Unhealthy relationships can have a lasting impact on our lives, whether it's being subjected to emotional abuse, narcissistic traits or toxic behaviours. Women on Reddit are sharing their experiences with dating people who they think were sociopaths.
1. "There was a sex position he liked that physically hurt me and I kept trying to like it. One day I told him it wasn't as painful anymore, and he told me flat out that made it no fun anymore." [via]
2. "They lied about everything, made up stories. They appeared to lack any real emotion and put on a face of what they thought the proper emotion should be. It was like a different person once they had me." [via]
3. "He was extremely charming when he wanted to be, he’d compliment me, make me feel special, tell me he loved me etc. What I eventually realised was he only acted like that when he needed something from me - usually sex. Speaking of sex, he NEVER wanted to use a condom and straight up refused to pull out on multiple occasions. He would then try to blame me and tell me that I needed to go on birth control if I didn’t want to get pregnant, even though I had tried birth control multiple times before and always had horrible side effects—and he knew this.
"When he didn’t want to be around me he’d berate me and purposely make me feel like shit about myself. He also was completely incapable of having long-term friendships with other people. When I asked, 'What happened to [your friend]? I haven’t seen him in a while?' He’d tell me an elaborate story (clearly lies) of how his friends were idiots, he hates them and they’re awful to him (basically completely victimising himself). I would then hear very different stories of what happened from other people." [via]
4. "One of the things he did that made me realise that he was not normal was the day my dad died. I went out with my sister after hearing the news. We wanted to distract ourselves in a sense. My ex kept calling. He called my sister to make sure that I was actually with her. When I got home he didn’t apologise, couldn’t hug me, and actually sat in a chair opposite from the bed where I was sitting and stared coldly at me while I was talking about my dad. My sister came into the room to check if everything was OK. and he literally snapped out of it and tried to appear warmer (his whole face changed). He got up from his chair and sat on the bed next to me to make it look like he was comforting me. It was weird." [via]
5. "Super manipulative with no remorse or sorrow for how he treated me, or others. He’d do things to me and then be extremely charming to our friends to the point where it made me look crazy, or like a liar." [via]
6. "I knew because of how manipulative he was, how much he got off on twisting situations around, how I questioned my own sanity around him, how he lied so easily and so convincingly, how he had zero empathy for anything or anyone whatsoever, no remorse at all when it was clear he was causing so much pain. I knew it was bad, though, when his own roommates/close friends took me aside and told me he was a psychopath and that I deserved so much better." [via]
7. "He was a pathological liar, and admitted it to me. He acted on impulse, had bad judgement, would manipulate people, did mean things to others and didn’t feel ashamed about it. Once I saw him set a live spider on fire and feel nothing. He always wondered if he was a psychopath as well. The only thing that made me think he might not be was that he was in love with me, but it’s been years since I was with him and after thinking about it I’m pretty convinced." [via]
8. "He was a pathological liar, he had an aggrandised sense of self, he made everyone around him just feel uncomfortable although they could never figure out why until it all came to light just exactly how atrocious of a person he was. It was his lack of remorse that really did me in though. The inability to accept fault, to be truthful, to even admit he had done anything catastrophically horrendous to me or anyone else. He was incapable of feeling sorry for what he had done. It was horrible and painful. I would not wish what he did to me on my worst enemy." [via]
9. "We were best friends in school and eventually started speaking again years later. He would always play on my psych and make me feel so powerful with him, like it was us against the world. I can't remember loads as I think I repress memories often, but he ended up becoming extremely manipulative and would tell me how I would be nothing without him. He would also tell me that if we had children and split up, he would keep them because he thinks I would be a bad mum, he turned me against some of my best friends and turned me into a toxic person." [via]
10. "He had zero empathy and was not able to put himself in someone else's shoes. He didn't have any real friends, but thought very highly of himself. He was unable to comfort people, he would try but in weird ways like just saying, 'I'm sorry to hear that,' or 'How does that make you feel?'. It was like he copied behaviour from things he'd seen on TV in order to seem normal. He had no regard for other people's time." [via]
11. "In public he was all the stereotypes..charming, good looking, charismatic, etc. Behind closed doors? The most insecure little boy I’d ever met." [via]
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