Okay, Here's How Guys Really Feel About First Dates on Valentine's Day
OK, so you’re swiping through Tinder (or Bumble or Ship or Hinge or whatever your app of choice is) and you match with a pretty hot dude. The two of you get to talking and he asks when you’re free this week to grab a drink.
You check your calendar and the only day you’re available is this Thursday-AKA, Valentine’s Day. DUN DUN DUN.
So WTF are you supposed to do? Do you go ahead and ask him to go on a first date on the most romantic day of the year, or do you bypass the whole thing and reschedule for next week?
Well, to help make your decision easier-or, at the very least, more informed-we asked 15 guys how they would feel if a girl asked them on a first date on Valentine’s Day. Here’s what they had to say:
1. He sees it as killing two birds with one stone.
"I’d say yes because that means our anniversary will be on Valentine’s Day. It’s a dream come true. I don’t need to pay for two different holidays, especially holidays that only the people who get to celebrate them enjoy. Everyone else hates Valentine’s Day. Shouldn’t the gift of finding love be good enough? Who cares who asks who?"-Connor, 24
2. He wouldn’t be down, but he wouldn’t reject you completely.
"I would reschedule. It's impossible to get a reservation that night, and expectations are impossible to meet. If she was unwilling to schedule, it would be a dodged bullet because she is probably a little off. -Hayden, 26
3. It totally depends on how lonely this dude’s feeling.
"I’m not sure how I feel about that. It seems a little forward for a first date. Plus, it means I’ve got to make reservations on the busiest day of the year. But, then again, maybe I’m lonely AF and want a shot at love." -Ben, 25
4. He would love it.
"I would love it." -Jasper, 26
5. Oh, and so would this guy.
"I’d love it." -Patrick, 26
6. He'd get a confidence boost out of it.
"I’d feel very special." -Nick, 27
7. He'd be happy for the companionship.
"I wouldn’t mind a first date on Valentine’s Day at all. If anything, it eases maybe the early awkwardness of the first date setting. Opens the door for a few light jokes, maybe even bring a small chocolate/rose if it’s an anticipated date. Valentine’s Day can suck if you have no one, so even a stranger could be nice." -Tim, 25
8. This guy couldn’t care less about the day.
"I would be happy if a girl asked me out, regardless of the date." -Christopher, 26
9. He thinks it all depends on who’s asking.
"It’s a bold move, for sure. I’d personally be into it if I was into the girl, but I feel like most guys might get spooked. It’s kind of a bigger commitment at that point, which a lot of guys might be averse to making, as opposed to grabbing some light-hearted drinks on a meaningless day and seeing where things go from there when the stakes aren’t as high." -Kevin, 28
10. He'd have mad respect for the girl.
"Total boss move. You know you’re going out with a cool chick because most girls would be too self conscious. I probably didn't have plans either!" -Tobin, 27
11. It’s a bit much for this dude.
"Nah. She'd already be catching feelings if that’s the case." -Danny, 26
12. This guy would be extremely turned on by the idea.
"I’d be torqued." -Nick, 29
13. He's thinking a bit philosophically.
"First dates can be tricky as is, and overcomplicating things is almost always going to lead to an awkward time. Valentine’s Day is meant to be a “holiday” on which we show those we love how much we appreciate them. The idea of combining the ancient anxiety-riddled courting ritual of a first date with the expectation of undying love and devotion hanging over your head is unnecessarily messy."-Dave, 24
14. He'd be uncomfortable with the situation.
"I would feel weird about it."-Kevin, 27
15. Oh, he's super down.
"I’d love it! Not the traditional route but hey it’s 2019. Some people might think Valentines Day needs to be super romantic and saved especially for couples but at the end of the day it’s just another day to hang out for single guys so why not spend that day with someone you find interesting?" -Anthony, 25
So, the TL;DR as far as I see it? If you genuinely want to ask someone out on Valentine’s Day, you should! Yes, based on these responses, there’s about a 50 percent chance you’ll be shot down… but there’s also a 50 percent shot you won’t! And, if you’re the type of person who is down to go on a spur-of-the-moment first date on Valentine’s Day, you deserve to be with someone who feels the same.
Plus, can you think of a better first date story?
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