Funerals begin for Highland Park shooting victims: ‘The world is darker without my mom in it,’ Jacki Sundheim’s daughter tells mourners

Those grieving for the Highland Park shooting victims began the heavy task Friday of burying their loved ones.

The first funerals for the victims are taking place Friday, including services for Jacquelyn “Jacki” Sundheim, 63, and Steve Straus, 88, both of Highland Park. A visitation is also planned for Nicolas Toledo-Zaragoza, 78, who was visiting family from Morelos, Mexico.

They are among seven people who were shot and killed when a gunman opened fire from a rooftop at the Highland Park Fourth of July parade Monday. Also killed were Katherine Goldstein, 64, of Highland Park; Irina McCarthy, 35, and her husband Kevin McCarthy, 37, who also lived in Highland Park and left behind a 2-year-old son; and Eduardo Uvaldo, 69, of Waukegan.

Hundreds of mourners have gathered at North Shore Congregation Israel in Glencoe late Friday morning to honor Sundheim, who not only worked there for decades but was a lifelong member. Among those paying their respects are Illinois Gov. J. B. Pritzker and U.S. Rep. Brad Schneider. The Congressman was preparing to march in the parade Monday when the gunfire began.

Speaking through tears, Rabbi Wendi Geffen opened Sundheim’s service by saying: “We invite you to just be with us. We should not have to be here today. There is nothing, not one single thing that makes being brought together to mourn Jacki acceptable. We are horrified. We are enraged … aggrieved, inconsolable for the terror that has befallen us and robbed us of Jacki.”

“Jacki died because she was murdered, and in that there is no comfort for us to take away as we mourn Jacki’s death. There is no silver lining, no light over the darkness,” Geffen said.

Sundheim taught preschool at North Shore Congregation Israel and, as coordinated of events such as bar and bat mitzvahs, weddings and funerals, touched many lives in the community. She extended her mission for guiding youth by volunteering in the nursery school program at Highland Park High School.

“There was not one inch of this space that Jacki did not touch,” Geffen.

She spoke of the volumes of pain and despair Sundheim’s loved ones are feeling, and the risk of “coming to see Jacki’s life only by its end. … We cannot allow that to happen,”

Cantor David Goldstein, while singing the 23rd Psalm in Hebrew before congregants, took off his glasses to wipe his eyes as his voice filled the large, modern, sunlit sanctuary. He returned to his white seat and cried.

Later, Rabbi Lisa Greene recount Sundheim’s journey as a congregant, from early childhood to her teen years leading youth groups to eventually joining the staff.

Sundheim’s survivors include her husband Bruce and their daughter Leah.

Later Sundheim’s daughter Leah spoke, saying she “cannot process” that her mother won’t be present “when I have my baby or meet the love of my life, and that fills me with a rage and emptiness that scares me.”

Addressing the assembled mourners, she said: “I want each of you to take that fear, that sadness and that rage and I need it to let it fuel you. .... Let it remind you to find joy in little things and treasure the big things. I want you to use this horrible, overwhelming hurt and turn it into a drive to help heal our world and our community.”

She added: “Do not let this sadness, this fear, rage turn you indifferent or bitter toward our world, because the world is darker without my mom in it —  and it’s up to us now to fill it with a little extra laughter and help replace her light and love.”

Just as that service was ending, another was getting under way for Straus at a different synagogue a few miles south in Evanston. It followed a private burial service.

Straus’ family had described him earlier as a lover of culture with a curious mind who still commuted five days a week to his stockbroker office downtown.

A native of Chicago’s South Side, Straus was “very much a Highland Parker” and went to the parade each year, one of his sons told the Tribune.

Straus, said his son Peter Straus, was “very curious about the world.”

Beloved husband of Linda (née Jacobson). Loving father of Jonathan (Elizabeth Versten) Straus and Peter (Elissa Meryl) Straus. Proud grandfather of Tobias, Maxwell, Maisy and Oliver. Dear brother of Larry (Caryn) Straus.

Toledo-Zaragoza’s family has said he’d planned to spend three months in the Chicago visiting family, something that had been delayed because of COVID-19.

As the father of eight, his family said, he had a large number of grandchildren and great-grandchildren, and he was surrounded by relatives at the parade when he died.

“Today Nicolas is our guardian angel,” his granddaughter Xochil Toledo wrote about Nicolas Toledo. “We ask you (to) please keep our family and all the families of this horrible tragedy in your prayers and stay strong as a community.”