14 Reasons People Fall In Love With Their Partners Again And Again

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Our readers share the qualities that make them so attracted to their partners.  (Photo: teksomolika via Getty Images)
Our readers share the qualities that make them so attracted to their partners.  (Photo: teksomolika via Getty Images)

Keeping the spark alive in a romantic relationship isn’t easy, especially after the honeymoon phase has come and gone.

But couples who go the distance never lose sight of the qualities and moments, big and small, that remind them why they fell in love in the first place. We asked HuffPost readers in relationships to share the one thing that makes them so attracted to their partners. Find out what 14 couples had to say below:

1. She checks in to make sure I’m safe whenever I’m traveling.

“Even after 25 years of togetherness, my wife still tracks my flights from wherever in the world I am traveling for work and knows when I land. She sends me farewell texts and ‘glad you’re safe’ texts. Sometimes the smallest reminders that one is loved have the biggest impact.” ― Rebekah H.

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2. He knows just how to turn a bad day around.

“Who wouldn’t love that lumberjack beard? But more importantly, he always knows what I need. Whether it’s listening to me complain after a long day, having dinner waiting for me or giving me a really good back crack, he’s always there for me.” ― Kaila W.

(Photo: Courtesy of Kaila W)
(Photo: Courtesy of Kaila W)

3. He’s the best dog dad.

“Watching my fiancé care for our two pups melts my heart every single day. He manages to be kind, gentle and strong all at once ― everything I ever dreamt my husband to be.” ― Jenn C.

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4. He loves and accepts all that I am.

“He loves me, no matter my gender, he loves me. And that’s the most beautiful thing in the world.” ― Tom D.

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(Photo: Courtesy of Tom D.)
(Photo: Courtesy of Tom D.)

5. He lightens the mood with his playfulness.

“What attracts me to Jarrod is his ability to bring childlike joy to our everyday life. Life is plenty stressful and exhausting. Jarrod’s imagination involves pretending what our My Little Pony stuffed animal would have to say about a challenge at work or a bad drive with a lot of traffic. It’s totally silly for adults to play with stuffed animals but it adds humor to our life.” ― Simran K.

(Photo: Courtesy of Simran K.)
(Photo: Courtesy of Simran K.)

6. I can feel her love from across a crowded room.

“The thing that attracts me most to my wife is the fact that I can be standing in a crowded room but I can feel when she is near. I know when I look up, I will see her smiling at me from across the room. It’s the most amazing thing, even after all of these years.” ― Carrie H.

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7. He’s hilarious, but never at someone else’s expense.

“Scooby is always looking to make people laugh, but he has perfected the art of being funny without being cruel or making a joke at anyone else’s expense. He brightens every day with his devilishly handsome smile, jovial nature and benevolent heart.” ― Lauren B.

(Photo: Chris Tweddle)
(Photo: Chris Tweddle)

8. He embodies everything a father should be.

“When I look at my husband, I’m reminded of all that a man should be. The way he’s so much fun with the kids, teaches them to never doubt themselves and encourages them to be strong so they can face the world.” ― Candice M.

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9. He has the patience of a saint.

“My boyfriend has a supernatural patience in everything. I can collapse in his arms when I’m overwhelmed, knowing he will remain levelheaded.” ― Victoria O.

(Photo: Courtesy of Victoria O.)
(Photo: Courtesy of Victoria O.)

10. His adventurous spirit is contagious.

“I am so attracted to Tim’s sense of adventure and his drive to try new things. He inspires me to explore this beautiful world, try a new hobby and always be positive ― no matter what happens.” ― Kelsey G.

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(Photo: Courtesy of Kelsey G.)

11. He’s so passionate about his work that he often gets lost in it.

“I’m attracted to Donn for so many reasons, but his laser focus might be my favorite. He can focus in on his work and completely forget about the world around him. The minutes before he realizes I’m waiting to get his attention are my favorite. I could wait on him forever.” ― Katie L.

(Photo: Courtesy of Katie L.)
(Photo: Courtesy of Katie L.)

12. She’s nerdy as hell, and I love her for it.

“I love that Lufuno is such a nerd. Especially when it comes to video games, music from video games and film music.” ― Oliver S.

(Photo: Courtesy of Oliver S.)
(Photo: Courtesy of Oliver S.)

13. He has the kindest eyes.

“I am very attracted to the way my fiancé looks at people and the world. When he looks at you, he is genuinely seeing you and not through you. He has the kindest eyes and makes such pure connections with people because of his nature.” ― Megan D.

(Photo: Courtesy of Megan D.)
(Photo: Courtesy of Megan D.)

14. He’s never left my side through my health scares.

“He won my heart when he told me that even if my autoimmune condition meant we only had a few years together, he wanted to spend them with me. Through a lymphoma scare and more than a dozen other procedures, he hasn’t left my side.” ― Nika B.

(Photo: Courtesy of Nika B)
(Photo: Courtesy of Nika B)

**Some responses have been lightly edited and condensed for clarity.

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1. Keep up the PDA

"I've never seen a photo of my grandparents where they weren't embracing -- whether it was when they were dating, had five kids under age 8, or just before my grandfather died of cancer. I couldn't wait to grow up and have what they had with someone. They were a real life fairy tale." -<em> Cari Watts-Savage</em>
"I've never seen a photo of my grandparents where they weren't embracing -- whether it was when they were dating, had five kids under age 8, or just before my grandfather died of cancer. I couldn't wait to grow up and have what they had with someone. They were a real life fairy tale." - Cari Watts-Savage

2. You don't have to agree on everything

"My grandparents were married for 65 years until my grandma passed away last summer. Opposite religions, opposite politics and they still made it work. I have a lot to live up to!" - <em>Clare Dych</em>
"My grandparents were married for 65 years until my grandma passed away last summer. Opposite religions, opposite politics and they still made it work. I have a lot to live up to!" - Clare Dych

3. Age ain't nothin' but a number

"I asked my grandma why she married my grandpa who she only dated for one year when she was 18 and he was 31. She answered me, 'Why not? He was hot back then!' My grandparents weren't the lovey-dovey type and actually distant, I think, due to the 13-year age gap. But they didn't bail, they're faithful, they kept each other for better or worse, in sickness and health, through thick and thin." - <em>Tze Tonn Ng</em>
"I asked my grandma why she married my grandpa who she only dated for one year when she was 18 and he was 31. She answered me, 'Why not? He was hot back then!' My grandparents weren't the lovey-dovey type and actually distant, I think, due to the 13-year age gap. But they didn't bail, they're faithful, they kept each other for better or worse, in sickness and health, through thick and thin." - Tze Tonn Ng

4. You can do anything if you do it together

"After 40 years of smoking five packs of cigarettes a day together, they decided to quit with no outside help. And they did. Together." - <em>Michelle Brown</em>
"After 40 years of smoking five packs of cigarettes a day together, they decided to quit with no outside help. And they did. Together." - Michelle Brown

5. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly

"When I got married, my grandmother and grandfather had been married some 68 years. My grandmother gave me her blessings and told me that if I got married, I had to stay married and it was a lifetime commitment." - <em>Leslie Johnson </em>
"When I got married, my grandmother and grandfather had been married some 68 years. My grandmother gave me her blessings and told me that if I got married, I had to stay married and it was a lifetime commitment." - Leslie Johnson

6. Be with someone who makes you laugh

"My grandparents were always teasing each other. We all got such a kick out of it growing up, hanging out in their kitchen and listening to them when we were over there for dinner. But it also showed us how important it is to be with someone that you'll have fun with, no matter what life may throw at you." - <em>Kristen Girone</em>
"My grandparents were always teasing each other. We all got such a kick out of it growing up, hanging out in their kitchen and listening to them when we were over there for dinner. But it also showed us how important it is to be with someone that you'll have fun with, no matter what life may throw at you." - Kristen Girone

7. Never stop flirting with each other

"Pinch butts." - <em>Sarah Hosseini</em>
"Pinch butts." - Sarah Hosseini

8. Your roles may shift in ways you never imagined

"My grandparents very much conformed to regular gender roles my entire childhood, but when my grandmom got sick, it was amazing to see my granddad taking care of her and cooking and cleaning. They really proved to me that true love lasts a lifetime and that marriage can last 'until death do you part.'" - <em>Carrie Burke</em>
"My grandparents very much conformed to regular gender roles my entire childhood, but when my grandmom got sick, it was amazing to see my granddad taking care of her and cooking and cleaning. They really proved to me that true love lasts a lifetime and that marriage can last 'until death do you part.'" - Carrie Burke

9. Always kiss hello and goodbye

"My maternal grandparents always kiss and say 'I love you' before they leave and it's the first thing they do when they come together again -- whether it's a run to the grocery store or a full day's work." - <em>J. Williams</em>
"My maternal grandparents always kiss and say 'I love you' before they leave and it's the first thing they do when they come together again -- whether it's a run to the grocery store or a full day's work." - J. Williams

10. You never know who you'll fall in love with

"I learned that love is unexpected, and anyone can fall in love, even if the relationship is shunned by society. Their love was somewhat reminiscent of Romeo and Juliet in the sense that they were both on different sides of society, but fell in love and had to keep their relationship secret at first." - <em>Carter Garcia-Kimura </em>
"I learned that love is unexpected, and anyone can fall in love, even if the relationship is shunned by society. Their love was somewhat reminiscent of Romeo and Juliet in the sense that they were both on different sides of society, but fell in love and had to keep their relationship secret at first." - Carter Garcia-Kimura

11. Find joy in the little things

"They found joy in sharing the details of daily living. Always smiling, even when doing the weekly budget or grandma peeling a banana for grandpa because she knew he didn't like the feel of it." - <em>Kristen Van Orden</em>
"They found joy in sharing the details of daily living. Always smiling, even when doing the weekly budget or grandma peeling a banana for grandpa because she knew he didn't like the feel of it." - Kristen Van Orden

12. Not every day is going to be a picnic and that's OK

"You don't have to like each other every day." - <em>Nicole Snyder</em>
"You don't have to like each other every day." - Nicole Snyder

13. It takes two people to make a marriage work

"They divorced after three kids and nearly 40 years of marriage, but my grandmother has always told me: A relationship will never work unless [both people] want it to." - <em>Mina Barnett</em>
"They divorced after three kids and nearly 40 years of marriage, but my grandmother has always told me: A relationship will never work unless [both people] want it to." - Mina Barnett

14. Sometimes your first love isn't your forever love

"You might not get things right the first time, but you can't give up because it could be the second time that you find true happiness. My grandparents have been together for 25 years and although my grandpa is not my biological one, he is the best thing to happen to our family and I could not love him more." - <em>Natasha Baker-Streit</em>
"You might not get things right the first time, but you can't give up because it could be the second time that you find true happiness. My grandparents have been together for 25 years and although my grandpa is not my biological one, he is the best thing to happen to our family and I could not love him more." - Natasha Baker-Streit

15. Never stop doing the things you love together

"They share a sense of humor and make it a priority to do things they enjoy together, even though that has become harder for them with age." - <em>Theresa Kelliher</em>
"They share a sense of humor and make it a priority to do things they enjoy together, even though that has become harder for them with age." - Theresa Kelliher

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