area. Stores also sell inclement weather apparel in kids' sizes, (Nequavion was wearing such a garment). Anyway, the concern wasn't weather as much as stranger danger or injury, said officer Lyle Waterworth. He encourages other helpful citizens to call the police when they see kids walking alone.

    Segue. I find no fault with the police officer for checking this out. As a mandatory reporter, he has to; it's the law. He may have suspected that Nequavion's "beating" reference was just a deflector shield to save the boy's naughty hide, (which Nequavion told KAIT it basically was). Police officers can't take that chance, however. I do fault them for filing charges, once mom explained that her son had been kicked off the bus repeatedly and was being punished.

    I give Borders props -- I'm not sure, as a mom, I'd have enough moxie to enforce a march to school. As a teacher, I applaud her for following up with consequences. I once disciplined a student for kicking kids (and explained to mom why). Later, I saw that child at the grocery store enjoying an ice cream cone. Mom's explained, "he had such a hard day."

    Admittedly, Nequavion's walk was long, but that's what made it consequentially perfect. As he said, it was mom's way of teaching him to appreciate the bus (kudos, Nequavion, for recognizing that). If she had chauffeured him to school, what would that have taught him? I can see the wheels turning. "Get in trouble--ride in comfy car. Be good--ride crowded, uncomfortable school bus."

    Mom needs a commendation, not jail.

     
    • lrr2hood  •  Syracuse, New York  •  22 days ago
      I think this mom did a great thing. More and more we have people telling us how to raise our kids that either don't have kids or have an agenda. Hitler and Castro made it law that all children belong to the state. Anyone seeing a similarity.
    • guest  •  3 mths ago
      Kudos to this mother!!! She was well in her right to punish her son for getting kicked off the bus FIVE times! If this kid was coddled and robbed someone at gun point at 13 yrs old everyone would be screaming "where was his mother". Parents just cant win!

      I made my 14 yr old walk, in the rain, in the dark, alone, 4 miles to school after he got a smart mouth and told me he didnt need me for anything. I woke his butt up at 5am (school starts at 7:20), told him to get dressed for school and WALK since he didnt need me for anything. He came home that afternoon (had to walk home too) and apologized. Sometimes a reality check is what a child needs to appreciate what they DO have.

      Again KUDOS TO MOM!!!!
      • Richard 3 mths ago
        I agree. A friend of mine's little boy was acting up and he sent him to his room for some quiet time and the kid through a fit in the middle of the living room. What the kid failed to realize was that in his room he had cable t.v., a game system, and a boat load of toys. Dad got in the last word by taking all of those items out and have him lay in his bed without any of things. The kid learned real fast how well he had it after a month of nothing in the room but the four walls look at.
        To this day I still can't figure out how did the parents loose their power over the child, as a whole. I for one do not have children but I see enough around me and it scares even me. Parents are loosing ground on parenthood and the government is becomming all to easy to blame for a vast majority of it.
      • SqueexMama 3 mths ago
        Yep. You can't send kids to their room these days. They have too many gadgets and toys. Send them to YOUR room. LOL
      • SqueexMama 3 mths ago
        However, he said he didn't need you for anything.... so maybe you shouldn't have woke him up either? Then again, if you hadn't... then you'd be stuck with him all day. I see the struggle.
    • Kim  •  Milwaukee, Wisconsin  •  3 mths ago
      and then society wonders why todays kids are delinquents,because a parent trys to instill respect and morals and the government those parents in jail for it give me a break
      • NOEL 3 mths ago
        this is just another example of the erosion of parental rights and the intrusion of the government into child rearing and all aspects of our lives like in the case of the little NC girl who had her bag lunch taken away by the government inspector, this kind of thing will only become more common...this is the kind of overregulation that is a mainstay of a democrat controlled administration. without the deterrent of reelection looming over him, obama will make life miserable for all of us.
      • JLA 3 mths ago
        Dang Noel, I got a pebble in my shoe today. You and I know it is Obama's fault.
      • glen 3 mths ago
        NOEL: Your comment reminds me of the book Hillary Clinton had gost written "It Takes a Town to raise a Child". She also did not believe in being a parent, but wanted the state to raise her child for her! A true liberal just like those in Arkansas.
    • DS  •  3 mths ago
      I completely agree with this article. This mother was fed up with her stupid kid for being consistently suspended from taking the bus. I can't believe that the authorities are complete idiots for calling her a child abuser.
      • Brenda 3 mths ago
        Don't you think someone should look into why the child misbehaves?
      • Darkstar 3 mths ago
        Well why don't you volunteer for the task.
      • Brenda 3 mths ago
        Darkstar--that is not my job. I raised my three children and they never got thrown off the bus and I never had to go to school because they misbehaved in school.
    • Iliana  •  Pharr, Texas  •  3 mths ago
      Props to mom for teaching her son a cold, hard lesson. It's difficult being a parent today because everyone who is either not a parent or not a good one is quick to report you for something or another. The kid was obviously doing something bad enough to be kicked off the bus. Consequence was in order.
      • Jason 3 mths ago
        Unfortunately the cops taught him another lesson - that they are above her and he can simply get her in trouble by involving them.
      • Joe USMC VETERAN 3 mths ago
        I got suspected from the school bus one time and my father wiped my #$%$
      • Joe USMC VETERAN 3 mths ago
        I got caught stealing milk out of the old milk boxes back in the early sixty's, the police came and so did my dad, I was more afraid of my dad then I was the police, my father walk up on that porch an punch me right in the mouth right in front of the police officers, I never did anything like that again! I knew better....
    • Annie  •  Washington, District of Columbia  •  3 mths ago
      As a school bus driver, I agree the mother should be commended.
      • veela 3 mths ago
        The person who thumbed this down would have driven their kid to school and given him ice cream cones on the way.
      • Wraith 3 mths ago
        Veela, as the second person to give this thumbs down, no I would have not driven the child. I would have been walking behind him, prodding the brat on. I'm a former nanny and was pretty darn assertive when it came to dishing out discipline. My future offspring will get more than a small taste of that. Rather I believe the mother deserves her jail time for the very reason she got it. And that isn't the punishment for her son! NO. It's that the kid was ALONE. Forget the cold, bus, etc. It's about his being a vulnerable target for some depraved maniac. What she did then wasn't about correcting the kid's behavior, it was to not deal with it at all and in that laziness, she put her son in danger. Dear God, how don't you people see this?
      • Richard 3 mths ago
        No, I do not know that he was in danger because I am not familiar with the area or the road. However, considering that it is Arkansas I doubt that it is not relatively safe. A good journalist would have cited the last time a child was abducted in the area and how frequently it happens.
    • tech boy  •  3 mths ago
      Making her kid walk to school is not child abuse. Naming him Nequavion is.
    • Yahoo user  •  3 mths ago
      Amen to Sachleteben for writing this article. I couldn't agree more. This is a mother who loves her child and is trying everything she can to make him accept the consequences of his behavior. A four mile walk isn't going to kill a 10-year old and maybe he will think twice before being disruptive. Frankly it is refreshing to hear about a mother who puts the blame squarely on who it needs to be on, her son. Kudos mom.
    • Ann  •  3 mths ago
      Really? Take the kid away from Mom and let him see how good life is in state custody. When I threatened, as a kid to run away, my father offered to pack my bag.
    • dead-on  •  Trinidad, Colorado  •  3 mths ago
      THIS is what parents get due to too much PC in the government.
      And THEN they get blamed for NOT raising their kids right, when the government will NOT LET THEM do so!
    • A Yahoo! User  •  3 mths ago
      4.5 miles is not a long walk and it is not abuse. This is a disgusting abuse of power by the State of Arkansas and I would be very pleased to see this woman released from prison. Are our leaders aware that parents, not they, raise the nation's children, and that the parents, not they, have the responsibility to discipline their child as they see fit?

      Child abuse is when your parents beat you and tell you that they hate you. This is not chlid abuse.
    • Mick  •  3 mths ago
      Boy scouts regularly go on 5 and 10 mile hikes. Big deal. The mom should get a reward for folloewing rhrough with real life consequences!!
    • Taz  •  3 mths ago
      Kids are very spoiled these days. He's lucky he was just made to walk. If my dad found out I was suspended from the bus, he would have knocked me through a wall...and that one lesson would have been enough. I'm exaggerating, but my father believed in obedience. When we ate at the dinner table, we had to say "may I be excused?" when we were done eating. Many kids today lack manners and decorum.
    • SandraK  •  Lexington, Kentucky  •  3 mths ago
      the child learned his lesson and said his mom was teaching him to appreciate the bus... unfortunately with people screaming child abuse for every little thing parents are often afraid to discipline their kids which leads to uncontrollable children... kids have to learn that there are consequences to their behavior.. the earlier they learn the more likely they are to turn out to be well-behaved kids, and later on responsible, respectable adults.
    • Deborah  •  New Orleans, Louisiana  •  3 mths ago
      I agree with this mom. There is and was absolutely nothing wrong with making him walk to school. As for the 30 degree weather, well, if it had not been school time, he would have been out in that same 30 degrees sleding, throwing snowballs (if it was snowing) playing with his friends etc. As for the stranger danger referred to, well, how many abductions have happened right in the childs own yard/home? How many have happened when the kid was in the same store/park/camping trip etc as the parents. If we never allowed our kids out of our sight because of stranger danger then everyone should homeschool and not let their kids play outside. This mom was trying to instill some commmon sense in her kid, she was trying to give him consequences to his own behavior. If she gets put on trial or they try to send her to jail. this entire country better stand up for her, loudly, or we may ne next
    • Henry  •  Richardson, Texas  •  3 mths ago
      As a kid, I took walks longer than 4.5 miles just for fun. Properly clothed and not raining, 30 degrees is not going to hurt anyone. As for stranger danger, you cant spend your life affraid of what could happen. If you did you could never ride in a plane or car for fear it may crash.
    • Paul  •  Charlotte, North Carolina  •  3 mths ago
      tough love wont hurt anyone way to go mom
    • rosie m  •  3 mths ago
      I agree whole heartedly with this article...the mother should get a standing ovation....
    • Just Me  •  Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania  •  3 mths ago
      Are you kidding me?! This mom should get a medal, not fines! Too many parents nowadays don't follow up with "threats" of punishment so their kids never learn any better.
    • jb  •  3 mths ago
      I agree. Mom should be patted on the back and the kid should be back walking to school.
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