"I Caught The Bride Having Sex With The Best Man": Wedding Industry Workers Share The Couples They Knew Were Doomed On Their Big Days
Reddit user u/Justhearmeoit asked the Reddit community: "People [who] work in the wedding industry, have you ever seen a couple and immediately thought: 'This [will] end in divorce?'"
Welp, wedding planners, workers, and everyone in between revealed their shocking experiences with brides and grooms. Their stories proved that all marriages aren't meant to be, especially when the warning signs happen on The Big Day™.
So, here are some juicy stories from wedding planners/workers that'll most likely shock you:
Note: Some stories include topics of verbal abuse. Please proceed with caution.
1."I heard from a wedding planner that the bride and her bridesmaids went through at least 10 bottles of champagne the morning of the wedding, and were ridiculously drunk. Two of the three bridesmaids fell and had trouble getting up on the way down the aisle, and the bride and the maid of honor made it down the aisle but with great difficulty. The groom was basically holding the bride up for the entirety of the ceremony, and she loudly refused to sit in a chair. The wedding planner said the couple argued the night before over whether they were going to drink before the wedding. The groom wanted to stay sober until the reception, but the bride disagreed."
"The wedding planner said they had a massive fight in the limo on the way to take pictures, which the bride's side of the wedding party was in no shape to participate in — so they skipped them. The photographer ended up doing a goofy shoot with the groomsmen since they had already paid for photos. The bride and bridesmaids sat in the limo drinking.
At the reception, the bride was passed out, and the groom made an apology speech to the guests. Then, he took an Uber home alone."
2."On the night of the wedding, I (the wedding planner) brought the bottle of champagne up to the room along with some other things we did for a wedding night. I quickly opened the door and walked straight in. The bride was bent over a chair with her wedding dress over her head, having sex with the best man."
3."I photographed the groom and saw his eyes light up when a guest arrived. I looked over, and it was a random cute woman in a short dress. He smiled, walked up to the woman, picked her up, and swung her in his arms. It was the best smile I captured of the groom all day. His marriage didn’t last six months from what I heard."
4."It was a quick engagement and marriage, and I got the feeling maybe too quick. The wedding and reception were at the groom's parents' place, and his mom had a lot of input (as did his sister). The bride got shut down whenever she talked. On the day of the wedding, I arrived to shoot the bride getting ready. She was alone with the hair and makeup person. I thought that person was her friend, but she wasn’t (her bridesmaids weren't even there). Two hours went by, and she couldn't get a hold of them. The makeup person left, and I helped her put on her veil and shoes. I felt so bad for her — this was supposed to be her big day, and there she was: having a stranger put on her veil and telling her she looked great."
"The bridesmaids finally showed up (the maid of honor was the groom's sister). When the bride questioned them, the sister said they went out for breakfast — the bride then asked why they didn't tell her, and they got mad at her.
The groom was also invited to breakfast along with the groomsmen, and they were all drinking at 11:30 a.m. The kicker? None of the bridesmaids were dressed or had their hair and makeup done, and the wedding was in 30 minutes.
We were supposed to go to a nearby beach for photos, but it never happened because the groom talked to every person in attendance in the longest receiving line situation. He kept drinking as the sun was setting — I told the couple I had zero photos of them alone, and we needed to go.
He responded: 'Yeah, yeah, after the speeches.' He made a speech after several of his friends did (and most of his had nothing to do with his bride). When he finished, I approached the bride — she looked at me and said: 'You can go home now.'
The groom was in the middle of a group of people, chugging a beer and laughing loudly while his beautiful new bride sat alone, seemingly wondering what the fuck she got herself into. I saw her six months later at a restaurant, and before I could ask, she told me she left him."
5."I was helping out at my parents' restaurant where a huge wedding party was hosted. I was busy serving drinks, and suddenly, yelling and screaming started right behind me. It turned out the bride had somehow found out that the groom hooked up with her sister right before the wedding ceremony (and apparently on a few occasions before). In her anger she stabbed him in the chest with a dinner fork several times. We had to call an ambulance and the police — it was like hell."
6."I worked in the catering business for over 20 years, so I worked a lot of weddings and receptions. I once heard a bride at the reception during the toasts say that she actually thought she was asking out the groom's twin brother on their first date, and how the twin was more compatible. Then, she ended the toast with: 'Well, as nice as you are, you'll make a great first husband.' I walked past the camera man, and you could hear me on tape saying: 'Did you get that? Tell me you got that.'"
7."I worked in a hotel, and an engaged couple had a huge rehearsal dinner which spilled out into the lobby. Everyone in the lobby found out that the bride hated the groom's parents, she was pregnant, and she had no idea who the father was. Half the guest list packed up and checked out the next day. They still got married."
8."A bride was nervous on her wedding day, so she got drunk before the ceremony (she had to be helped down the aisle). Then, when the ceremony was over, instead of kissing the groom ('we now pronounce you man and wife'), she licked him from chin to eyeball. She fell during the recessional and knocked over a waiter carrying champagne. She couldn't be in there during the post-ceremony photoshoot because she kept falling. When it was time to cut the cake, we couldn't find her. Our staff went to her hotel room and found her covered in her own vomit, still in her wedding dress. She had the audacity to ask for a refund after all of this. They're divorced now..."
9."Just before the wedding speeches, the groom went to go hang out with his friends for half an hour (leaving the bride sitting there alone and delaying the speeches). Then, right after the bride and groom cut the cake, he once again went to go hang out with his friends and abandoned his wife. So, she was left alone mingling with all the guests, and he made no interaction with her side of the guests. He stuck with his friends the rest of the evening. His wife basically begged him to take more wedding pictures — at one point in the evening, he actually went for a drive with his friends for about an hour, and his wife had no idea where he was. I mean, I get wanting to mingle with your friends at your wedding, but to not even mingle with your wife's family or friends on your wedding day seems quite rude."
10."Wedding DJ here. I had a wedding a few years ago where the groom was a total dickhead. When it was his turn to make a speech, he refused to make one. When the bride's sister begged him to please make a speech, or at least just tell the bride she looked beautiful, he got up, took the mic, mumbled to her that she looked beautiful, and sat back down."
11."I'm not actually in the industry, but I've helped out a friend with a few weddings. Two of the weddings I worked at, I could just tell the bride and groom weren't going to make it. The first wedding the bride and groom hardly talked to each other during the entire wedding (it was like they had nothing in common). Later on, the groom pretty much fucked off half-way through and went home because, and I quote: 'He was tired.' So, he just left his bride having to take pictures with the wedding guests on her own. He never came back that evening, so she had to greet everyone off. Funnily enough about a year later, I heard they were filing for divorce."
12."I’m a photographer, and I’ve shot three weddings — I hated them (bless the people who do it). Anyway, at one of the weddings, the groom called the bride unattractive (she was stunning and used to model — he was cute, but generically cute). He kept taking shots of vodka with his boys, and asked for a full-on photoshoot with his mom. He was definitely a mama’s boy because his mom was hovering the whole time (and you know it’s bad when his mom suggested he take photos with his wife). He told me to STFU every time I redirected, so after the third time that happened (and flashed me his junk?), I started packing up. When he started yelling at me, I told him no one talks to me like that, and I’d send them a refund. I knew right then the marriage wouldn’t last."
"He started crying and said he’d 'behave.' But it didn't matter because two weeks later, the marriage was annulled. No one wanted the photos, but I was paid in full for photos no one wanted.
When I offered to refund the bride's dad half anyway, he said the bride knew when the groom yelled at me and cried that it wasn’t going to work — so I earned it. I guess the whole fam was trying to get them to call it off."
13."The ceremony was coming up, but the groom was nowhere to be found — everyone was looking for him. We looked in the groom's lounge (a hangout room for the groom and groomsmen), and there he was: banging the maid of honor. Shame, shame, shame."
14."I'm a musician and the son of a wedding photographer. I've actually played in a band whose leader (on the wedding day) took a deposit for the divorce party that was to follow. The groom's mother laid it down and said: 'I give it six months.' Nine months later, there we were celebrating the divorce, and the bride wasn't present."
15.And: "I remember one couple who really wanted an over-the-top wedding that would be good enough to be featured in a popular luxury wedding magazine. They spared no expense. They became so obsessed with this that they were even choosing members of their bridal party based on their looks rather than their relationship with them. The bride had two brothers — one brother looked like a model for Hugo Boss, and her other brother who looked a little bit like Thor. Well, only the 'Hugo Boss' brother was selected to be a groomsman (things like this caused a lottttt of tension between family members, as well as fights between the couple). It was awkward a lot of the time. I knew for sure this couple wouldn't make it for long. Interestingly enough, the couple divorced a week before their wedding was featured in that luxury bridal magazine."
Note: Some stories have been edited for length and/or clarity.
