19 Married People Shared The "I'm Sorry, WHAT?!" Secrets They Learned About Their Spouses After Marrying Them
We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to share the shocking secret they didn't learn about their spouse until after they married them, and these are some serious doozies, y'all:
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1."The month we got married, I found out he was cheating on me. But the worst part was, he confessed to having five children with different women around the country! They didn't want him in their lives, and I didn't want him either. We divorced shortly thereafter."
—BuzzFeed User
2."I found out that on the eve of his best friend's funeral, he slept with his best friend's wife! I wanted to throw up. I should have known then that the guy had no morals, and I should have left him right then and there!"
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3."After five years of marriage, I found out my husband was a peeping Tom — he was caught on a neighbor's security camera peeping through another neighbor's window at night. We are obviously no longer together."
—BuzzFeed User
4."The day we returned from our honeymoon, I found out that there was an arrest warrant out for my husband! It turned out he had HUNDREDS of unpaid parking tickets going back four years! He quickly admitted that the tickets belonged to him, and opened his car trunk to show me hundreds of yellow slips! Apparently, he'd been going to college and parking in an illegal spot, and he got a ticket nearly every single day for YEARS. He'd just take the ticket off his windshield and throw it in the trunk, thinking nothing of it!"
5."That he was in tens of thousands of dollars in debt — not just to credit cards and student loans, but to the IRS! In all our premarital counseling and planning, he never thought it appropriate to mention it! We’re not married anymore."
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6."I found out my airline pilot spouse was a serial womanizer. I even caught his match.com account, where he'd try to meet and arrange to shack up with women in the cities he spent the night in. He also perused the want ads for 'love' in the newspapers of those cities. Once, he took a lady and her grandkids to a museum and had pictures of the visit on our shared computer! Then, he would lie right to my face! I've never been happier since we got divorced!"
—BuzzFeed User
7."My ex-husband didn't tell me until after we were married that he was a former drug dealer who fought pit bulls, carried a gun, and killed several people."
—BuzzFeed User
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8."We were both smokers when we got together, so we didn't have the best breath in general, but after we got married, I noticed that he never brushed his teeth in the morning. I knew he hardly did it at night, but not in the morning either? Eww! I'd set a 'trap' by putting the toothpaste in a specific spot and position, and since he left for work earlier than me, I would notice it there, untouched. When I confronted him, he admitted it! It's still hit and miss, but I'm telling him to take care of his damn teeth!"
9."That she was eight years older than she had told me the whole time we were dating — I believed she was 34, and then I found out from the marriage certificate that she was actually 42!"
—BuzzFeed User
10."I discovered my husband did not pay the child support he owed his child's mother — he owed, in fact, almost $38,000!"
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11."My dad never mentioned to my mom that he has epilepsy. They were together for a total of two years before marriage, and the night of their wedding, my dad had a seizure. He had been afraid to tell my mom about his epilepsy because he was afraid she would dump him."
12."My friend's wife continued to claim single mother benefits for 10 years after they got married. She finally got investigated when they separated, and he had to prove he knew nothing about it. She went to jail for a short term."
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13."I found out that my husband's mom had been having a 20-year-long affair! Everyone in the family knew about it except her husband, and they just stayed quiet. So when he later found out, and told her he had three other kids, it was wild! But they are still together, and the rest of us have to act like nothing happened."
14."I found out on our honeymoon that my husband doesn't wash his hands after he pees!"
15."After we were married, my husband told me that his mom met his dad when she was babysitting three kids for a lady he was dating. That's all I know, because my mother-in-law wouldn't tell me the rest of the story."
—BuzzFeed User
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16."I found out he had three kids instead of one, which is what he'd told me!"
17."A friend of mine found out her husband had lied about graduating college — and he had lied to his family, too! When he lost his job due to the pandemic and finally found another one, the new employer questioned him about college, and he lied. He would've gotten the job regardless, but since they found out he lied, they rescinded the offer. And since his in-laws had a relationship with the employer — and were the ones who set up the opportunity — he had to come clean to them!"
18."It wasn't until after we were married that I found out my husband still does the bunny ear method when tying his shoes."
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And finally:
19."That his dick was average length. The whole time beforehand, he had been saying he was HUGE!"
—BuzzFed User
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What about you? Did you find out a shocking secret about your spouse after marrying them? If so, tell us about it in the comment section, and you could be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post!
Some responses have been edited for length and clarity.
