What to know about Carmen Wilson, former academic who appeared in sex videos with UW-La Crosse chancellor, husband Joe Gow

Former Dickinson State vice president Carmen Wilson and UW-La Crosse Joe Gow posed for a rivalry photo when the football teams of their respective schools played in 2018. Gow was fired on Wednesday for making porn videos with his wife.
Former Dickinson State vice president Carmen Wilson and UW-La Crosse Joe Gow posed for a rivalry photo when the football teams of their respective schools played in 2018. Gow was fired on Wednesday for making porn videos with his wife.
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University of Wisconsin-La Crosse Chancellor Joe Gow was fired by the UW Board of Regents Wednesday night after it was discovered that several videos of him and his wife, Carmen Wilson, were posted to porn websites in recent months.

Gow, 63, has said he has no regrets about the videos and other explicit content he and Wilson made together, saying they talked it over before deciding to be "more open" about the lives they'd previously kept hidden. He questioned whether his firing violates free speech protections.

"I would say that anything that I do or my wife and I do, we do as citizens in the United States, who have the freedom of First Amendment to the Constitution, to create and publish books and videos that explore consensual adult sexuality," he said.

Here's what to know about Wilson.

Carmen Wilson
Carmen Wilson

Who is Carmen Wilson, the wife of fired UW-La Crosse Chancellor Joe Gow?

Wilson, 56, worked at UW-La Crosse for about 15 years, beginning in 1996, mostly in the psychology department, according to a résumé posted online.

She has a doctoral degree in counseling psychology from Iowa State University.

In 2006, when Wilson was an associate professor of psychology, she chaired the search committee for a new chancellor to lead the university. The committee ended up picking Gow.

She was Gow's chief of staff in the chancellor's office from 2008 to 2011.

Wilson led UW-Rock County from 2011 to 2016, when her position was eliminated in budget cuts.

She was then provost and vice president for academic affairs at Dickinson State University in North Dakota from 2016 to 2019.

In 2019, she was a finalist for the president of Southwest Minnesota State University.

Wilson and Gow married in June 2014 on the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, an event featured in a UW-La Crosse news roundup.

"Both enjoy running, said Gow, so they decided to run from opposite sides of the famous San Francisco bridge and meet their officiant for the ceremony in the middle."

As Gow's spouse, Wilson served as an "associate to the chancellor" under the terms of his contract. The formal appointment is unpaid and complements the chancellor's public-facing role leading the university.

Wilson played keyboard and sang vocals in The FurLow Riders, a blues-rock band led by Gow. The group performed at free “Chillin’ With the Chancellor” events at UW-La Crosse.

Joe Gow, who was fired Wednesday as chancellor at UW-La Crosse, plays with his wife, Carmen Wilson, at a "Chillin' With the Chancellor" event in 2018.
Joe Gow, who was fired Wednesday as chancellor at UW-La Crosse, plays with his wife, Carmen Wilson, at a "Chillin' With the Chancellor" event in 2018.

Carmen Wilson and her husband Joe Gow appear in videos with adult film stars cooking vegan dishes

Wilson and Gow appear in videos on several porn websites using "Sexy Happy Couple" as the account name, a moniker also used on at least two social media accounts promoting their videos.

The videos feature the couple cooking vegan dishes with adult film stars. The couple's account on X, formerly Twitter, notes: "Visit our LoyalFans and OnlyFans sites for fully explicit scenes!"

The couple also published two books under pseudonyms detailing their experiences in the adult film industry. Both books and the social media accounts feature photos clearly showing Gow and Wilson.

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Books Carmen Wilson and Joe Gow published address tension between their public status and private lives

The couple published two books together under the names Geri and Jay Hart. The author bio on Amazon states the names are pseudonyms for "a married woman and man who serve in executive positions at two well-known organizations in the U.S.” An author photo shows Gow and Wilson.

The books don't reference La Crosse, Wisconsin, or any work for a university. But they do allude to the couple's status in the community and the tension they felt between the expectations of their “establishment” careers and their desires to be more open about their sex lives.

“You see, we couldn’t be more entrenched in the local establishment,” they wrote in “Monogamy with Benefits: How Porn Enriches Our Relationship,” published in 2015. “Not only do we serve as executives at two of the better-known organizations in the city where we live, but we are also highly active in charitable and civic activities. We hold seats on non-profit boards, and we’re fixtures at a very traditional ‘downtown’ public service club. All this has made us rather visible public figures in our city. We’re sometimes quoted in the newspapers, and people approach us from time to time to say they’ve seen us on last night’s television news. In fact, you can even go on the web and find photographs of us smiling alongside ultra-reputable current and former national and state political leaders.”

The couple noted they were “fairly certain a scandal would ensue if our peers were to know about what we’ve been doing. ... Our careers likely would be ruined."

That book ends with the couple’s first experience being in a “professionally produced sex video” just before they got married. Their 2018 book, “Married with Benefits: Our Real-life Adult Industry Adventures,” describes additional experiences creating pornographic videos and collaborating with other adult performers.

Joe Gow, Carmen Wilson discussed 'being more open' in recent months

In the videos, the couple introduce themselves as Joe and Carmen. All appear to have been uploaded since Nov. 1, a couple of months after Gow announced he would step down as chancellor and return next fall as a faculty member.

It was an apt time to test UW leaders' commitment to free speech, Gow told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel on Wednesday.

"My wife, we talked about it and what the future holds," he said.

They decided: "Let's be more open."

This article originally appeared on Milwaukee Journal Sentinel: Who is Carmen Wilson, wife of fired UW-La Crosse chancellor Joe Gow?