Tess Holliday Says She Gets Daily Messages Telling Her to ‘Drop Dead’ Because of Her Weight

Julie Mazziotta
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Tess Holliday proudly owns her body — she did create #effyourbeautystandards, after all — but privately, the model deals with rude people trying to destroy her self-esteem.

Holliday, 33, said she gets messages on social media every day telling her to “drop dead” because of her size.

“I would be lying if I said they didn’t affect me,” she said in an essay for InStyle. “I go to therapy to try to make sense of it all. I will tell someone to f— off if they deserve it, but I’d rather come from a place of compassion.”

The mom of two said that along with therapy, she mutes people who bring her down, and occasionally deletes her social media apps.

“Then I focus on my ‘self-care folder’ that has games like Cat Cafe, where you feed and pet little virtual cats,” she said. “It’s silly, but it takes me away from the negativity.”

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RP @instylemagazine ♥️ “Who you follow is who you’re letting into your inner circle. It’s in your subconscious. It’s what you’re absorbing. Sometimes I delete social media from my phone altogether.” Model @TessHolliday says the key to handling haters, including on social media, is to show yourself (and others) some love and compassion. “I can’t live life being miserable, because I could die tomorrow. And then what — I was miserable because I was fat? What a waste.” Read @TessHolliday’s full essay on showing yourself compassion, not taking life too seriously, and how modeling changed her life at the link in bio. ❤️ I Photographed by @anthony.maule; Styled by @meaghanpoconnor Makeup @danielmartin Hair @shinyanyc Nails @chrmdbysarah ❣️

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