Facebook Group Connects Widows And Widowers Of COVID

A Twin Cities widow who lost her husband to COVID is sharing her message of healing and hope, Liz Collin reports (2:25). WCCO 4 News At 6 - June 10, 2021

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- A Twin Cities widow who lost her husband to COVID is sharing her message of healing and hope. Cassidy Schweer is now raising her two girls alone after her 35-year-old husband Matt lost his battle with the virus this past winter. WCCO's Liz Collins shares how the pandemic permanently changed too many families like theirs and the online community that aims to help.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: You are doing such a good job. I'm navigating. You are so strong.

The challenge is on a day-to-day basis.

LIZ COLLIN: It is not the start to summer a North St. Paul family ever wanted.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: To have to start all over is so scary.

[CHILD WHIMPERS]

Oh, it's OK.

LIZ COLLIN: A conversation with Cassidy Schweer a reminder of how unfair life and COVID can be.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: We'll drive down Highway 35, and Elliott will look at St. Joe's Hospital and say, hi, Daddy.

LIZ COLLIN: It's where Matt went the week before Christmas, only never to come home.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: If it wasn't for my faith and Matt introducing me to my faith, I wouldn't be where I am today.

PAMELA ADDISON: I wanted to make sure no young widow would feel alone.

LIZ COLLIN: Sadly, too many families across the country are faced with the same circumstances. Pamela Addison of New Jersey launched Young Widows and Widowers of COVID-19 on Facebook. Her husband, a 44-year-old health care worker, died a year ago.

PAMELA ADDISON: This doesn't care who you are because I lost my healthy, young husband, and my kids lost their dad.

[CHILD CRIES]

LIZ COLLIN: From tackling feelings to financial struggles, the group has grown to more than 600, helping in Pamela's own healing.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: [? Betty, ?] I got to make this quick.

LIZ COLLIN: For Cassidy, it's been the words Matt wrote 10 minutes before he was intubated she never wanted to read.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: "I love you more than you know."

LIZ COLLIN: Words that have helped her find peace--

CASSIDY SCHWEER: "Always have, always will."

LIZ COLLIN: --on a new, more difficult road in life.

CASSIDY SCHWEER: "Love again. Find someone to take care of you. Travel with the girls and let them experience the world. You've made my life such a fantastic adventure. Thanks, [? Betty, ?] for everything. I'll stick around and keep an eye on things."

LIZ COLLIN: In North St. Paul, Liz Collin, WCCO 4 News.

- As difficult as it is, both young moms encourage others to get out of their comfort zones to help move on from setbacks in life. They also say that the trauma that comes with COVID has been different than other deaths. They have found talking to others with similar stories has helped.