Former FBI Agent Answers MORE Body Language Questions From Twitter

Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro once again answers the internet's burning questions about body language. Are micro expressions more pronounced over Zoom? Does eye contact mean something different in other cultures? What does it mean if your leg shakes? Check out Joe's book "Be Exceptional" https://www.amazon.com/Be-Exceptional-Master-Traits-Extraordinary-ebook/dp/B08K93BLQP/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= https://www.jnforensics.com/ Books By Joe Navarro: https://www.jnforensics.com/books Joe Navarro Body Language Academy: https://jnbodylanguageacademy.com

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JOE NAVARRO: Hi. I'm Joe Navarro. For 25 years, I chased spies for the FBI. And today I'm answering questions on Twitter. This is "Body Language Support."

@McFaul, and it comes with a photograph, "I'd love to read @CIA's analysis of the body language in this photo. One of them is in charge. One of them is the subordinate. And their body language clearly is detailing which is which, because when you're in charge, you can sit any style you like. This is your domain.

When you are the supplicant, when you are there asking for help, your behaviors are more contrite. Your arms are more restricted. Your legs are restricted. And we see all of that here.

@theulteriorkid asks, "Are there secret handshake identifiers? Asking for a friend." Yes, there are many groups out there that have all sorts of secret handshakes.

Unfortunately, what happens is-- and you run into this all the time. You go to shake hands with somebody and they've interlocked their fingers in a weird way. And all of a sudden, you find their index finger right here on the inside of your wrist. This is your erogenous zone. This is for intimacy. This leads a very negative feeling.

Or you get these social aardvarks who want to squeeze your hand to demonstrate that they're strong and virile and so forth. It just leaves a bad feeling in our mouths. So are there handshakes, secret handshakes? Yeah, try to avoid them.

@NikeSandalsPapi asks, "So a female leg shaking means what? She just cold?" Well, a lot of times we see behaviors that are repetitive. I tend to bounce my legs a lot.

Some people will twist their ring. Some people will crack their knuckles. Some people will play with their hair. All repetitive behaviors are self-soothing behaviors.

@vapemyworld asks, "How do we identify bad people?" Bad people are identified by bad behaviors. No one is bad until we see demonstrable bad behaviors, if they decide to assault, somebody if they decide to cheat someone, if they do things that are unethical, immoral, or illegal.

@kourtneerenee asks, "Do men not know what nonverbal cues and body language mean? Or do they just ignore it?" I'm a man. Some people are better at reading nonverbals than others.

Is there a difference between men and women and their ability to read nonverbals? The answer is yes. And it's obvious and it's for biological reasons. Women bring babies into the world. It is the mother who spends the most time with a child and can look at everything, from the texture of the skin to how much humidity is in the eyes to the color of the lips. That traditionally has been a female function.

Now, that doesn't mean that we cannot develop these skills. But from a pure biological perspective, they have that advantage. And that carries throughout life. But it's one that women can also grow.

So @_p_rittenhouse asks a very complex question. "Ordering shawarma today and the young lady wouldn't look at me in the eyes." That's OK. There's no responsibility to do that. "I believe she is Syrian. Does eye contact mean something important in other cultures?"

Eye contact is both cultural and personal. In the United States, for instance, in New York, we're allowed to stare at each other for 1.28 seconds. In the Middle East, it's somewhere around between 4 and 6 seconds. That's cultural.

You may find yourself in a place where it's personal and maybe you don't want to make eye contact. I wouldn't put too much emphasis on eye contact other than we all have personal preferences. Lack of eye contact should not equate to anything other than this is what the person chooses.

From @syuheimizuka, who asks, "Why do hand gestures have such an impact?" Humans evolved to be very expressive with their hands. 100,000 years ago, we were all in the African savannah. We were surrounded by predators-- hyenas, lions, lionesses, these large felines. And we had to communicate silently but effectively.

We used our facial gestures close up. And we used our hand gestures to further communicate things such as direction, anxiety, fear, approach me, and so forth. This is part of our paleo circuits. We know this because when we study children who are born blind, and they've never seen, they use the very same hand gestures.

Our hands attract attention. And, in fact, if you look at your hands, no matter how dark your skin, you always notice that the palms of your hands are very easy to read. We think that this has given us an advantage, because when we reach out, when we gesture and so forth, even in low light, it sends that powerful but silent signal. The gestures hold our attention. The gestures potentiate the message.

@ppraeg asks, "What are power poses that I can use in Zoom talks? Trying to improve my online presentation skills." So we've talked about power poses in other videos.

And as Amy Cuddy made famous in her Ted Talks, these have to do with expansive gestures, where if you were sitting down, maybe you spread your hands on the table. If you were standing up, you put your hands on your hips with elbows out. Even if you're relaxed and sitting with a group, you put your hands behind your head, elbows out. These are territorial displays.

But when we are in a virtual environment, all of that goes away because the camera can only see so much. And so what you need to do is bring them here. Have them more in front of the camera. You're using gestures that are formed.

So they look like, for instance, brackets or the letter C, where you demark and you set boundaries. And it serves not so much as a power pose, but as a confidence pose. And that's what really matters when you are on a small screen.

@MadameAmbassK, she asked, "Do you agree that every Myers-Briggs personality type has a specific body language signature?" That's her question. And my answer is no.

So great question from @SonyaTheFreeze. And she asks, "Enjoying your "Power of Body Language" book." Thank you. "Going through it a second time and I'm wondering, what the hell is up with close talkers?" Our need for spatial distance is both cultural and personal. And so because each one of us has different needs, what I try to teach is to always start further apart.

So let's say you shake hands. Maybe you do a fist bump. Maybe you shake hands. But you do it at a greater distance. And then from that greater point, you self-adjust. Maybe you move in closer or maybe you stay where you're at.

But we want to honor spatial differences simply for this reason. Any time somebody violates our space, no matter how benign it is, we feel uncomfortable. It causes what I call limbic hijacking. It makes us hyper vigilant. It makes us uncomfortable.

But here's the whammy-- it also limits the amount of time that we want this person to be near us or around us. So if you want to increase what we call face time, one of the things that you want to do is to have an appropriate space so that everybody feels comfortable. That can be cultural, but it can also be personal.

@natalia_mvp, and she asks, "Are microexpressions more pronounced when people are on Zoom calls? Or are we better at noticing microexpressions because we keep staring into the screen?" So let's start with a couple of things. Number one, let's try and get away from microexpressions, because, in fact, they're just expressions. If they were micro, we probably wouldn't see them.

If they're fast, if they occur very quickly, then we say they are tachykinesic, as in the tachometer in your car. It moves very fast. They yield information, but very quickly. So we just refer to them as gestures.

So as to the question, when you're on a Zoom call, what's going to determine your ability to observe behaviors actually has a lot to do with two things, the camera that's being used by the other person and the lighting. If there's grease or oils or dirt on the camera and it's a low-resolution camera, little lighting, you're going to miss these little behaviors, to the point that something that is easy to see live, which is, for instance, the furrowing of the glabella, this little area of the head, if the camera is not right, if the lighting isn't right, you're going to miss these behaviors.

One other thing that we've found that's fascinating is that where you think that maybe having a neutral face on a virtual call is the best thing to do, it actually works against you. The brain looks at a face and says, this is a happy person or this is unhappy or possibly a threat. And what happens is when a face presents as neutral, it registers negatively. So what we try to teach people to do a lot of virtual calls is to at least nod an acknowledgment, smile, use your eyebrows to express agreement or surprise, but avoid a neutral face, because when we query those participants and ask about that person who had a neutral face, they're always rated negatively.

So we have a question from haadmalik1. And he asked, "Why does shaking your head mean no and nodding means yes?" There are behaviors that over time become standardized because of social conventions. We know that for the most part, nodding, the forward nod is perceived as accepting, as positive, as saying yes.

Now, there are cultures where this is not the norm. And we see that, for instance, in Bulgaria. There are times when somebody nods. What it means is they disagree.

But for the most part, what the research tells us is this-- as you go around the world, you're pretty much going to find the same behaviors. These things are universal. And that's why they're so reliable.

So we have a question from Anael Bodwell. And she asks, "How important is body posture when delivering speeches?" I remember when I was at university and professors always spoke behind a podium.

Now look at Ted Talks. There's no podium. Those days are over. If you're still talking behind a podium, it's almost anachronistic.

In essence, a presentation now has taken on new form, because now when we only have 15 minutes, as we see with corporations that have gone from a one hour presentation to 12 or 15 minutes, when we go from presentation to a performance, then yeah, posture, presence, how we look, all of that becomes important.

@erin_chase asks, "Hey, Joe, what do you think about teaching preteens and teens body language to help them stay safe? And what are some of the things you teach them to watch out for?" I think we need to teach children at a very young age about body language, in part because it helps them to navigate a complex world.

They go into classrooms where they may be running into children that they've never met before. And if we can teach them some simple things, as when you approach others, approach them at angles, not directly, because they will perceive you as friendlier, that if you teach them that if somebody, a child is grabbing their clothing, they're probably shy. Maybe they're introverted. What a great opportunity to welcome them and be friendly with them so that they're less stressed.

Why wait till you're 30 years old to learn these things? Why not learn them at a very young age? And especially now, where there's so much emphasis on using media to communicate, I would say most definitely, you can begin to teach children at a very young age what to look for. And they'll thank you for it in the end.

So thank you again. Thank you for your questions. Hope to get some more in the future. You've been watching "Body Language Support."