Thoughtful Ways to Include Your Families in the Proposal

Nancy Mattia
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Families and friends are becoming as essential to a proposal as the engagement ring. It's common for the groom-to-be to ask his future wife's parents to give their blessing before they get down on one knee, which is why it makes sense to go a step further and actually include her family—and his own—when they pop the question. Sometimes the family is actively involved in the proposal scheme and help set it up; other times they're invited to be secret witnesses, jumping out once she accepts or else meeting the happy couple for a surprise post-proposal party. They can do double-duty as the photographer or videographer, too, so you can look back on this intimate moment for years to come.

If you're thinking about including one or both families in the proposal, here are some of our favorite ways to do just that.

Related: The Dos and Don'ts You Need to Keep in Mind When Planning a Public Proposal

Arrange a flash mob.

It's kind of retro now, but a flash mob is still a great way to get numerous people to participate in the proposal. We love the idea of enlisting family members and friends to help perform a song she really likes. Whatever you do, be sure to start the planning process early—when you've got a big crew, the logistics can become complicated

Hide your loved ones until after she accepts.

If you're planning to pop the question in public, invite your family members and closest friends to gather nearby. After she says "Yes!" have them slowly make their way to the spot where the two of you are standing. Another fun option? Propose privately, then tell her you've made reservations at a nearby restaurant. When you go inside, she'll find everyone she loves waiting to celebrate.

Ask her siblings for help.

If a private proposal is more your speed, know that including family members doesn't mean they actually have to be present when you propose. If she has a sister she's close to, for example, ask her to join you while shopping for the engagement ring. Look at various shapes and sizes together and get suggestions. (Ultimately, though, the final ring decision is yours.)

Make a video.

If all or most of your families live too far away to be at the proposal in person, ask them to make a funny but heartwarming video with as many relatives as possible wishing the two of you well.