Lesbian gets $35K settlement over canceled prom

Constance McMillen AP – FILE - In this March 22, 2010 file photograph, Constance McMillen, an 18-year-old student at Itawamba …

JACKSON, Miss. – A rural school district that canceled its prom rather than allow a lesbian student to attend with her girlfriend has agreed to pay $35,000 to settle a discrimination lawsuit the ACLU filed on her behalf.

The district also agreed to follow a non-discrimination policy as part of the settlement, though it argues such a policy was already in place.

Constance McMillen, 18, said the victory came at the price of her being shunned in her small hometown of Fulton.

"I knew it was a good cause, but sometimes it really got to me. I knew it would change things for others in the future and I kept going and I kept pushing," McMillen said in an interview Tuesday.

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The flap started in March when McMillen challenged the Itawamba County School District's rules banning prom dates of the same gender and allowing only male students to wear tuxedos. The district responded by canceling its prom, prompting the ACLU to file suit claiming the teen's rights had been violated and demanding the prom be reinstated.

U.S. District Judge Glen H. Davidson refused to make school officials hold the prom, but he said in a March 23 ruling that the district had violated McMillen's rights.

The district later announced parents would sponsor another prom chaperoned by school officials. But ACLU lawyers claimed the event was a "sham prom" attended by only about 10 students, while most of McMillen's classmates partied at a private event elsewhere, a claim the school denied. McMillen's suit also says she's been harassed for her stand against the school's policy.

McMillen's lawyers filed notice Monday in U.S. District Court to accept a judgment offer from the Itawamba County School District that will pay $35,000, plus attorney's fees. As part of the agreement, the school district also said it would follow a policy not to discriminate based on sexual orientation in any educational or extracurricular activities or allow harassment based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

School officials contend that their agreement to follow the non-discrimination policy merely reaffirms inclusiveness rules the district already had, said school board attorney Michele Floyd. She said the district's insurance company will pay McMillen.

District officials said in the settlement offer that they didn't believe they violated McMillen's rights.

The ACLU, however, contends that if the district really had such an inclusiveness policy all along, it wouldn't have banned same-sex prom dates. It also said the district is the first in Mississippi to implement a policy banning discrimination and harassment on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.

Ben Griffith, the attorney who represented the district in the suit, said school officials are focused on preparing for the upcoming fall semester and wanted to avoid protracted litigation.

"The defendants have consistently taken the position throughout this case that their actions and conduct at all times have been constitutional and lawful in every respect," Griffith said.

Christine P. Sun, an ACLU lawyer, said the case has "inspired countless other people around the world to stand up for what's right."

McMillen has moved to Memphis, Tenn., where she plans to attend Southwest Community College in the spring, majoring in psychology. She said she'll use the settlement money for her college education.

She eventually withdrew from Itawamba Agricultural High School and finished her senior year at a school in Jackson, Miss.

Eliza Byard, executive director of GLSEN: The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, said only 12 states and the District of Columbia require school district to have policies recognizing sexual orientation and gender identity.

McMillen's case gained national attention and she was featured on talk shows and served as a grand marshal for New York's Gay Pride Parade, among other events. She also visited the White House.

Sun said the ACLU had represented other students in similar cases around the country, but none had garnered as much attention as McMillen's legal battle.

McMillen said she thinks the case resonated with so many people because "prom is a common theme and everyone knows how it feels to want to go to prom. With my story, even if people didn't agree with being gay, they understood. They figured out how cruel some people can be."

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    VV 2 hours ago Report Abuse
    HEY YAHOO,
    PLEASE POST EACH PERSON'S EMAIL ADDRESS INSTEAD OF ALLOWING ALIAS TO BE USED. THIS ALLOWS PEOPLE TO USE OTHERS' HANDLES AND IMPERSONATE WHO SAYS WHAT.
    THANKS!
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    VV 2 hours ago Report Abuse
    Llp, Yahoo needs to force people to use their yahoo email address and not be able to post something under someone else's handle. Don't you think? Speak for yourself and stop trying to cause dissention. I gave you a hint when I said you are 20+ and from Tennesee. Now, I am going to paste the real culprit who said that statement - it is taken out of your trail of posts which is easily seen by others:
    "llp replied to llp's comment: i don't need any information to help me. however, maybe you should review the bible a little more. as i pointed out before the bible says only god shall judge. and it also says to love one another. i have interpreted this to mean that no one has the right to down someone else based on what they believe. additionally i think that the love one another thing means that regardless "
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    VV 3 hours ago Report Abuse
    Llp,
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    Cmed T 10 hours ago Report Abuse
    Wow. “Gay-hatingest.” Reactionary liberals are expanding their smear-term lexicon. Seriously, though, most people on the Left are not quite willing, yet, to define anyone who disagrees with homosexuality as “hateful” — although they might call them “homophobic” (an artificial construct whose elastic definition has evolved to meet the needs of pro-”gay” liberals). I’m sure there are exceptions, but I suspect that most “gay”-affirming people would not automatically label anyone who believes that homosexuality is immoral — or that homosexual sex is unnatural – as “haters.”

    However, if you reflect that moral opposition in the public square — if you defend the age-old position that homosexuality is wrong – then suddenly you become, yes, “hateful.” Hard to win that argument: ME: pro-gay, loving and tolerant. YOU: anti-gay, hateful and intolerant. Is this what now passes for discourse in dumbed-down America? Give me the old-fashioned liberals who might disagree with AFTAH’s beliefs forcefully but who at least understand that name-calliing is no substitute for an argument.
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    Cmed T 11 hours ago Report Abuse
    "I was stunned — as someone who gets chided by “queer” activists all the time for working professionally in the pro-family movement — at some of the huge homosexual CEO salaries. Here are just a few of the top “gay” salaries:"

    •Joe Solmonese, Human Rights Campaign: $338,400;
    •Lorri Jean, Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center: $327,000
    •Neil Giuliano, GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation): $271,034;
    •Eliza Byrd, Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network: $283,644;
    •Chuck Wolfe, Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund: $220,000;
    •Kevin Cathcart, Lambda Legal: $290,916;
    •Matt Foreman [former E.D.], National Gay and Lesbian Task Force: $192,540

    It pays well to promulgate a lie, according to this report.
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    VV 12 hours ago Report Abuse
    Llp - why did you make the following comment about me? What particular post are you referring to? You sound like a 20+ female who is confused. Where did I say God praises those who judge others?

    ' i think cmed and v v need to get over themselves. i mean really...trying to force your ideas on others is not going to help things. and god does not praise those who judge others, so v v got that wrong. "
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    Cmed T 12 hours ago Report Abuse
    WND NEWS
    A father of a high-school student is infuriated after he said a teacher provided "banned books" to her 11th–grade students, including at least one with explicit descriptions of homosexual sex acts, rape, masturbation, profane language and even bestiality.

    John Davis, father of an 11th–grade student at William Byrd High School in Vinton, Va., told WND that English teacher Kathleen Renard provided her personal copy of a book called "Perks of Being a Wallflower" by Stephen Chbosky to one of her English students, and it was passed to his son. The book is published by MTV Books.

    Davis found the book in his son's possession, along with a bookmark that said, "Read banned books. They're your ticket to freedom."

    "My son was reading the book and stated it was a school assignment," Davis told WND. "He was embarrassed that I began to peruse through the book and discovered its contents. He advised that the book belongs to his English teacher, Mrs. Kathleen Renard."

    Upon reading the book, Davis discovered the following:

    sex acts between teenagers
    male and female masturbation
    suicide
    oral sex
    extensive use of profanity, especially the "F"-word
    multiple cases of homosexual acts between teenage boys, including kissing, seduction and anal sex
    illegal drug and alcohol use, including smoking marijuana and LSD usage
    anonymous homosexual acts between men and boys
    rape of a teenage girl while she cried

    molestation of a young boy by a woman
    molestation of a young girl by an older man
    how hitting a girl can turn her on and make her love a boy
    attempted sex between a boy and a dog
    Davis confiscated the book and arranged to meet with Renard and William Byrd High School Principal Richard Turner.
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    Cmed T 12 hours ago Report Abuse
    News Flash,
    "Are gays inherently hysterical, hateful, and intolerant of disagreement, I wondered, or are they reading off the same script? Are they systematically organized to strike out at opponents, and to silence them through intimidation? The answer is that no, homosexuals are not necessarily hysterical, hateful, or intolerant by nature — but yes, this is something they have learned. It is a technique called "jamming" which is part of an elaborate program to further the gay agenda."
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    Cmed T 12 hours ago Report Abuse
    To Prime and Brandy, and others who say Beliefs and opinions, and faith are irrelevant, Not.
    Defense of Marriage Act the federal Goverment defines marriage as a legal union between one man and one woman
    The bill was passed by Congress by a vote of 85-14 in the Senate and a vote of 342-67 in the House of Representatives and was signed into law by President Bill Clinton on September 21, 1996.
    Peer-reviewed AND voted on, It’s sure looks like the Congress had their beliefs as individuals, when they discharged their duties here, I bet this makes you upset that peoples beliefs are used in making a decision like this, I would most definitely say these people had strong opinion on this matter, looking at the vote record, but hay it’s just beliefs, and opinions and Faith, yes sir, Senate approved Doma by 86% and the House passed Doma by about 81% give or take, sure looks like beliefs where sure relevant here, Cmed.
    Oh and bringing up U.S. District Court Judge Joseph Tauro, Boston of all places, and remember even your buddies at GLAD, because their very own, Mary Bonauto concurred on a conference call following the ruling: "I fully expect the government will appeal."
    Good Luck, I know you will need what you believe in, Cmed.
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    Billy 13 hours ago Report Abuse
    What are bug parties?

    Bug parties are sex parties often ranging from a few to as much as 30 people. Unsafe sex with every participant at the party is encouraged. There are several variations of bug parties. At some, there is one member of the "orgy" that is HIV positive. Only this individual and the host know his positive status. The remaining participants know that there is an infected person in the room, but do not know his identity. The participants then partake in a night usually filled with alcohol, drugs and of course unsafe sex.

    In other variations of a bug party, there is one person who is not infected with HIV, however the other participants are or may be. Every one is aware of the person who disease free. The HIV negative person then allows the infected guys to have unprotected anal sex with him.

    Why do people participate in bug parties?

    Many psychologists theorize that participation in bug parties is actually an anxiety disorder where the non-infected individuals fear getting HIV so greatly that they would rather contract it and free themselves of the anxiety of living in fear. These parties are also seen as a sort of club for those living with HIV. Infecting a HIV negative and willing participant initiates them into their world. Some people also engage in unprotected anal sex (or barebacking) as the fear for AIDS dangerously dwindles.

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