http://news.yahoo.com/dear-abby/ Get the latest Dear Abby news headlines from Yahoo! News. Find breaking Dear Abby news, including analysis and opinion on top Dear Abby stories, photos and more. en-US Copyright (c) 2012 Yahoo! Inc. All rights reserved Sat, 26 May 2012 01:00:46 -0400 5 http://news.yahoo.com/dear-abby/ http://l.yimg.com/a/i/us/nws/th/main_142c.gif DEAR ABBY: My friends and I are women in our late 40s and early 50s. Some of us are married, some are single. Individually or as a group we have taken classes, volunteered, gone on cruises, gone to clubs and bars -- you name it.We have noticed that nearly everyone at these activities is either female or with a female as part of a couple. There are loads of single middle-aged women out there joining things and having fun, but there seem to be almost no single middle-aged men. Friends in various parts of the country report the same thing. ...http://news.yahoo.com/single-women-wonder-where-single-men-hiding-050046895.htmlSat, 26 May 2012 01:00:46 -0400Dear Abbysingle-women-wonder-where-single-men-hiding-050046895DEAR ABBY: Would you please remind your many readers that the greatest gift we can give to America's fallen is the gift of remembrance? The legacy of those who have died for our freedom -- from the Revolutionary War to the present -- is something that strengthens and unites Americans. I would like every child to say, "I know why I am free, and I know who died for my freedom."Since 1997, Major League Baseball has stopped all games in progress at 3 p.m. on Memorial Day to observe the National Moment of Remembrance. ...http://news.yahoo.com/pause-during-holiday-thank-those-made-possible-050016229.htmlFri, 25 May 2012 01:00:16 -0400Dear Abbypause-during-holiday-thank-those-made-possible-050016229DEAR ABBY: My sister "Ruth" and I spent most holidays dining out together after our families grew up and left home. Ruth died last year and her daughter "Lara" began inviting me for holidays "so I wouldn't be alone." I have tried to decline, but she persists. She insists that I should be with her instead of with friends, although her plans are always tentative and often change at the last minute.Last Christmas she invited me to a community holiday dinner at 2 p.m. with her friends. ...http://news.yahoo.com/aunt-left-home-alone-due-poor-holiday-plans-050010457.htmlThu, 24 May 2012 01:00:10 -0400Dear Abbyaunt-left-home-alone-due-poor-holiday-plans-050010457DEAR ABBY: From time to time I have read letters in your column about Peeping Toms. You might find our experience interesting.Many years ago, soon after my husband, Klaus, and I arrived as newlyweds from Germany, we rented a small bungalow in L.A. There were seven of them in two rows behind our landlord's large home in the front.Between our little house and our next-door neighbor's was a brick patio that extended from our bedroom window to her back door. Not long after we moved in, the woman began looking into our bedroom window on weekend mornings, pressing her nose against the glass. ...http://news.yahoo.com/peeping-tom-gets-eyeful-couple-reclaims-privacy-055703940.htmlWed, 23 May 2012 01:57:03 -0400Dear Abbypeeping-tom-gets-eyeful-couple-reclaims-privacy-055703940DEAR ABBY: I'm a 42-year-old woman who has been living with my boyfriend, "Matt." He has asked me to marry him, and I said yes. The problem is, Matt is still married.Matt and his wife have been separated for eight years. I keep telling him to get in touch with her and see if she filed for divorce, but he keeps putting it off.I really do love this man, Abby. Matt is good to me and to my children and grandchildren, but sometimes I don't know what to think or do. I want us to buy a house, but I'm scared that if we do, she'll try to take it from us. He says she wouldn't. Please give me some ...http://news.yahoo.com/proposal-married-man-little-cause-celebration-053003755.htmlTue, 22 May 2012 01:30:03 -0400Dear Abbyproposal-married-man-little-cause-celebration-053003755DEAR ABBY: I agreed to be maid of honor at my best friend's wedding. I am now planning her bridal shower and just received the guest list from her mother and the groom's mother, "Alicia."Alicia has given me the names of about 30 guests and says there are more people she wants to invite. Abby, the entire list will amount to nearly 70 guests!DEAR OVERWHELMED: You and the groom's mother are not on the same wavelength. She may be trying to repay social obligations, while you are simply trying to perform your attendant's duties. ...http://news.yahoo.com/grooms-mom-turns-bridal-shower-mob-scene-055027349.htmlMon, 21 May 2012 01:50:27 -0400Dear Abbygrooms-mom-turns-bridal-shower-mob-scene-055027349DEAR ABBY: My father absolutely refuses to turn off the ignition when fueling his car, despite the warning signs at the pump. How can I convince him to stop endangering himself and my mother? -- WORRIED DOWN SOUTHDEAR WORRIED: Motorists are instructed to "Stop Motor" while refueling for good reason. Gasoline is highly flammable. However, it is not actually the liquid that burns. Even at temperatures as low as 45 degrees, gasoline gives off vapor.It is the vapors that ignite. Gasoline vapor is heavier than air, so when it ignites, it does so at ground level. ...http://news.yahoo.com/fueling-car-engine-runs-taking-dangerous-risk-053206744.htmlSun, 20 May 2012 01:32:06 -0400Dear Abbyfueling-car-engine-runs-taking-dangerous-risk-053206744DEAR ABBY: I'm 19 and have a dear friend, "Emily," who is offended by cussing. She literally has never said a curse word in her life. When I'm around her I never use swear words because I respect her and her friendship.My issue is that Emily gets very upset if people swear around her. There have been nights that she ended up in tears because someone used foul language. She also angrily confronts people on this issue.I commend my friend on her decision not to curse, but I think it's unrealistic of her to expect everyone in the world to bend to her morals. ...http://news.yahoo.com/teens-anti-cursing-crusade-causes-her-friend-cry-050205799.htmlSat, 19 May 2012 01:02:05 -0400Dear Abbyteens-anti-cursing-crusade-causes-her-friend-cry-050205799DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced man with a live-in girlfriend I'll call Donna. Her two boys also live with us. Donna's older son will graduate from high school this year, and she has planned a party that her mother and other family members will attend from out of state.My daughter, "Sara," is graduating from the same high school. Sara has shared her concerns with me that Donna's family won't care about celebrating her graduation. I tried to assure her that it's my day to celebrate her accomplishment with her.I discussed this with Donna and asked if we could recognize Sara at her son's party. ...http://news.yahoo.com/dad-not-eager-celebrate-rival-graduation-parties-050207259.htmlFri, 18 May 2012 01:02:07 -0400Dear Abbydad-not-eager-celebrate-rival-graduation-parties-050207259DEAR ABBY: "Searching for 'Me' in Texas" (March 4) is not alone! A wave of 78 million baby boomers will soon leave 30-plus-year careers and are looking forward to an estimated 20 more years of life.A vast majority of them are looking for meaningful opportunities for the second half of their lives. "Searching" should seek out a non-profit organization for a cause she's passionate about and offer her skilled services. If "Searching" doesn't need an income, she can volunteer. ...http://news.yahoo.com/many-possible-stages-await-boomers-looking-encore-050014170.htmlThu, 17 May 2012 01:00:14 -0400Dear Abbymany-possible-stages-await-boomers-looking-encore-050014170DEAR ABBY: Between juggling the joys and challenges of home life and staying productive at work, it's easy for women to make quick decisions now that could affect their health later on, or to miss early signs of medical problems altogether.To help women take control of their health, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration's Office of Women's Health and the General Services Administration's Federal Citizen Information Center have created the free Healthy Women's Action Kit. It contains tips that can help women of every age. ...http://news.yahoo.com/women-control-health-learning-050016632.htmlWed, 16 May 2012 01:00:16 -0400Dear Abbywomen-control-health-learning-050016632DEAR ABBY: One of my friends, "Max," cheats at golf. Otherwise he's witty, interesting and fun to be around. He moves his ball closer to the hole on the green and "improves" his lie when he thinks no one is looking. I have tried to overlook Max's transgressions, but others in our golf group talk and joke behind his back. How should I go about stopping the problem without stressing our friendship? -- FLORIDA GOLFERDEAR GOLFER: What you have described is considered a terrible breach of golf etiquette. What it shows about Max is a serious lack of ethics. ...http://news.yahoo.com/golfer-improves-lie-must-learn-tell-truth-050203420.htmlTue, 15 May 2012 01:02:03 -0400Dear Abbygolfer-improves-lie-must-learn-tell-truth-050203420DEAR ABBY: My niece, "Amy," got her driver's license last November. Since then she has been stopped six times for violations. Unfortunately, she wasn't ticketed for any of them -- just given warnings. Who knows how many other times she should have been ticketed?When Amy told me about it, she acted like it was a joke and something she was proud of. Her parents are divorced and her father spoils her beyond reason. He gives her whatever she wants, including buying her a new car. Her mother has little control over her. ...http://news.yahoo.com/teen-traffic-violations-may-ticket-only-ride-050208060.htmlMon, 14 May 2012 01:02:08 -0400Dear Abbyteen-traffic-violations-may-ticket-only-ride-050208060DEAR ABBY: I hope you will print this on Mother's Day. This Mother's Day greeting is for all those incredibly unselfish mothers who chose to place their child up for adoption. I am an adopted child whose life has been a wonderful journey.If I could send a message to my birth mother, it would be one of eternal gratitude for allowing someone else to give me the life she was unable to provide. My adoptive parents love me and instilled a value system and belief in God that have carried me through every challenge life has sent my way. ...http://news.yahoo.com/adopted-daughter-grateful-birth-mothers-sacrifice-050216655.htmlSun, 13 May 2012 01:02:16 -0400Dear Abbyadopted-daughter-grateful-birth-mothers-sacrifice-050216655DEAR ABBY: I am in a relationship with someone I graduated from school with, so we have known each other for a number of years. We are both divorced. Because I'm an only child, my mother has always been protective and controlling. She hasn't recovered from my divorce, although it happened more than 10 years ago, and constantly finds fault with my current relationship.She argues with me almost weekly that I should get married because it "looks bad for her" that I live with this man, and "in the sight of God this isn't right. ...http://news.yahoo.com/happily-unmarried-woman-cant-moms-nagging-050202024.htmlSat, 12 May 2012 01:02:02 -0400Dear Abbyhappily-unmarried-woman-cant-moms-nagging-050202024DEAR ABBY: When I was in sixth grade, my 19-year-old brother, "Ray," came into my room and fondled me late at night. I pretended to be asleep so I didn't have to deal with the situation. I told my mom afterward. She told me not to tell my father and bought a lock for my door.Years later, when my sister found out what happened to me, she told me Ray had also done it to her. She told Dad and confronted Mom. Neither one ever said anything to Ray. They told us it was "in the past" and to leave it alone. ...http://news.yahoo.com/adult-survivor-child-abuse-wants-break-her-past-050206514.htmlFri, 11 May 2012 01:02:06 -0400Dear Abbyadult-survivor-child-abuse-wants-break-her-past-050206514DEAR ABBY: My husband's son -- I'll call him Duncan -- came to visit with his family. He lived with us for about six months on and off when he was younger. During that time, he twice went through my dresser drawers without my permission. The first time, we discovered a photo of me in a negligee he had found and hidden. The second time, he said he had been looking for a key. I was furious and felt violated.During his recent visit, it happened a third time. I discovered my underwear drawer was slightly ajar and knew Duncan had used the bathroom in our bedroom. ...http://news.yahoo.com/son-deserves-dressing-down-opening-bedroom-drawers-050206665.htmlThu, 10 May 2012 01:02:06 -0400Dear Abbyson-deserves-dressing-down-opening-bedroom-drawers-050206665DEAR ABBY: I have heard that your dessert recipes are fabulous and I'd like to have them. I saw a column in which you mentioned your cookbooklets. I hope I'm correct about this, because I'd be interested in getting them. I have your booklet of poems and essays, which I have read and enjoyed many times.Would you print your personal favorite dessert recipe and let me know how to get your cookbooklets? Warmest wishes to you, Abby, and thank you for all your columns. -- ANITA B. IN NEW JERSEYDEAR ANITA: You are welcome. ...http://news.yahoo.com/attention-chocolate-lovers-prepare-start-swooning-050010827.htmlWed, 09 May 2012 01:00:10 -0400Dear Abbyattention-chocolate-lovers-prepare-start-swooning-050010827DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend "Paul" for four years. We have a child together, and we each have a child of our own. We have lived together for three years, and our family life is great. However, when I was pregnant with our son, Paul contacted an ex on a social network. One day he left his computer open, and I saw that their conversations were less than innocent. I was upset and I said something immediately.We have stayed together, but ever since then I'm having a hard time trusting Paul. Because he had also been calling the woman, I now check our phone records. ...http://news.yahoo.com/boyfriends-cheating-heart-leaves-electronic-trail-050011730.htmlTue, 08 May 2012 01:00:11 -0400Dear Abbyboyfriends-cheating-heart-leaves-electronic-trail-050011730DEAR ABBY: I'm getting married soon. My mom says we should have one side of the church reserved for my fiance's friends and family, and one side for ours. I disagree. Not only does it make me feel like we would be separating people when the occasion should be about unity, but he doesn't have a whole lot of people coming. It could embarrass him if I have 100 guests on my side and he has 30 on his.My fiance says he doesn't care, but I do! I want our guests blended in celebration of our union. ...http://news.yahoo.com/bride-doesnt-want-families-sides-wedding-050023283.htmlMon, 07 May 2012 01:00:23 -0400Dear Abbybride-doesnt-want-families-sides-wedding-050023283DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband, "Stu," for 27 years. His brother's family continues to send invitations addressed only to Stu. When they call to invite us to anything and I answer, they ask to speak to him. He has asked them not to do that.When RSVPing to the latest invitation to our niece's graduation party -- addressed only to my husband -- I said that he would attend as he was the only one invited. I also asked if I had done something to offend anyone. ...http://news.yahoo.com/laws-invitation-snubs-still-rankle-27-years-050202786.htmlSun, 06 May 2012 01:02:02 -0400Dear Abbylaws-invitation-snubs-still-rankle-27-years-050202786DEAR ABBY: I'm an artist and budding filmmaker with a B.A. degree. My problems are my job situation and where I live.My dad has told me that -- like him and his father -- my brother and I share a similar problem. We all have trouble getting and keeping jobs. We never seem to get ahead or be content or comfortable. On my mother's side, however, she, her father, her brother and my cousin all have held steady jobs. Why is that?As an artist, I feel I don't really fit into any job description. Mom would like me to work for the federal government like she does, but I don't want to. ...http://news.yahoo.com/artist-achieve-dream-first-must-job-050011262.htmlSat, 05 May 2012 01:00:11 -0400Dear Abbyartist-achieve-dream-first-must-job-050011262DEAR ABBY: I am a professional ornithologist (bird expert) with a substantial record of accomplishments -- books, scientific papers, blog, website, consultant work, etc.My hometown has held a bird festival for more than a decade and each year it features a main speaker at the dinner. My expertise and experience far outshine that of any of the speakers they have invited by a considerable margin. I am well-known in town, but have not been asked to speak. ...http://news.yahoo.com/bird-man-excluded-town-festival-tries-not-squawk-051210981.htmlFri, 04 May 2012 01:12:10 -0400Dear Abbybird-man-excluded-town-festival-tries-not-squawk-051210981DEAR ABBY: While standing in a serving line at a restaurant, a man commented to my wife about her weight. She was very upset. My take was, "Don't talk to strange men." Later, I wondered whether I should have confronted the guy, slugged him or waited for him in the parking lot.As a young man I was prone to rash actions. I would like to think in my golden years that I have outgrown this tendency. Still, I'm not sure I handled the situation correctly. I want my wife to be confident that I would come to her defense. Please advise. ...http://news.yahoo.com/wisdom-age-teaches-man-hold-fire-insult-053206154.htmlThu, 03 May 2012 01:32:06 -0400Dear Abbywisdom-age-teaches-man-hold-fire-insult-053206154DEAR ABBY: On a recent airline flight, a tall man who sat behind me had his left leg out in the aisle during most of the trip. He was wearing shorts, and you could see his large tattoo of a naked woman on his thigh. The drawing was very explicit, and there was no way to avoid seeing it because passengers had to cross over his leg to reach the bathroom. ...http://news.yahoo.com/offense-eye-body-arts-beholder-050402375.htmlWed, 02 May 2012 01:04:02 -0400Dear Abbyoffense-eye-body-arts-beholder-050402375DEAR ABBY: May I comment on the letter from "Working the Window in Georgia" (Jan. 22), the drive-through worker who said people should have their orders ready when they pull up to the speaker? Many drive-through restaurants place their speakers in FRONT of the first menu you see. Unless you frequent the restaurant, it's impossible to know what you want until you reach the menu. Also, if "Corporate" is timing its employees, then maybe they should dispense with having the employees greet customers with a long list of item suggestions before taking the order. ...http://news.yahoo.com/irked-customers-sound-off-050206668.htmlTue, 01 May 2012 01:02:06 -0400Dear Abbyirked-customers-sound-off-050206668DEAR ABBY: My 11-year-old niece, "Nina," has no table manners. I was surprised at her inappropriate behavior because her parents are well-educated people who were raised with good table manners. I didn't say anything when Nina slathered clotted cream on her scone with her fingers, but I was disgusted. I did suggest she use a spoon after she scooped rice out of a communal bowl with her hand. Both of these incidents happened in restaurants. ...http://news.yahoo.com/absence-table-manners-turns-dinner-disaster-053407886.htmlMon, 30 Apr 2012 01:34:07 -0400Dear Abbyabsence-table-manners-turns-dinner-disaster-053407886DEAR ABBY: I have a beautiful wife, a dog and an 8-year-old son I love to watch sports with. My son loves sports, but he has trouble accepting a loss. He'll take out his disappointment by beating the dog.My wife doesn't want to get rid of "Patches" because she has had him since college. I don't want to put my son through counseling because he said he'll hate me forever if I do. I'm afraid if the problem isn't controlled, my son's life goals may be affected. What can I do? -- GOOD DAD IN CLEVELANDDEAR "GOOD DAD": Stop trying so hard to be your son's sports buddy, and try harder to be a parent. ...http://news.yahoo.com/young-sons-uncontrolled-anger-endangers-himself-dog-050011957.htmlSun, 29 Apr 2012 01:00:11 -0400Dear Abbyyoung-sons-uncontrolled-anger-endangers-himself-dog-050011957DEAR ABBY: My mother has never liked her sister-in-law. Mom thinks "Auntie Beth" is "completely out to get her," even though no one has seen any evidence to support my mother's claims. For the past several months, Mom has been complaining nonstop about how "awful" Beth is. She says things at the most random times to people she barely knows. If we don't show sympathy toward Mom, she then becomes enraged. It has caused many problems between our family and Auntie Beth's. We can't have holidays together because my aunt is not allowed in our house. ...http://news.yahoo.com/irrational-animosity-drives-wedge-between-families-050026048.htmlSat, 28 Apr 2012 01:00:26 -0400Dear Abbyirrational-animosity-drives-wedge-between-families-050026048DEAR ABBY: I recently attended a baby shower for a dear high school friend and his wife. The day after the shower, she posted a slideshow on Facebook titled "Thanks for All Our Gifts" with a picture of each gift and who gave it. She has had numerous miscarriages and held this shower at five months, knowing the baby is not yet at a viable stage.While I feel sympathy for her fertility issues, and especially for her husband who desperately wants to be a father, I think this is a bid for attention. ...http://news.yahoo.com/facebook-thank-yous-no-substitute-individual-notes-050019362.htmlFri, 27 Apr 2012 01:00:19 -0400Dear Abbyfacebook-thank-yous-no-substitute-individual-notes-050019362