Woman describes the Shine Theory and the importance of surrounding yourself with ‘the best people’: ‘I don’t shine, if you don’t shine’
One woman is sharing an imperative lesson she learned in her early 20s about the benefit of befriending the people who may intimidate you.
Misty (@mistyness), a 28-year-old content creator based in New York City, recently shared a video discussing a theory that revolves around uplifting other women.
“This is the most important thing that women need to learn in their early 20s or frankly even earlier,” she begins. “It comes from this 2013 The Cut article by Anne Friedman titled ‘Shine Theory: Why Powerful Women Make the Greatest Friends.'”
Misty explains how the piece criticizes the way society has “ingrained in us this scarcity mindset of how we’re competing for the same few jobs, the same few men” and “how we look worse when our friend looks better.”
Rather than tear each other down, the Shine Theory encourages women to support one another.
“The world is already so damn hard for women, that women need to not make it harder on each other,” Misty says. “So no scarcity mindset here. No one is taking the spotlight from one another and the goal is to grow the overall pie, not to make everyone’s slices smaller.”
“I don’t shine if you don’t shine,” she adds.
“True queens fix each others crowns!”
While most commenters are entirely on board with the Shine Theory, some are questioning the alleged “bad feeling” women get when they initially encounter other powerful women.
“I was taught from childhood to surround myself with people who are smarter than me,” one woman shared. “I owe everything to my friends and my past self.”
“True queens fix each others crowns!” another wrote.
“You guys get a bad feeling in your stomach when you meet someone like that? WOW ….,” one user said, to which Misty replied, “It’s the feeling of being intimidated / threatened bc society has pitted women against each other – the article talks about why we shouldn’t feel that.”
As Misty suggests, in adopting Friedman’s Shine Theory, women are seen as allies rather than enemies.
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