Married People Are Sharing The Wildest Secrets They'll NEVER Tell Their Spouse, And I Have No Words

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We asked married people in the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the wildest secrets they've ever kept from their spouse. Here are the jaw-dropping results.

1."I've had sex with all three of my wife's sisters multiple times, and she doesn't know about it yet. I also have one secret child with her oldest sister. She'd kill me if she even heard a rumor about it."

—Anonymous

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2."My partner found a card in my car for a proposal to marry me...or so she thought. The card was actually meant for another woman I've also been dating for three years."

—Anonymous

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3."I posed for Playboy when I was 18, and I kept it a secret from my husband for years. One day, I finally told him (it’s not something that comes up in conversation very naturally 🤷🏼‍♀️), and he had no problem with it."

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4."I've never told my husband that I absolutely HATE the three kids he has from his previous marriage. I've despised them since the moment I met them. I can't stand them. They literally disgust me. They are NOTHING like him."

—Anonymous

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5."I have a double life in every way you can imagine. I reside in two different states, have two different homes, two different names, two different jobs (one made up), two different wardrobes, and even two different sets of friends. I've been doing this for about five years, and no one knows. Frankly, I'm exhausted, and yes, I realize I’m an asshole."

—Anonymous

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6."My wife has no idea that I gave oral sex to her brother-in-law."

—Anonymous

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7."I paid off my college bills ($3,000) by performing in adult videos behind my wife's back. I even had the producer write the checks directly out to my alma mater."

—Anonymous

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8."I was in love with my husband's cousin and had a semi-sexual relationship with him before he stated he wanted to just be friends. I moved on with my now-husband a month or so after that, and we're happily married, but I still think of his cousin and what could've been. He broke my heart by ending things."

—Anonymous

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9."I've been married and divorced before, but my current husband thinks this is my first marriage. My first marriage occurred when I was young, and it only lasted about two years. I even lied on my new marriage certificate. I will take this one to the grave."

—Anonymous

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10."The first time I stayed over at my now-husband's parents' house I did a massive poo in their toilet. I’m talking a ~mega log~ that wouldn’t go down. I even tried pushing it down with the toilet brush, but it still wouldn't flush. The whole family was in the living room, directly underneath the bathroom, and I didn’t want to flush a fourth time to alert them of my mega poo problems. So, I wrapped my hand in toilet paper, fished the poo out of the toilet, and pushed it bit by bit down the bathroom sink, then washed it down so there was no evidence left. I've never told a soul!"

—Anonymous

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11."I made out with my husband's older brother and sister while he was in the other room. I'll never tell him what happened."

—Anonymous

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12."A week before I married my wife, I got really drunk with my best friend (a man, like me), and we ended up making out and giving each other blowjobs. During the whole ceremony, we kept exchanging awkward glimpses. We've never discussed what happened with each other. I never told my wife (or anyone), but I still think about the experience and get all hot and bothered."

—Anonymous

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13."My husband doesn't know that I have silicone injections in my ass."

—Anonymous

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14."My husband thinks I finished my bachelor's degree. I didn't. I dropped out and faked it for the last semester. That was five years ago, and now we're married. I still haven't told him the truth."

—Anonymous

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15."I got pregnant the very first time my now-husband and I slept together. I was in my very early twenties and didn’t know him well, so there was no question that I'd have an abortion. I never told him about it because I never expected to keep dating him. It was the right call at that time in my life..."

"...We've now been together for close to a decade and have two amazing kids. He probably will never know because we’ve built such a great life together, and I think it'd be unnecessary to talk about it."

—Anonymous

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16."My boss got me into online gambling. I lost more than $500 incredibly quickly and have kept it a secret from my husband."

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17."I've been lying to my husband about my eye color for our entire relationship. He has poor eyesight and couldn't originally tell that I wear ultra-realistic prescription color contacts. I've worn color contacts for about 10 years and only take them off to shower and to give my eyes a break. We've been married for five years now, and he still doesn't know that this isn't my actual eye color."

—Anonymous

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18."I cheated on my spouse with my coworker. Our marriage was already toxic and unhealthy, to the point where I should’ve walked away. I’m glad I left a few months after cheating, but I will never give them the satisfaction of being right about the coworker, especially when they had no proof other than us being friends."

—Anonymous

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19."I went through a six-month period of shoplifting. I wasn't in the best frame of mind, and I just couldn’t stop. One time I got caught by security at Target, and thankfully they let me go. It could have ended much, much worse. My husband would NOT be okay with that information, and I'll never tell him."

—Anonymous

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20."My partner (female) of six years doesn’t know that, before we met, I (male) used to sleep with men. The experiences were very hot, and I reminisce about them often."

—Anonymous

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21."When I get out of the shower, I always dry off with a towel. However, for some reason, my butt crack is never dry enough, so every time I walk to the bedroom to get dressed, I secretly use my husband's side of the blanket to finish drying my butt crack."

—Anonymous

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22."My biggest secret is that I'm only staying married to him for financial reasons. We've been together for 15 years, married for six of them. Our lives are so intertwined that it wouldn't be easy to untangle them. Plus, he doesn't really know how to take care of himself and doesn't make enough to support himself on his own..."

"...I make twice as much as him (and have done so the entire time we've been together) and pay all the bills and take care of everything. The cherry on top of this is that I'm also having an affair with his close friend. That wasn't planned, and it's just sex, but it's really the only thing keeping me from just running away from everything right now."

—Anonymous

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23."I'm 40. I've been with my husband for 20 years. In the last three years, I figured out I'm a lesbian. It wasn't something I was secure with when I was younger, so I suppressed those feelings. We have two kids, and I've spent the last 16 years allowing them to be my focus and distraction..."

"...Now that they're older, it's getting harder to keep faking it, but he is a loving husband and a good father. I love my family, I love my in-laws, and I love the life we've built, but the thought of living this lie for the next 30–40 years can be overwhelmingly depressing."

—Anonymous

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24."When I was engaged, I was at a friend's wedding and fooled around with another guy. I told my fiancé that the other guy and I only kissed in a random, drunken moment. In reality, we did A LOT more than just one kiss. Now, after more than 10 years of marriage and several kids later, I still feel guilty about it."

—Anonymous

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25."I'm a woman, and my husband thinks my number of sexual partners is a lot lower than it really is. My number is in the 80s, but I told him it was only 18. I have never cheated in a relationship, and I’ve always had safe sex. I just really enjoyed sex."

—Anonymous

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26."My spouse and I quit smoking together soon after we started dating in 2013, but I've been secretly vaping for almost two years now. I know it's absolutely horrible for me, and I think my husband would be really upset/disappointed if I told him, so I've been keeping it to myself."

—Anonymous

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27."I’ve been married twice. My first husband and I got pregnant at 17, and my dad made us get married. We split amicably three years later, but we didn’t get divorced right away due to a lack of funds. We didn’t actually file the paperwork for another six years, which was a year after my second husband and I started dating. I never told him that I was married to someone else during the entire first year of our relationship."

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28."I was sleeping with the rabbi who married my husband and me. My husband is Jewish, and I'm Catholic, so his family rabbi wouldn't perform the ceremony. I called my previous boyfriend, who happened to be an Orthodox rabbi, to perform the ceremony. My husband's family never figured out how I managed to find a rabbi to perform our ceremony."

—Anonymous

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29."My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. About two years into our relationship, I realized that I'm bisexual. I was desperate to sleep with a woman, so I hired a sex worker and had the most amazing afternoon with her. My husband has no idea — it would break his heart if he knew. I love him completely, but I think about that sexual experience all the time and wish I could do it again."

—Anonymous

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30."I LOVE my wife, but she does not fulfill me sexually. I have a secret email address that I use to subscribe to OnlyFans accounts, and I flirt with women online. I would never physically cheat, though."

—Anonymous

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31."When I was single, I had an on-and-off affair with my married best friend for a few years. My husband always asks me if my friend and I have ever hooked up, but I always denied it. I’m not proud of it, but I’ll take that secret to the grave."

—Anonymous

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32."Money started getting tight in our household about six months ago. I had a friend who lost her job at the start of the pandemic, and she's been quite successful on OnlyFans. I started my own page about five months ago and have made enough extra cash that I’m going to continue doing this. I still haven’t told my husband about my page or how I’m affording extra things right now."

—Anonymous

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33."Here's a doozy. I discovered my partner was a ketamine dealer. I was fresh out of med school at the time, working in a hospital, and couldn't risk being affiliated with him. I have a cop friend who had worked on a prolific case, so my boyfriend knew she was legit. One night, I convinced her to call him and say he was under surveillance and that he needed to get his place cleared out because he was going to get raided..."

"...He was completely freaked out by the 'tip off,' got rid of the drugs, and stopped dealing immediately. We've now been married for a decade, he runs a highly successful (legal) business, and he has no idea that the call that made him clean up his act was a wine-fueled favor by a friend."

—Anonymous

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34."I never revealed that I got an abortion two years after our first child was born. It just wasn't the right time to have a second baby, neither mentally nor financially."

—Anonymous

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35."I've been married for seven years, and I faked every single orgasm with my husband. I always take care of myself afterward, so as not to upset him. I even claimed that I don't like oral sex because of nerve damage, but he was just freaking horrible at it, and I wanted it to end."

—Anonymous

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36.And finally, "My mom's friend won about $4.5 million in the lottery and didn't tell her husband for almost two years. He was a real blue-collar guy who just went to work and came home, and she was responsible for all of the finances. One day, she walked into his factory, told him she'd won the lottery, and said everything was paid off and that they were going to both retire. And they did. They are the happiest couple I've ever met."

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