More often than not, a bride's wedding dress is kept a secret from her fiancé until the big day. And that was the wish of one bride, until her bridesmaid took it upon herself to share a photo of the dress on Facebook.
Over the weekend, the upset bride turned to the online forum Mumsnet to share her situation and ask for advice. "I know I probably am but just wanted to hear others opinions on whether they would be sad about it or if I just need to get a grip," wrote the bride in a post. "Getting married soon and after trying on a lot of different dresses I finally found the one, something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious. Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see."
The bride continued to say that during the fitting, the bridesmaid decided to post of photo of her in the dress on Facebook. To make matters even worse, the bridesmaid tagged the bride's partner in the post. Since she posted the photo during the appointment, a few hours passed before the bride even noticed what her bridesmaid had done.
"When I asked her to remove it her response was ‘it doesn’t matter if he’s seen it he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in 5 minutes time,'" continued the bride. "My dad had also seen it as well and it was going to be a surprise for him on the day too."
The bride was stunned at her bridesmaid's response and disappointed that such a meaningful surprise was ruined. She had told the bridesmaid in advance that she wanted to keep details of the gown under wraps until she walked down the aisle on her wedding day. "I just don’t know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad," she wrote. "She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner. As I paid in installments the dress is now fully paid for and I don’t have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!"
Users were quick to empathize with the bride, reminding her that her wedding day isn't completely ruined. "Your day will still be special though. I promise," commented one user. "Very bad form on her part. What’s done is done. You can either let it spoil your wedding or you can get over it. I’d try and get over it," commented another user.
Other users told the bride to kick the bridesmaid out of the bridal party. "I'd ditch her," said a user. "To break her promise and your trust like that is horrible and not what a friend should even think of doing."
Unless you have the bride's permission, this is just a friendly reminder that wedding details should be kept off of social media until the day of nuptials.
Originally Appeared on Brides