This Short Film Hilariously Examines Dangerous Expectations Of Masculinity Among Gay Men

A compelling new short film explores how gay men impose expectations of masculinity on one another ― and the effects these behaviors have on femme-identified or femme-presenting gay men.

“Masc Only,” directed by comedian Drew Droege of “Chloe” fame and written by Tommy Do, takes an intimate look at the complicated friendships of gay men and the ways in which a gay men’s proximity to masculinity shapes and informs their experiences ― both sexually and platonically ― within the gay community.

“It’s interesting to see how the need to be masculine leaks from heteronormative culture into the gay community,” Do told HuffPost. “I know so many gay men who are so extra about proving to everyone that they’re masculine — from their Grindr profile to the friends they surround themselves with... It’s super annoying when people are unable to recognize their own baggage and it materializes in a way where everyone around them has to deal with their insecurities.  It’s, like, girl, my bags are FULL and I am NOT paying overweight fees. Carry that shit yourself.”

Check out “Masc Only” above and head here to learn more about the film.

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An asexual is “someone who does not experience sexual attraction.” also notes, "Asexuals may regard other people as aesthetically attractive without feeling sexual attraction to them. Some asexual people also experience the desire of being affectionate to other people without it being sexual. If you do not experience sexual attraction, you might identify as asexual."


"An aromantic is a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others,” according to The site also notes that “aromantics do not lack emotional/personal connection, but simply have no instinctual need to develop connections of a romantic nature. Aromantics can have needs for just as much empathetic support as romantics, but these needs can be fulfilled in a platonic way.” Being aromantic is usually “considered to be innate and not a personal choice,” in the same way that asexuality is considered innate.


Jared, one man who identifies as graysexual, defines the term as a "magical place between asexual and someone who is sexual." The Frisky defines it as "something more fluid between sexuality and asexuality." Those who identify as graysexual might also identify as gay or straight or any other sexual identity inside or outside of the binary.


Someone who identifies as demisexual doesn’t typically feel sexual attraction unless they “have already formed a strong emotional bond with the person.” also notes that “the bond may or may not be romantic in nature.”


Similar to a demisexual, the individual doesn’t feel romantic attraction “unless they have already formed a strong emotional bond with the person.”


According to, the term is described as “a person who experiences romantic love but does not want their feelings to be reciprocated.” The site also notes that lithromantic people “may or may not be ok with romantic relationships.”


Pansexual refers to those “who feel they are sexually/emotionally/spiritually capable of falling in love with all genders.


Similar to pansexual, a polysexual person “may be attracted to some gender variant people but not have the capability or desire to be with some others.


A person who is romantically -- but not sexually -- attracted to others regardless of sex or gender.


According to, skoliosexual refers to “sexual attraction to non-binary identified individuals" or those who do not identify as cisgender. The site also notes that “this does not generally describe an attraction to specific genitalia or birth assignments but rather is an inclusive term.”

Queerplatonic Relationships

Relationships that “are not romantic in nature but they involve very close emotional connections that are often deeper or more intense than what is traditionally considered a friendship.”


The name for a partner who is involved in a queerplatonic relationship, as in "he's my zucchini."

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