We've got a lot to unpack, so first watch this viral TikTok about a homecoming dress that has over 10 million views, and then we'll get into the details:
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BuzzFeed spoke to 17-year-old Grace Brumfield, who made the TikTok. She is a junior at an Alabama high school.
Her school recently held their homecoming dance. Grace went with her boyfriend, Zach, wearing a dress she had altered and customized to loosely resemble Princess Diana’s black revenge dress. SHE LOOKED STUNNING!
"Homecoming was AMAZING! I had so many compliments on my dress, and it was our first homecoming since COVID, so they made it really nice and very special for all of the students! I made so many great memories, and the environment was just out-of-this-world amazing," she said.
Unfortunately, Grace's pleasant homecoming experience was brought to a halt after Zach's mom shared the couple's pics in a Facebook group called Sunflowers and Daisies. "My boyfriend's mom started telling me how the pictures had somewhere around 32,000 likes. She was talking about all the nice comments, and then she said, 'And of course, there are the negative ones as well.' My heart kind of immediately sank because I felt so confident about my appearance and attire that night, and I didn’t want that confidence I had to be in a way stolen from me. I have been picked on my entire life — my freshman year, I moved schools because it got so bad."
After Grace read the comments, she was taken aback by how mean some of them were. "It shocked me because most of them were from women — and they were all mothers and grandmothers. The only question I had was, Why? I didn’t see anything wrong with my photos, so why were there negative comments?"
As a way of coping, Grace decided to turn the situation into a joke on TikTok.
The Facebook post has since been removed by the group admin, but here are some of the awful comments that Grace screenshotted and shared in her viral video:
WARNING: The following section contains mentions of sexual assault.
Out of all the comments, Grace said, the one that most hurt her was from a woman named Rhonda. "She said that based on the way I was dressed, I was asking to be raped. As a victim of sexual assault, it just made my blood boil because clothes are not the reasons that men and women are assaulted."
After Grace posted the hateful Facebook comments on TikTok, people were quick to address the irony of the situation:
And btw, Grace even said that her dress DID pass the fingertip rule...but that's beside the point.
Thankfully, Grace's parents, boyfriend, and her boyfriend's mom have all been very supportive and have her back. "Zach's mom was responding to some mean comments and sticking up for me, and my boyfriend kept reassuring me of how beautiful I looked that night, saying they were just jealous old Karens."
Reply to @hannahbelleclout #greenscreen me and Rhonda had to have a talk😘😜
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